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No matter where you live the country, if you read nothing else today, read this phenomenal story by Cynthia Hubert of The Sacramento Bee. She hits on mental illness, healthcare, and how some states cut budgets by 'dumping' patients across state lines. Absolutely prize-winning level journalism filled with in-depth research, background info, and facts-facts-facts! http://sacb.ee/nvdump
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Most Americans have never read the Declaration of Independence, you should read (or re-read) it today! http://bit.ly/july41776 -- http://some.ly/M6x2qu
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What a great morning! Drinking my Peet's Coffee, wearing my old Central Park running shirt for the crisp 34 degree perfect weather, and reading about the Relationship Skills Center in the Old Gray Lady, the newspaper of record, The New York Times :) http://nyti.ms/nytrsc
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Be sure to pick up a copy of this Sunday's New York Times! The Sacramento based Relationship Skills Center is featured on page ST22 (Styles/Wedding section).
After hardships, eight couples, all former students of a family program aimed at teaching relationship skills, marry in a multiple-wedding day in California.
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Good column by Duke Professor Dan Ariely on asking the right questions: "...we need to spend more time helping people understand and deal with complexity and less time concocting dumbing-down mechanisms"
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My thoughts on Django Unchained
P.S.: It's O.K. if you loved the movie, this is just my own personal take...

Django Unchained possessed all the elements to be a great film, a rare one featuring strong black characters set against the background of slavery’s filth. Instead, director Quentin Tarantino opted for a cheap emotional play, where deep-seated feelings about slavery are manipulated for quick laughs and entertainment.

As a fan of Tarantino films, I looked forward to watching his version of black characters on screen that didn’t follow the tired Hollywood ‘Save-a-Negro’ formula of whites rescuing blacks, such as The Blind Side, The Help, Dangerous Minds, et al. He missed an opportunity to showcase Jamie Foxx’s Django as a towering man of strength who would walk through fire for his wife Broomhilda (played Kerry Washington). Rather than explore that angle of love and passion, we’re introduced to a preening blue peacock atop a horse.

When the film did attempt to show the depth of evil in slavery, such as the forced Mandingo death fight scene in front of Calvin “Big Daddy” Candie (Leonardo DiCaprio), the metallic headwear worn by slaves, or a slave being fed to dogs for sport, the overuse of violence served only to reduce the scenes to unwatchable smut.

To deliver this slavery mocking smut fest, Tarantino tapped three actors who some would regard as black community royalty. It’s as if he knew he would need Foxx, Washington and Samuel L. Jackson as a shield for this shameful script. While watching the film I found myself searching for excuses to explain Tarantino’s actions, and then I realized I was really in search of an excuse for myself, an excuse that would explain my support for such trash.

The love story between Django and his wife was never fully developed; therefore the revenge level seemed disconnected. There was no redemptive value in movie, and I found it to be intellectually insulting to blacks. The ‘Kill Whitey’ narrative held no cathartic value for me as a black man, and only works if one assumes all black people hold hate and resentment in their heart for whites. Unlike Alex Haley’s Roots, this film didn’t seek to create a dialogue around healing, but functions only as an outlet to inflict harm and create strife.
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Great relationship advice from Herbert and Zelmyra Fisher of North Carolina (http://bit.ly/married86yrs), married nearly 86 years. At age 104 and 101 respectively, they hold the Guinness World Record for the longest marriage of a living couple. Read their tips on staying together, and Mrs. Fisher's tips on finding the right mate.
Meet Herbert and Zelmyra Fisher of North Carolina. They have been married 85 years (86 in May) and hold the Guinness World Record for the longest marriage of a living couple and get this…. Zelmyra is ...
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1. What made you realize that you could spend the rest of your lives together? Were you scared at all?

H & Z: With each day that passed, our relationship was more solid and secure.Divorce was NEVER an option – or even a thought.

2. How did you know your spouse was the right one for you?

We grew up together & were best friends before we married. A friend is for life – our marriage has lasted a lifetime

3. Is there anything you would do differently after more than 80 years of marriage?

We wouldn’t change a thing. There’s no secret to our marriage, we just did what was needed for each other & our family.

4. What is your advice to someone who is trying to keep the faith that Mr. Right is really out there?

Zelmyra: Mine was just around the corner! He is never too far away, so keep the faith – when you meet him, you’ll know.

5. What was the best piece of marriage advice you ever received?

Respect, support & communicate with each other.Be faithful, honest & true.Love each other with ALL of your heart

6. What are the most important attributes of a good spouse?

Zelmyra: A hard worker & good provider.The 1920s were hard,but Herbert wanted & provided the best for us.I married a good man!

7. What is your best Valentine’s Day memory?

Zelmyra: I cook dinner EVERY day.Herbert left work early & surprised me – he cooked dinner for me! He is a VERY good cook!

Herbert: I said that I was going to cook dinner for her & she could relax – the look on her face & clean plate made my day!

8. You got married very young – how did u both manage to grow as individuals yet not grow apart as a couple?

“Everyone who plants a seed & harvests the crop celebrates together” We are individuals, but accomplish more together.

9. What is your fondest memory of your 85-year marriage?

Our legacy: 5 children, 10 grandchildren, 9 great-grandchildren, and 1 great-great grandchild.

10. Does communicating get easier with time? How do you keep your patience?

The children are grown, so we talk more now. We can enjoy our time on the porch or our rocking chairs – together.

11. How did you cope when you had to be physically separated for long periods of time?

Herbert: We were apart for 2 months when Z was hospitalized with our 5th child. It was the most difficult time of my life. Zelmyra’s mother helped me with the house and the other children, otherwise I would have lost my mind.

12. At the end of bad relationship day, what is the most important thing to remind yourselves?

Remember marriage is not a contest – never keep a score. God has put the two of you together on the same team to win

13. Is fighting important?

NEVER physically! Agree that it’s okay to disagree, & fight for what really matters. Learn to bend – not break!

14. What’s the one thing you have in common that transcends everything else?

We are both Christians & believe in God.Marriage is a commitment to the Lord.We pray with & for each other every day.
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Here is short video about what we do at the Relationship Skills Center. You'll hear two references to the "Healthy Marriage Project" which is our old name. http://youtu.be/wG3t8JhoS50
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Here is a copy of an interview I did 3 years ago with my friend Jim Bellacera who was starting up a new venture. What's interesting is how much life and the economy has changed since its filming, and that the Philippines experiment we discuss led to a current opportunity in another country. Life rarely runs in a straight line, and it's fascinating to see where decisions can take you.
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    BA, Political Science and International Relations
  • Beijing Language and Culture University
    Mandarin Language Study
  • Drexel University
    MBA, Marketing
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