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Craig Villarrubia

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In the upcoming documentary A Course in Miracles – Enlightenment or Bust! I got the opportunity to sit down with ACIM Lecturer and Author Jacob Glass. One of the topics we discussed is the “ego’s version of spirituality.”
In the upcoming documentary A Course in Miracles - Enlightenment or Bust! I got the opportunity to sit down with ACIM Lecturer and Author Jacob Glass. One of the topics we discussed is the "ego’s version of spirituality." It appears to be that the thought system of separation often attempts to spiritualize the separate self…
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Craig Villarrubia

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I've know Tom Quattrochi for over 20 years, "coincidently" we both stumbled upon the teachings of A Course in Miracles. I'm excited to join him on this Hangout to discuss the unfoldment of the documentary that we've made and how the Course teaching has transformed our life experience. Come JOYn in!
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Peace of mind might not sound too dramatic, but when you realize it paves the way to security, happiness, and prosperity, it’s worth taking a second look. Before we can have peace, we have to see our ancient love affair with conflict and be willing to change our minds.

As A Course In Miracles asks of us, “Do you want to be right or happy?” We need to become mindful of our choices and the experiences they bring. If we prefer being right, someone or something has to be wrong - and all our trouble begins.

The Course with all its repetitive lessons is about reducing conflict and revealing the peace that is already present as our birthright. Reluctant learners though we are, A Course In Miracles knows how to guide us to peace, and thus, contentment and security. Peace of mind is actually a big deal - don’t dismiss until you’ve tried it!

Carol sends these to my email lately I thought I would share this one

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Hello Everyone! Check out this David Hoffmeister clip from the upcoming documentary A Course in Miracles - Enlightenment or Bust! Learn how you can be part of the movie release:
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Jules Tabak

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(the) mind looking for patterns 
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good one!
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Rev Reja Joy Green

Short Guided Centering on Lesson 198 "Only my condemnation injures me."
ACIM Guided Meditation on Lesson 198 – Rev Reja Joy Green by ACIM_Original
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I have had stillness experiences
where there appeared to be no thoughts

yet there was Understanding and Awareness
so would that to be a level-experience of Thought?

yet when contrasted
with a days preoccupation's

it seems to be an experience of no thought

when this is determined to be so
as an absolute - true

an attitude thus begins to form
as it can become a desirable state to attain

a seeming no thought state
seems to offer escape
from a confusing-conflicting thought system
in an attempt to overcome
achieve advancement

in learning to see through this activity
with Help

Understanding comes
as the Mind is healed
confusion-conflict is undone
not escaped

whatever has been judged
splits Desire
and will set in motion an active purpose
giving rise to a present action of Mind
rejection denial suppression
to keep safe - escape

hide run attack
becomes a fundamental activity
there is virtually no end to the ways
this can be projected in a continuum
of Self deception

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We are surrounded by stillness..... just look up at the sky and see... all madness is contained by stillness...
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Craig Villarrubia

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Today I officially launch a crowdfunding campaign to help fund the movie release and tour of "A Course in Miracles - Enlightenment or Bust!" a documentary..

The movie is about following inspiration…and looking fear in the face to discover it’s illusory nature. The film exposes the dysfunctional pattern of fear based thinking and demonstrates how the choice for love, over fear, reveals to us our true identity as Love.

I invite you to check out the film’s IndieGoGo crowdfunding page. 

If you’re inspired to give, and play a part in the extension of this film and its message, you’re invited to JOYn in and contribute.  Much love, Craig
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I post this excerpt here realizing these habits are the foundation of the egoic thought system.....

Remember, defense mechanisms are most often learned behaviors, most of which we learned during childhood.

That’s a good thing, because it means that, as an adult, you can choose to learn some new behaviors and new defense mechanisms that may be more beneficial to you in your life.

But even becoming more aware of when you’re using one of the less primitive types of defense mechanisms can be helpful in identifying behaviors you’d like to reduce.

“defense mechanisms,” or manners in which we behave or think in certain ways to better protect or “defend” ourselves.

Defense mechanisms are one way of looking at how people distance themselves from a full awareness of unpleasant thoughts, feelings and behaviors.

Most defense mechanisms are fairly unconscious – that means most of us don’t realize we’re using them in the moment.

Some types of psychotherapy can help a person become aware of what defense mechanisms they are using, how effective they are,

The more primitive a defense mechanism, the less effective it works for a person over the long-term.

However, more primitive defense mechanisms are usually very effective short-term, and hence are favored by many people and children especially (when such primitive defense mechanisms are first learned).

Adults who don’t learn better ways of coping with stress or traumatic events in their lives will often resort to such primitive defense mechanisms as well.

