Ok...I am going to TRY to nutshell this and any feedback would be appreciated. It involves FOURS and ONES.
I am an introverted, artistic Type 4 and have actually tested over 600 people during the course of a decade long study because I was finding patterns within the Enneagram and I wanted to write a book on it, but not until I had tested over 1000 people.
In that time I of course tested all my friends, lovers, family (found that I had A LOT of 5's around me.. seemed to get along with them very well.... though I am with a 7,oddly enough... and have been for nearly as many years.)
I learned to spot certain types well.... HOWEVER.. because I was working on notes for the book, I usually typed "new people" within a week or two of meeting them.. I made a friend in the 90's.. and just in the 3 weeks it took me to have the time to test him, he was rubbing me the wrong way.
He ended up being an extreme Type One. He is the only "Type One" to ever be in my inner circle because I have often tested people I already didn't like and SURPRISE they are a 1 or an 8.
A decade later that male type 1 was stalking me across four states and I had to take out several restraining orders, he would find me no matter where I went. He would send me dozens of letters of love and then the following day 3 letters about what a "fucking disgusting whore" I was... then the following day, 5 letters (handwritten, snail mail) excusing his drunken letters from 'yesterday', I am "a Goddess" and "nobody could ever love me like he did".
You get the picture.. This severe TYPE One was unhealthy and PSYCHO. Since my Type 7 Partner is only a few inches from being 7 feet tall when wearing his boots, the stalker has laid off in recent years, thankfully. (I'm not saying that Type Ones are stalkers. I had a second stalker years later in NYC who I am ashamed to say was a 4, like me, so stalking and type are not connected.)
But here is the bizarre thing: as an introverted 4, I have a few friends that go back YEARS, I am slow to make new ones, and my loyalty and devotion run DEEP.... so my friends, I have known HALF of my life but they are all over the globe now, you know?! So a year ago I met a neighbor... was friendly. Started emailing each other though she lived above me like 9 months ago... and about 6 months ago, we became fast friends.. I walked her dog, watched her kids, you name it (A Four's love and friendship is intense and so she had many crisis's and I was Johnny-on-the-Spot for each and every one of them).
I kept putting off testing her....just never had the time to sit down and do it properly .. I seriously thought she'd be a 2.... it fit.. the niceness.... with the drama when felt unappreciated.... So I tested her.... and she scored as the highest female Type One I have EVER tested... in fact... her Male counterpart was the crazy guy who had stalked me since he was in his 30's and I was 16!!
I was confused.. I have tested 650 plus people... and she, the best female friend I had made in almost a decade... was the ONE TYPE I usually CAN'T STAND?!?! But I brushed it off.... thought maybe I'd retest her later on.. maybe it's different if you were a "healthy female"...
THEN DONNA REED TORE HER FACE OFF and A PSYCHO KILLER was under there!! Seriously, I forgot about it after testing her... her kids had come to call me Aunt Dinah. I started a fundraiser to help her out financially.. everyday she wrote me how she didn't know what she would do without my friendship and I would see what she wanted from the store, we'd take her kids to the library, walk her dog... Keys to each others house (I had hers so I could walk her dog, she had mine after their toilet broke so they could just come in and use the guest bathroom...) Then about 10 days ago, out of the CLEAR BLUE SKY (EXACTLY LIKE With the 'Type 1' Stalker I had), I awoke to 5 or 6 increasingly horrible and bizarre rants, emails, threats, texts, and just crazy s&^T. My husband, his mother, and MY MUM (an actual psychotherapist) said this was Bipolar/Manic Depression to the 10th degree.
I am trying to calm her down and the nicer I am, the more crazy and wild her allegations get until finally, at 3:30 in the MORNING, she is THROWING things at our front door, SCREAMING in our UPSCALE ENCLOSED condo building that she is "praying to god to make me crippled for life so I can't have children" (I walk with a cane right now until I have surgery this summer to fix my back and can't have a family til them... it's a cruel thing to say to a woman collecting baby clothes), that I am a JUNKIE (because I told her to give her 16 year old a break when he got his FIRST GIRLFRIEND because at 16, I was drinking, drugging, AND having sex so he was a GOOD KID!!) and (the worst of them all) she screamed that she was calling the police because my husband was a Pedophile (He's NEVER been alone with her sons... and in fact, he only gets violent about 3 things: people hurting his family, people hurting animals, and people hurting children.... He told me before when we saw a news story about some sicko that "if that ever happens with one of our future kids, I hope you will visit me in jail because I will GLADLY do 5 years for beating a pervert to a pulp!!") So screaming that she prays god makes me a barren cripple forever and that we are Pedophiles and Junkies at close to 4 in the morning... 2 days after I gave her almost 400 to help her pay her rent.....made no sense.
We BEGGED her to PLEASE call the police because we have nothing to hide, just lots of texts and emails from her sounding crazy.. I guess she couldn't get her teenager or 11 year old son to falsely accuse us of anything because no cops were called.
That is just 20 percent of it, but you catch my drift.
I have ONLY been in FEAR for my SAFETY a few times and in two of them, they were by EXTREME and UNHEALTHY Type Ones.
::Disclaimer:: Type Ones, I am NOT saying you are paranoid, insane, or ANYTHING like that AT ALL.. we have good and bad of every type, just like there are good and bad people in every group
However like I said, I have NEVER SEEN such DRAMATIC INSANITY (like following me around four states and finding out where I worked and lived although I was unlisted or being a nice, loving mother and friend in the morning than at night calling me and mine "satanic pedophile junkies" (we don't even drink.))
-something- in a Type One THAT WHEN MIXED/PAIRED with a mental illness or chemical dependency (I suspect both of both people but I am CERTAIN the male was an alcoholic and the female is a pill popper but for "pain" I never see, not for a disorder we are certain is there) can make them Jekyll and Hyde like this?!?
Has ANYBODY experienced an UNHEALTHY one (be it mentally, drugs, whatever) spiral so drastically and quickly?!? Or is this just some bizarre coincidence?!?
LASTLY, AGAIN, Type 1's, I am not implying or saying that your type has such tendencies.... I was just wondering if anyone of this type or close to someone that is a 1 but ALSO has mental or chemical problems has seen this manifest like this before or is it just a creepy coincidence?!?