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Kelly Graham
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I am many things to many people, and everything to one :)
I am many things to many people, and everything to one :)

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Kelly Graham commented on a post on Blogger.
You both bring up interesting points. I remember being told I was a bad lesbian back when I was in a monogamous homosexual relationship in Portland. It wasn't because I was abusive or misogynistic but because I refused both to bow to the stereotypes (particularly misanthropic) that the community required and to condemn those who also defied those limitations. I was a lesbian in practice but not in the spirit of that community, and eventually I separated from it.

I am bisexual and poly. I grew up poly. I identified as poly when I was celibate and consider my relationships poly even when they are non-sexual. I've never read a book on it because I decided I didn't want someone else telling me I was doing it wrong. It's also why I've never listened to Minx's podcast.

I was a member of the poly community in Portland for 4 years but you won't find a single person there who could claim to have been my lover. My poly relationships there were intimate and fulfilling but not sexual. I still consider many there part of my "poly pod" (Brian and his wife being two of them). For me, its about maintaining multiple, intimate, loving relationships--not sex. Some would tell me I am doing it wrong, I am sure, which is very sad.

All that said, I think there are two cases in which a community has the responsibility to tell someone that they are "doing it wrong": 1) when that someone is presenting him/herself as an emissary of the community to newbies, the media, etc and that community believes s/he is misrepresenting the core values and behaviors of that community, and, 2) when that person is using his/her being a member of the community as an excuse to behave badly or harm others. That's it.

Wishing you love, happiness, and peace.
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Everything you’ve ever wanted is on the other side of fear.
–George Addair
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What a great day for the gathering of friends and peaches! Lots of good conversation, sweet fruit, and wonderful people.
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I recognize that the conflict between a woman's right to self-determination and fetal right to life is one that is so fraught with emotions and so clouded with religious and moral passions that any decision I arrive at that is not soundly based upon the law of the land (ie The Constitution) iss both relative and subjective and can only be reasonably applied to myself. In sum, I've come to realize that our individual convictions don't matter -- the only response to abortion that really matters to us as a society is one based on The Constitution.
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