The Distress and Grace of Impermanence
Whether we like it or not, we have to work with impermanence. And the way we work with it is to respond to change according to what needs to be done. It’s not about how we feel (i.e. frustrated) or what we’re thinking (doom and gloom thoughts). It’s about taking action according to the needs of the situation. We accept the circumstances that we cannot change. We accept the internal reaction we’re having – our feelings and thoughts – that we also cannot change. And we try to simply step back and look clearly: What are the needs of the situation? That’s how we know what to do and when to do it.
It’s not easy: responding to the impermanence of our lives when we’re faced with disappointment, distress, or disaster. And it’s not easy taking action when, inside, we’re fired up with anxiety, fear and anger. But there’s a saving grace in the situation. You know what it is?Impermanence.
The situation you’re faced with will change, evolve, unfold. It always does. The feelings you’re feeling will dissolve, disappear and be replaced by other feelings. They always have. You don’t have to deal with this forever. You don’t have to feel this way forever.If you don’t like what’s happening, rest assured, it will change.If you are pleased with the situation, rest assured, it will change.
Those are the rules. Enjoy the game. Build something. Tear it down. Have fun. It will be over all too soon.
From, The Art of Taking Action: Lessons in Japanese Psychology
by Gregg Krech. http://www.amazon.com/The-Art-Taking-Action-Psychology-ebook/dp/B00PR814K0