I've been searching a number of HSP-related websites, including this global forum, and I can't seem to find any discussions generated by Dr. Aron's latest blog, "Let the Market Decide–and You, the “Consumer,” Be Well-informed," found at http://hsperson.com/let-the-market-decide/#comments
More specifically, I am wanting to discuss this part: "...a highly sensitive person should evidence all four characteristics: depth of processing, being easily overstimulated, emotionality that includes a high level of empathy, and being sensitive to subtle stimuli. In particular there are several disorders in which being easily overstimulated is common. But without the other three, it is by definition and by research not the innate trait we are talking about."
I struggle with self-identified HSPs that have demonstrated a lack of emotionality especially empathy and compassion for others. My understanding of the innate high sensitivity trait, by Aron's research, is that if emotionality, along with depth of processing, and being sensitive to subtle stimuli are the "hallmarks" of this trait, then by definition, these self-identified HSPs are not HSPs then. I am aversive to them, in fact, when they speak of "not caring" about other people's feelings, and when they can speak frankly about their opinions about others (making judgments). Does this sound like a highly sensitive person? I am deeply affected when I encounter such people out in society, more so, within the HSP community.
How can I rise above this aversion and embrace HSPs that lack empathy, compassion, and regard for others? I am really struggling with this. Please shed some light here as I'm desperately seeking some wisdom. Thank you.