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Take part on "Orange Your Neighborhood" Campaign, as presented by the United Nation's Secretary General (http://endviolence.un.org/orangeday.shtml) and their ongoing ORANGE DAYS CAMPAIGN (http://endviolence.un.org/pastdays.shtml).

"ORANGE YOUR NEIGHBORHOOD" is from November 25th - December 10, 2014.


Join Domestic Violence Voices for year around support for sharing your voices.  http://facebook.com/DomesticViolenceVoices 
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Yvette C.

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This is a good song that many of us can relate to, I'm sure.
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Under Her Brim

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Thank you for welcoming me. Preciouslyfe (now My Tattered Brim) please stop by and share/discuss @underherbrim #underherbrim
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Lidia LoPinto

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Article on Linked In about the legacy left on adults who suffered from domestic violence and how it affects their lives.
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Jane Hammond

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This program is useful for those who may be experiencing non-physical 'violence' - i.e. psychological, emotional, social. We can all be manipulative, demanding, selfish and, yes, aggressive, but this is something else. Perpetrators are unlikely to listen to this, but it could help the victims. It focuses on men vs women in domestic situations, but is equally applicable to women vs men, and - even more importantly - adults vs children. The questions below elaborate on some of the issues raised in this program and other sources:

Does your partner or parent [p/p] expect unquestioning compliance with their wishes and alignment with their opinions? Do they become angry or passively aggressive when you don't comply or agree? Are they unwilling to compromise, empathise or respect your viewpoint? Do they demand respect from you? Are they rude, contemptuous or mocking towards you, but furious if anyone behaves that way towards them?

Do you feel your p/p doesn't take your ambitions or career seriously? Do you feel unable to express yourself or be yourself? Do you doubt your ability to live independently of your p/p? Do you find it difficult to make a decision without deferring to them? Are you expected to fit in with their life? Do they set the agenda? Do they hold your hand to an inappropriate degree or at an inappropriate age? Do they accompany you wherever you go or need to know where you are? Do they become angry or passively aggressive or contemptuous when you choose to take time out? Do you feel unable to take time out?

Does your p/p promise you good things that never materialise? Do they drip-feed you with small 'treats' and expect you to gush with gratitude? Are you expected to want and ask for nothing for yourself? Have they ever attacked or threatened to take away something that's precious to you? Have they betrayed you and then blamed you for their betrayal?

Do you feel nervous when your p/p is around? Do you constantly question and blame yourself, against your better judgement? Do you find yourself saying or doing things that are out of character to please them? Have they pressurised you into doing things that make you feel bad (even when they know how you feel?). Does it seem as if you're walking on eggshells around your p/p? Are you nervous about saying or doing something they won't like?

Does your p/p criticise you, your friends, and your decisions on a regular basis? Do they swing from gushing over you to passive aggressive sulking? Do they suddenly 'turn' for no apparent reason? Do you often find it difficult to understand what your 'crime' is? Do they tell you what you're thinking? Do you often feel shame after a negative interaction with them? Do they return to normal quickly, leaving you feeling low?

How do your friends feel around your p/p? Do your friends avoid them? Does your p/p try to destabilise your support network by undermining / discrediting other people who have influence or authority in your life: your close friends / other parent / counsellor / teachers? Does your p/p try to maintain control of your finances? Do they object when you spend money on yourself without their permission? Do they control/restrict your communication with the outside world (phone, online)? Do they prevent you from having any privacy?

Are you anxious much of the time? Do you have chronic, unexplained physical symptoms such as stomach pains or headaches? Does your p/p say you are overly sensitive or question your mental stability? Do they put on an impressive show to the outside world of being loving and then punish/criticise you behind closed doors?

If the answer to most (or indeed any) of these questions is 'yes', please take better care of yourself. You don't have to stop loving your p/p but you don't have to accept this treatment either. Feel for them, try to understand them, be there for them, but don't be a victim and know that they are highly unlikely to change.

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Domestic violence is a crime that, in the vast majority of cases, is committed by men.

What do we really know about men who abuse their partners and how they do it?

Jess Hill probes the disturbing psychology of domestic violence.

Background Briefing | http://ab.co/1Jdi1zV
A man bashing a woman is the domestic violence stereotype, but just as typical is the man who uses other forms of abuse to exert control over his partner. Jess Hill entered the lives of perpetrators and their partners to investigate the cycle of violence.
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Thank you Jane for sharing this very informative piece! It was spot on with the check list. Could see my own situation in nearly every point! 
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Shawna Bering

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I'm tired of being nice to someone all because we have a daughter together how dare I get an email from his fiancee saying he never wanted a relationship with me are for our daughter to be born just don't know what to do if I cut off visits it will make me look bad 
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I been protecting my daughter even after cps told me don't allow this woman near my child 
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Ziva Kay

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Hi All, just joined this community. I have shed a lot of tears...they still keep coming and the only way I can let them out through writing with the hope that it might help someone out there.
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I feel your intense overwhelming sorrow. My tears only subside when i my sorrow morphs into uncontrollable rage. My ribs are broken. Bumps on my head. I am homeless and sleep on the street. Happiness is so rare for me. 
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Denise Hack

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Look for your angels! 
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Cindy Kane

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Was contacted through LinkedIn by this wonderful site called "Damsel in Defense"  Check it out!
http://www.mydamselpro.net/mikeandtina 
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We started on facebook and we keep growing. We're expanding our reach now, especially since we know that we've been missing a subset of folks that really don't like being on facebook. Created/founded by Kathryn Krastin in Austin, TX, but we have at times really a global reach and would love to keep expanding. :)
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So true on all five counts.
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renee pierre

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don't be silenced let us help avoid domestic violence.
#avoidomestic_violence   #fpcsocialmedia  
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Nobody deserves to be abused in any way, physically, emotionally, spiritually, or verbally.
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Michele Knicely

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Please Share ..... "Hope" and her children need our help . Please let's pass it along and get her and her children out of a dangerous situation ! Thank You and God Bless! 
I am not going to use her name, I will just refer to her as Hope.  Hope is a caring, nurturing mother of four who has been subjected to years of emotional abuse by her husband.  She is reaching the end of her rope and is trying to gather the courage to leave him. I love Hope dearly as a friend an...
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Debbie Jayne

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Thank you for sharing the number, I am sure it will be used.
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Michael Burnz

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this is a song about freedom in being yourself. yes it's mine but i wrote it for such as this "made in the image of God, u are beautiful"  don't let anyone make u put a mask on. God Bless my friends ! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dIdpSDYLKHg
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Debbie Jayne

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T. R. Robinson

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Hello, I have just joined this group and wanted to share my latest blog post: 'Are you in an abusive relationship?'.  I hope it will help some.
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Cindy Kane

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Our mission is to inspire victims and survivors of domestic violence, child abuse, and sexual assault by breaking the silence and empowering these individuals to embark into new beginnings for a healthy self-sufficient future.
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