My 2 year old (29 months) is going to kill me. Baby #2 is 2.5 months old, and sleep woes are setting in. She has never fought bedtime, but is now difficult to settle most nights. She has a twilight turtle that projects stars and shuts off after 45 minutes, so she now calls us after 45 minutes to turn it back on, so it seems to be taking her a while to fall asleep. She is still in her crib, takes a 2 hour nap most days, and is in bed from 7:30/8 PM till 7am.
Then, many nights she cries out for us, wanting water and the "stars" back on. On the worst nights, like tonight, she'll be up for several hours at a time, calling out for "stars" every 45 minutes. My newborn doesn't sleep more than two hours at a time yet, so when my 2yo is up, it means no sleep at all for me. Baby possibly wakes her up sometimes as well (he's in his own room).
I don't really know what to do. Obviously we could eliminate some problem by getting rid of the"stars", but I'm worried about why she's laying awake for hours. I don't want to ignore her, because I think she needs lots of reassurance with new baby. Should I assume she's manipulating us and trying to get attention, or that she can't sleep?
I think my options are:
1) try to get rid of twilight turtle (stars), or only allow once at bedtime. This will be disastrous, she is very attached.
2) put the turtle in bed with her so that she can turn it on herself. I'm worried it will keep her from sleeping as she plays with it. Similarly, put a water bottle in her crib.
3) try to teach her what to do when she can't sleep. Every night we remind her to close her eyes, lay down, etc . Should we give her a light she can turn on and read if she can't sleep? Ideas?
Basically, I definitely want her to not wake us up. I'd also like her to sleep. Any ideas welcome :-)