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Eddie Barnett

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Yet searching is inevitable here. For this you came, and you will surely do the thing you came for. But the world can not dictate the goal for which you search unless you give it power to do so. Otherwise, you still are free to choose a goal that lies beyond the world and every worldly thought, and one which comes to you from an idea relinquished yet remembered, old yet new; an echo of a heritage forgot, yet holding everything you really want.

Be glad that search you must. Be glad as well to learn you search for Heaven, and must find the goal you really want. No-one can fail to want this goal, and reach it in the end. God’s Son cannot seek vainly, though he try to force delay, deceive himself, and think that it is hell he seeks. When he is wrong he finds correction, when he wanders off he is led back to his appointed task.
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I was intrigued by the discussion of seeking-- here is my contribution
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Maureen Yarbrough

DAILY LESSONS  - 
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Does anyone else read the epilouge when they're feeling down?
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Oh yes absolutely I feel that Certainty nice reminder thank you if it wasn't for that Certainty I would be less willing less motivated to participate in the Atonement correction undoing process now it just seems so practical and I forget sometimes that others may not have that deep of an awareness

Every day I discover how I compromise and sacrifice in the present or in the past
Which has an effect on the future

I have said more than a few times that we do need support in this undoing process since all habits of compromise and survival have been strengthened over time

it would be easier to allow for the inertia
to continue

I can see how motivation is strengthen

I wouldn't blame anyone for resting a while before caring on

though this resting may incur agitation expressed as frustration with a brother etc

disturbances confusion can be expected as one participates in this undoing process

habits and one's way of life is disturbed defenses are disturbed confusion is bound to come up and a desire to double down attempting to control may also show up this is all part of it it's not comfortable it's not easy it's active participation not the same ole habitual experience of auto pilot as an approach to ones habits is experienced as a way of life
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Cam ACIM

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have you
entertained or believed
a thought such as

I don't matter?
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The basis of how we are looking at this can have a variance here temporarily having a distinct purpose

pointing to an ego and saying what it does and allowing for the undoing within the ego thought system


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Cam ACIM

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This following article encompasses the making and projection of blame-guilt-grievances that causes one to experience suffering and do anything-everything to survive-avoid

Want as part of Desire is not a problem
as an extension of Creation there is no escaping it

if the purpose is based upon a self deception
the effects will be readily recognized with a little willingness

The Miracle depends on this contrast as a corrective device errors are seen for what they are

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https://www.psychologytoday.com

Desire vs. Emotional Need

Even after a lot of self-care, a heart hungry for intimacy may occasionally cry out its longing in anxiety or despair. When that happens, we should not confuse the perfectly natural yearning for a close relationship with an emotional need for one. The best chance of finding freely-given love in a safe relationship is to approach it from desire, not emotional need.

“Freedom to love” is a key phrase. To be free to do something, we must be free not to do it. We are free to love only to the extent that we aren't forced into it in vain attempts to relieve guilt, shame, or fear of abandonment or by misguided efforts to make up for past mistakes or, worst of all, by misinterpreting vulnerable feelings as signals of emotional need.

An emotional need is a preference or desire that you've decided must be gratified to maintain equilibrium, that is, you can’t be well or feel whole without it.

The perception of need begins with a rise in emotional intensity—you feel more strongly about doing this or having that. As the intensity increases, it can feel like you “need” to do or have it, for one compelling reason: It’s the same emotional process as biological need. When emotion suddenly rises, your brain confuses preferences and desires with biological needs. Here’s how it works.

You don’t normally feel anything about breathing, until you have difficulty doing it. At that point, emotional intensity spikes to signal imminent survival threat. Similarly, you normally don’t feel anything when your partner is working on his computer. But if you speak to him, and he seems to ignore you, your emotional intensity is likely to increase, until the desire for his attention seems to be a need for it. Instead of trying to engage your partner’s interest because you desire it, you’ll demand it, because you “need” it or punish her for failing to meet your needs. Now which do you think is more likely to get you the kind of attention you most desire from a loved one, showing interest in him or demanding that she “meet your needs?”

The habit of interpreting preferences and desires as “needs” vastly distorts subjective experience. Emotional intensity can rise and fall for a great many reasons, most of which have little psychological meaning. For instance, your current physiological state (hungry, thirsty, tired, bloated, sick, agitated, hormonal, etc.), as well as the time of day, sudden changes in weather, and the current state of your self-value, influence variations in emotional intensity to a greater extent than most preferences or desires. When you’re starving, exhausted, sick, freezing, or depressed, how loving, appreciative, communicative, safe, secure, etc., can you feel?

Even though the association is largely artificial and accidental, when the increase in emotional intensity stimulates a perception of need, that perception, in turn, increases emotional intensity. In other words, the perception of need becomes self-reinforcing: “I feel it, therefore, I need it, and if I need it, I have to feel it more.”