Primitive Defense Mechanisms

1. Denial

Denial is the refusal to accept reality or fact, acting as if a painful event, thought or feeling did not exist. It is considered one of the most primitive of the defense mechanisms because it is characteristic of early childhood development. Many people use denial in their everyday lives to avoid dealing with painful feelings or areas of their life they don’t wish to admit. For instance, a person who is a functioning alcoholic will often simply deny they have a drinking problem, pointing to how well they function in their job and relationships.

2. Regression

Regression is the reversion to an earlier stage of development in the face of unacceptable thoughts or impulses. For an example an adolescent who is overwhelmed with fear, anger and growing sexual impulses might become clingy and start exhibiting earlier childhood behaviors he has long since overcome, such as bedwetting. An adult may regress when under a great deal of stress, refusing to leave their bed and engage in normal, everyday activities.

3. Acting Out

Acting Out is performing an extreme behavior in order to express thoughts or feelings the person feels incapable of otherwise expressing. Instead of saying, “I’m angry with you,” a person who acts out may instead throw a book at the person, or punch a hole through a wall. When a person acts out, it can act as a pressure release, and often helps the individual feel calmer and peaceful once again. For instance, a child’s temper tantrum is a form of acting out when he or she doesn’t get his or her way with a parent. Self-injury may also be a form of acting-out, expressing in physical pain what one cannot stand to feel emotionally.

4. Dissociation

Dissociation is when a person loses track of time and/or person, and instead finds another representation of their self in order to continue in the moment. A person who dissociates often loses track of time or themselves and their usual thought processes and memories. People who have a history of any kind of childhood abuse often suffer from some form of dissociation. In extreme cases, dissociation can lead to a person believing they have multiple selves (“multiple personality disorder”). People who use dissociation often have a disconnected view of themselves in their world. Time and their own self-image may not flow continuously, as it does for most people. In this manner, a person who dissociates can “disconnect” from the real world for a time, and live in a different world that is not cluttered with thoughts, feelings or memories that are unbearable.

5. Compartmentalization

Compartmentalization is a lesser form of dissociation, wherein parts of oneself are separated from awareness of other parts and behaving as if one had separate sets of values. An example might be an honest person who cheats on their income tax return and keeps their two value systems distinct and un-integrated while remaining unconscious of the cognitive dissonance.

6. Projection

Projection is the misattribution of a person’s undesired thoughts, feelings or impulses onto another person who does not have those thoughts, feelings or impulses. Projection is used especially when the thoughts are considered unacceptable for the person to express, or they feel completely ill at ease with having them. For example, a spouse may be angry at their significant other for not listening, when in fact it is the angry spouse who does not listen. Projection is often the result of a lack of insight and acknowledgement of one’s own motivations and feelings.

7. Reaction Formation

Reaction Formation is the converting of unwanted or dangerous thoughts, feelings or impulses into their opposites. For instance, a woman who is very angry with her boss and would like to quit her job may instead be overly kind and generous toward her boss and express a desire to keep working there forever. She is incapable of expressing the negative emotions of anger and unhappiness with her job, and instead becomes overly kind to publicly demonstrate her lack of anger and unhappiness.

Less Primitive, More Mature Defense Mechanisms

Less primitive defense mechanisms are a step up from the primitive defense mechanisms in the previous section. Many people employ these defenses as adults, and while they work okay for many, they are not ideal ways of dealing with our feelings, stress and anxiety. If you recognize yourself using a few of these, don’t feel bad – everybody does.

8. Repression

Repression is the unconscious blocking of unacceptable thoughts, feelings and impulses. The key to repression is that people do it unconsciously, so they often have very little control over it. “Repressed memories” are memories that have been unconsciously blocked from access or view. But because memory is very malleable and ever-changing, it is not like playing back a DVD of your life. The DVD has been filtered and even altered by your life experiences, even by what you’ve read or viewed.

9. Displacement

Displacement is the redirecting of thoughts feelings and impulses directed at one person or object, but taken out upon another person or object. People often use displacement when they cannot express their feelings in a safe manner to the person they are directed at. The classic example is the man who gets angry at his boss, but can’t express his anger to his boss for fear of being fired. He instead comes home and kicks the dog or starts an argument with his wife. The man is redirecting his anger from his boss to his dog or wife. Naturally, this is a pretty ineffective defense mechanism, because while the anger finds a route for expression, it’s misapplication to other harmless people or objects will cause additional problems for most people.

10. Intellectualization

Intellectualization is the overemphasis on thinking when confronted with an unacceptable impulse, situation or behavior without employing any emotions whatsoever to help mediate and place the thoughts into an emotional, human context. Rather than deal with the painful associated emotions, a person might employ intellectualization to distance themselves from the impulse, event or behavior. For instance, a person who has just been given a terminal medical diagnosis, instead of expressing their sadness and grief, focuses instead on the details of all possible fruitless medical procedures.

