Children who help or volunteer are less prone to developing risk taking behaviors. One research study, conducted by the Search Institute, examines the lives of 47,000 children in 5th through 12th grades across the United States (Benson & Roehlkepartain, 1993). The study indicates that children who volunteer just one hour or more a week were less likely to have at-risk behaviors, and tend to have a more optimistic outlook on life. Even children who are coerced to help or volunteer are more likely to grow up to be adults who demonstrate empathy and compassion. Communities with many volunteers are more stable and peaceful places to live, which in turn encourages others to volunteer. Whatever the reason, helping especially in terms of volunteering services improves the health, happiness, and in some cases longevity.
Rules for Helping Anyone
Examine the sincere desire to help verses feeling as if this is a commitment, or a life calling.
Only listen to what is being said, without reacting to fixing the problem.
Focus on the emotions until this person can problem solve