This self-perpetuating feature of the perception of need is predominantly unconscious. The way it gathers conscious strength is by falsely explaining negative experience. For example, if I perceive myself to have emotional needs, and I feel bad in any way for any reason, it's because my needs aren't being met. It doesn't matter that I'm tired, not exercising, bored, ineffective at work, or stressed from the commute or the declining stock market, or, most important, whether I'm mistreating you or otherwise violating my deeper values; the reason I feel bad is that you're not meeting my needs.

Once the brain becomes convinced that it needs something, pursuit of it can easily become obsessive, compulsive, or addictive. In terms of motivation, perceived emotional needs are quite similar to addictions. My clients who think they have strong emotional needs almost always begin treatment with descriptions of their relationships that sound a lot more like addiction than desire:

“I can’t live without her.”

“I shake all over when he’s gone.”

“It’s like heaven when he’s nice to me.”

One client actually said, “She’s my drug. I can’t face the day without a dose of her.”

While the body contributes on a cellular level to addiction, the mind decides exclusively that we have an emotional need. The feeling can become so powerful that it makes us believe we have holes within us that someone else must fill. That’s a tragic—and false—assumption that almost always leads to bad relationships. No one has holes within, only drives to create value.

Big Holes Attract Small Cups

If you believe you have holes within, you will almost certainly attract a partner with a small cup to fill them. Here’s why.

For one thing, people with big cups, i.e., a lot of love to give, don’t look for partners with big holes. They want partners who also have big cups, who can give as much as they get in a relationship. But if I perceive myself to have a small cup, i.e., not much to give, I’ll be attracted to someone who thinks she has big holes, because her “emotional needs” will inspire me to become her rescuer or hero or whatever need she projects. Of course, I won’t be able to uphold the role of giver or rescuer for very long, because they’re so unnatural for me. Eventually I’ll condemn her for the very “needs” that first attracted me: “Nobody could meet your needs; you’re insatiable!”

When "I love you," Degenerates into "Meet my needs!"

No matter how seductive "I need you," may sound in popular songs, the partner who “needs” you cannot freely love you. Most of the painful conflicts of intimate relationships begin with one partner making an emotional request—motivated by a perceived "need"—that the other, motivated by a different "need," regards as a demand. This is the classic relationship dynamic known as demand-withdraw: The more one partner demands, the less the other can give; the more one pleads, the farther away the other retreats. Both feel like victims. Indeed, any disagreement can feel like abuse when the perceived "need" of one to be validated crashes headlong into the "need" of the other not to feel manipulated:

"If you loved me, you'd do what I want (or see the world the way I do)," one argues.

"If you loved me, you wouldn't try to control me," the other counters.

“If you loved me, you would do this.”

“If you loved me, you wouldn’t ask me to do that.”

As long as they perceive themselves to have emotional needs that their partners must gratify, their desire to love is reduced to "Getting my needs met," which the partner perceives as, "I have to give up who I am to meet your needs."

The best way to avoid this kind of entanglement that leads almost inevitably to some form of intimate betrayal is to build relationships on desire and mutual values, rather than perceived emotional need.

Living and Loving after Betrayal


https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/anger-in-the-age-entitlement
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I had forwarded a friend this article he wrote back commenting on the last paragraph...

of course this would seem sound advice...
unless One is particpating in undoing-forgiving the ego thought system through the use of Miracles
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Brendan Rehman

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Lesson 12.
I am upset because I see a meaningless world.

The importance of this idea lies in the fact that it contains a correction for a major perceptual distortion. You think that what upsets you is a frightening world, or a sad world, or a violent world, or an insane world. All these attributes are given it by you. The world is meaningless in itself.

---- WARNING -- If you hate cuss words don't read any further.

Read that first paragraph. I read it and all I can think is "Fuck", Holy Fucking Shit! You think that what upsets you is a frightening world. "Fuck" Thats 12 days into this course. Ok done cussing. :)

Peace, Love and Blessings.

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The world is NOT meaningless --- but I value the interpretation that leads to meaningless. What if instead i value the HS interpretation. What would be different? A LOT
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Brendan Rehman

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T-31. V. 7. Concepts are learned. They are not natural. Apart from learning they do not exist. They are not given, so they must be made. Not one of them is true, and many come from feverish imaginations, hot with hatred and distortions born of fear. What is a concept but a thought to which its maker gives a meaning of his own?

Then connect this lesson from the text with Workbook Lesson 11. My meaningless thoughts are showing me a meaningless world.

WOW!! There is so much in every line of this course.

Peace, Love and Blessings,
Brendan
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Correction that's Self Concept vs Self.
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Maureen Yarbrough

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Brendan Rehman

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I've been watching Mr Robot on USA and he said this in an episode:

How do we know if we're in control? That we're not just making the best of what comes at us and that's it? And trying to constantly pick between two shitty options. Like your two paintings in the waiting room. Or Coke and Pepsi. McDonald's or Burger King? Hyundai or Honda?