11. Rationalization

Rationalization is putting something into a different light or offering a different explanation for one’s perceptions or behaviors in the face of a changing reality. For instance, a woman who starts dating a man she really, really likes and thinks the world of is suddenly dumped by the man for no reason. She reframes the situation in her mind with, “I suspected he was a loser all along.”

12. Undoing

Undoing is the attempt to take back an unconscious behavior or thought that is unacceptable or hurtful. For instance, after realizing you just insulted your significant other unintentionally, you might spend then next hour praising their beauty, charm and intellect. By “undoing” the previous action, the person is attempting to counteract the damage done by the original comment, hoping the two will balance one another out.

Mature Defense Mechanisms

Mature defense mechanisms are often the most constructive and helpful to most adults, but may require practice and effort to put into daily use. While primitive defense mechanisms do little to try and resolve underlying issues or problems, mature defenses are more focused on helping a person be a more constructive component of their environment. People with more mature defenses tend to be more at peace with themselves and those around them.

13. Sublimation

Sublimation is simply the channeling of unacceptable impulses, thoughts and emotions into more acceptable ones. For instance, when a person has sexual impulses they would like not to act upon, they may instead focus on rigorous exercise. Refocusing such unacceptable or harmful impulses into productive use helps a person channel energy that otherwise would be lost or used in a manner that might cause the person more anxiety.

Sublimation can also be done with humor or fantasy. Humor, when used as a defense mechanism, is the channeling of unacceptable impulses or thoughts into a light-hearted story or joke. Humor reduces the intensity of a situation, and places a cushion of laughter between the person and the impulses. Fantasy, when used as a defense mechanism, is the channeling of unacceptable or unattainable desires into imagination. For example, imagining one’s ultimate career goals can be helpful when one experiences temporary setbacks in academic achievement. Both can help a person look at a situation in a different way, or focus on aspects of the situation not previously explored.

14. Compensation

Compensation is a process of psychologically counterbalancing perceived weaknesses by emphasizing strength in other arenas. By emphasizing and focusing on one’s strengths, a person is recognizing they cannot be strong at all things and in all areas in their lives. For instance, when a person says, “I may not know how to cook, but I can sure do the dishes!,” they’re trying to compensate for their lack of cooking skills by emphasizing their cleaning skills instead. When done appropriately and not in an attempt to over-compensate, compensation is defense mechanism that helps reinforce a person’s self-esteem and self-image.

15. Assertiveness

Assertiveness is the emphasis of a person’s needs or thoughts in a manner that is respectful, direct and firm. Communication styles exist on a continuum, ranging from passive to aggressive, with assertiveness falling neatly inbetween. People who are passive and communicate in a passive manner tend to be good listeners, but rarely speak up for themselves or their own needs in a relationship. People who are aggressive and communicate in an aggressive manner tend to be good leaders, but often at the expense of being able to listen empathetically to others and their ideas and needs. People who are assertive strike a balance where they speak up for themselves, express their opinions or needs in a respectful yet firm manner, and listen when they are being spoken to. Becoming more assertive is one of the most desired communication skills and helpful defense mechanisms most people want to learn, and would benefit in doing so.

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Remember, defense mechanisms are most often learned behaviors, most of which we learned during childhood. That’s a good thing, because it means that, as an adult, you can choose to learn some new behaviors and new defense mechanisms that may be more beneficial to you in your life. Many psychotherapists will help you work on these things, if you’d like. But even becoming more aware of when you’re using one of the less primitive types of defense mechanisms above can be helpful in identifying behaviors you’d like to reduce.

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this is a combination of several posts in an recent interaction

I often find myself in unloveable situations

there is a habit of condemnation- attitude in play
its all twisted - its easy to do
as there is the situation interaction and others involved
no matter how interested I am in allowing
for the ego thought system to be made clear undone
there are entanglements

here is a thought
when one doesn't love what he perceives
he also didn't love what he projected
he doesn't understand

somehow this must be dealt with in some way

in an intellectual way - collapse all of it

- seems a speedy efficient way
- to get rid of the unloveable
- using a stream of thoughts to do so

so basically using the intellect
as a mechanism for denial
in a way to deceive himself
enabling condemnation to continue
and remain unhealed
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Rev Reja Joy Green

Prayer based on Lesson 209, Review of Lesson 189 "I feel the Love of God within me now."
ACIM Guided Prayer on Lesson 209 – Rev Reja Joy Green by ACIM_Original
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Rev Reja Joy Green

"The peace of God is shining in me now." 5 min Opening Guided Centering on Daily Conference Call based on Lesson 208
ACIM Guided Prayer on Lesson 208 – Rev Reja Joy Green by ACIM_Original
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Rev Reja Joy Green

"I want the peace of God"
ACIM Guided Meditation on Lesson 205 – Rev Reja Joy Green by ACIM_Original
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Rev Reja Joy Green

L201 I am not a body. I am free. For I am still as God created me. I trust my brothers who are one with me"
ACIM Guided Centering on Lesson 201 – Rev Reja Joy Green by ACIM_Original
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When the Bible says “Seek and ye shall find,” it does NOT mean that you should seek blindly and desperately for something you wouldn’t recognize.