It dawns on me that we've been given 2 choices in everything we see in the dream world and these choices keep us from making the ultimate choice between ego and Holy Spirit. If you're choosing Coke over Pepsi, Honda of Hyundai or McDonalds over Burger King the last thing on your mind is ego over Holy Spirit. What a setup it is! 
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That's why the ego likes opposites. Is it good or bad? I don't like bad, so I want to chose the opposite. Well how lucky it is then that the ego also created the opposite of bad in this concept of good.

In this manner, the ego creates many examples of opposites, so that whenever we want to chose the opposite of an illusion, there is another illusion to fill that desire. Examples go on almost indefinitely. Good vs. bad, black vs. white, male vs. female, etc.. All the while we are forgetting that these seemingly opposite illusions are all the same.

All thoughts are true, or not true. In that respect there is no middle ground, no neutral thoughts. While the ego has us distracted with its idea of opposites, it directs our minds away from the awareness that all of its options are simply not true, allowing us to forget the awareness of what is true.
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Craig Villarrubia

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It’s beyond words, the JOY, the LOVE and the sharing <3 that unfolds at this gathering :) This is our third year sponsoring this event! We’d love for you to come along and play with us! If you have not yet checked out our event page, visit: www.miracleshareconference.org AND we invite you to CHECK OUT THIS video invitation. If you like it, let us know by liking, commenting or sharing! Discount tickets available until 8/31 and there are scholarships for those in need! Register! #ACIM #MiracleShareConference #ACourseinMiracles David Hoffmeister David Fishman Myron Jones Jennifer Hadley Bill Free Lisa Natoli Kirsten Buxton Alan Cohen Corinne Zupko Danielle Scruton Bridget Trama Amy Torres Bob Rosenthal Carly Glasmyre Haas Bruce Rawles Carrie Triffet Kathy Scott Perry José Lorenzo Rodríguez Coreen R. Walson John Mark Stroud Cindy Lora-Renard Jon Mundy Mary Gerard Lenihan Maria Felipe Michael Murray Love you!!!
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Looking forward to year #3 of a very fun and worthwhile online conference! :-) Kudos to Craig, Corinne, and Danielle for hosting these! :-)
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Anne-Marie Valton
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Amazingly clear - how to fall in love with the now, and stop the searching.
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When I am in the moment, in acceptance - I see differently.
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Cam ACIM

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Exploring who you are at a deeper level than your everyday thoughts is the true definition of meditation. Deepak Chopra
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I dont know what you might think of as everyday thoughts
level of creation thoughts
level of experience of effects
level of reactive-reaction thoughts

look for cause -reason why
find cause -point -blame -project

who hasnt felt like a victim

the participation
making of the authority problem
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Jules Tabak

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What attracts me in the course is it's practical attitude.

It offers insights and practical suggestions what one can do (practise) to experience our link to truth (source) by intervention (communication) of the Holy Spirit

Like i just have to say (do): today i will make no decisions of my own....

this can lead to an experience of something we did not foresee or direct ourselves, often this "direct experience" feels like a miracle, it provides just what we "need" at the right place and time.....

that, to me, is the beauty of the course a stepping stone to a direct (connection) experience

using the course as a mental reference is what my ego loves, but by doing so it denies me the experience to live a miracle and i will be stuck in my own concepts....

here i encounter the universal themes like "discernment", "attachment" and "atonement" 
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PRAYER REQUEST~please pass it around.....
Joie"
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It was great to JOYn with Mighty Companion David Hoffmeister and discuss ACIM and Nonduality. Enjoy the video!

https://youtu.be/7nwAipxF_Ak
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Brendan Rehman

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Work your way backwards... Start at Lesson 25 and go back to 24, then 23 as you review the courses meta-physics.

Lesson 25
I do not know what anything is for.

Purpose is meaning. Today’s idea explains why nothing you see means anything. You do not know what it is for. Therefore, it is meaningless to you. Everything is for your own best interests. That is what it is for; that is its purpose; that is what it means. It is in recognizing this that your goals become unified. It is in recognizing this that what you see is given meaning.

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What this means is that everything you see, read, hear and experience is for you. Its not done "to" you, its for "You". How wonderful is that. The pain, fear, guilt, hate, sadness is all for You to Heal.

Peace, Love and Blessings.

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The meaning of win can be different than we think sometimes:
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That's right. Seeing it for what it is is the challenge.
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Maureen Yarbrough

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Craig Villarrubia

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The Awareness of Grace (God) at work, is witnessed by the mind as it becomes more and more willing to take its hands “off the wheel,” let go and let God…(in everything we seem to do.) That is the core teaching behind ACIM’s practice of consulting with the Holy Spirit first, before making any decision. This willingness is not something that happens in time, but rather right now and in each successive instant. Enjoy the post!

http://www.craigvillarrubia.com/2016/08/14/the-holy-instant-is-closer-to-you-then-your-next-breath/
Being introduced to the idea of the Holy Instant, when I started ACIM, I felt uncertain about what it was. I wanted to know what it symbolized.
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