Meaningful seeking is consciously undertaken, consciously organized, and consciously directed.

B’s chief contribution to your joint venture is his insistence that the goal be formulated clearly, and KEPT IN MIND.

You, Helen, are not good at doing this. You still search for many gods simultaneously, and this goal confusion, given a strong will, MUST produce chaotic behavior.

B’s behavior is not chaotic, because he is not so much goal-divided as not goal-ORIENTED.

Where Helen has overinvested in many goals, B has underinvested in ALL goals.

He has the advantage of POTENTIALLY greater freedom from distractibility, but he does not care enough to use it.

Helen has the advantage of great effort, but she keeps losing sight of the goal.

B has very intelligently suggested that you both should set yourself the goal of really studying for this course.

There can be no doubt of the wisdom of this decision, for any student who wants to pass it.

But, knowing your individual weaknesses as learners and being a teacher with some experience, I must remind you that learning and wanting to learn are inseparable.

All learners learn best when they believe that what they are trying to learn is of value to them.

But values in this world are hierarchical, and not everything you may WANT to learn has lasting value.

Indeed, many of the things you want to learn are chosen because their value will not last. The ego thinks it is an advantage not to commit itself to anything that is eternal, because the eternal MUST come from God.

Eternalness is the one function that the ego has tried to develop, but has systematically failed. It may surprise you to learn that had the ego willed to do so, it COULD have made the eternal, because, as a product of the mind, it IS endowed with the power of its own creator.

But the DECISION to do this, rather than the ABILITY to do it is what the ego cannot tolerate.

That is because the decision, from which the ability would naturally develop, would necessarily involve true perception, a state of clarity which the ego, fearful of being judged truly, MUST avoid.

The results of this dilemma are peculiar, but no more so than the dilemma itself.

The ego has reacted characteristically here as elsewhere, because mental illness, which is ALWAYS a form of ego-involvement, is not a problem of reliability as much as of validity.

The ego compromises with the issue of the eternal, just as it does with all issues that touch on the real question in ANY way. By compromising in connection with all TANGENTIAL questions, it hopes to hide the REAL question and keep it OUT OF MIND. Its characteristic “business” with non-essentials is precisely for that purpose.

Consider the alchemist’s age-old attempts to turn base metal into gold. (This typo was originally “god”). The one question which the alchemist did not permit himself to ask was “What For?”

He COULD not ask this, because it would immediately become apparent that there was no sense in his efforts, even if he succeeded.

The ego has also countenanced some strange compromises with the idea of the eternal, making odd attempts to relate the concept to the unimportant in an effort to satisfy the mind without jeopardizing itself.

Thus, it has permitted many good minds to devote themselves to perpetual MOTION, but NOT to perpetual THOUGHTS.

Ideational preoccupations with conceptual problems set up to be incapable of solution are another favorite ego device for impeding the strong-willed from real progress in learning.

The problems of squaring the circle, and carrying pi to infinity are good examples. A more recent ego-attempt is particularly noteworthy.

The idea of preserving the body by suspension, thus giving it the kind of limited immortality which the ego can tolerate, is among its more recent appeals to the mind.

It is noticeable that in all these diversionary tactics, the ONE question which is NEVER asked by those who pursue them is “What for?”

This is the question which YOU must learn to ask in connection with everything your mind wills to undertake.

What is your purpose?

Whatever it is, you cannot doubt that it will channelize your efforts automatically.

When you make a decision of purpose, then, you HAVE made a decision about future effort, a decision which will remain in effect UNLESS you change the DECISION.

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Hello Everyone...I'm happy to share the first publicly release interview clip from the movie A Course in Miracles - Enlightenment or Bust! In this scene I get an opportunity to sit with Britney Shawley and Tom Glod to speak about living a life lead by "Guidance." Enjoy the video..
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Jules Tabak

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When judgement ceases, all becomes One and the world disappears 
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I enjoyed reading this thread.
thank you all.
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Tara Browne

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Meditative Sketch, ACIM Lesson 153: In my defenselessness, my safety lies.  

Who is safer yet more protected and loved than I?
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