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Kelly Graham
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So a lot of women are pissed off by what they see as men trying to interject their thoughts and feelings into the ‪#‎YesAllWomen‬ stream. "They've had thousands of years to talk. Its their turn to listen," as one woman put it...
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Oh, wow. That's a great article you linked to. A lot of the conversations I have about these things seem to cycle through some of the same spots in a really annoying way, and I think this lays out some of the reasons why in a really clear and thorough way.
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You both bring up interesting points. I remember being told I was a bad lesbian back when I was in a monogamous homosexual relationship in Portland. It wasn't because I was abusive or misogynistic but because I refused both to bow to the stereotypes (particularly misanthropic) that the community required and to condemn those who also defied those limitations. I was a lesbian in practice but not in the spirit of that community, and eventually I separated from it.

I am bisexual and poly. I grew up poly. I identified as poly when I was celibate and consider my relationships poly even when they are non-sexual. I've never read a book on it because I decided I didn't want someone else telling me I was doing it wrong. It's also why I've never listened to Minx's podcast.

I was a member of the poly community in Portland for 4 years but you won't find a single person there who could claim to have been my lover. My poly relationships there were intimate and fulfilling but not sexual. I still consider many there part of my "poly pod" (Brian and his wife being two of them). For me, its about maintaining multiple, intimate, loving relationships--not sex. Some would tell me I am doing it wrong, I am sure, which is very sad.

All that said, I think there are two cases in which a community has the responsibility to tell someone that they are "doing it wrong": 1) when that someone is presenting him/herself as an emissary of the community to newbies, the media, etc and that community believes s/he is misrepresenting the core values and behaviors of that community, and, 2) when that person is using his/her being a member of the community as an excuse to behave badly or harm others. That's it.

Wishing you love, happiness, and peace.
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If you won’t trust your doctors on vaccinating your kids, will you ever really trust them at all?
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It's been a busy few months and I've not kept up with the blog very well, so what follows is my attempt to remedy that by summarizing the summer's activities and how the Little Man developed over the course of it.   Little M...
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My Little Man is One year old!
The Little Man is one year old now. When I look at photos of him from his birthday I realize that he's not a baby anymore. He's a little boy. He's been walking for about 6 weeks now, and he's become much more interactive. Now...
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It's taken me 3 weeks to write this. It's crazy. I used to be able to churn out five thousand words a day when I wanted to. Not anymore. Being a stay at home mom to a 10 month old without family nearb...
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Everything you’ve ever wanted is on the other side of fear.
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What a great day for the gathering of friends and peaches! Lots of good conversation, sweet fruit, and wonderful people.
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I recognize that the conflict between a woman's right to self-determination and fetal right to life is one that is so fraught with emotions and so clouded with religious and moral passions that any decision I arrive at that is not soundly based upon the law of the land (ie The Constitution) iss both relative and subjective and can only be reasonably applied to myself. In sum, I've come to realize that our individual convictions don't matter -- the only response to abortion that really matters to us as a society is one based on The Constitution.
The only response to abortion that matters is one based on The Constitution. My position on the abortion issue is complicated and seemingly paradoxical. It is informed by my status as a preacher's grandkid and ordained minist...
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I miss passion. I miss feeling like a juicy, ripe piece of fruit aching to be picked. And eaten. I miss the flirtation and the urgency and the flat out need. I miss feeling the answer to my longing in my partner. But I'm too ...
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I'd be lying if I said that the transition from being cheerfully childless to motherhood has been a smooth one. My life is so radically different that is almost as if I woke up in an alternate univers...
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Writer and voice-actor. Web content developer.
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    2009 - present
  • Automatic Data Processing
    Certified Payroll Professional, 1999 - 2008
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I am many things to many people, and everything to one :)
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I am an adventurous autodidact. I'll try anything twice if I think I'll learn something from it. Now I'm trying motherhood. Once.
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  • Smith College
    Biology/Biochemistry, 1992 - 96
  • Santa Maria High School
    1986
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Rewriting Motherhood
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You think you have not changed until something happens.....
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I got to witness my new self this week. Changes in running are just like your children growing. One is fairly unaware of the growth of your

Tapping into my inner BRAVE
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I was at mile 4.5 of my 5-mile run and every time I passed someone on my path I could not stop thinking about the fact that every part of my

Super Hexagon
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West Virginia Trilogy -50K
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Restrooms! Baseball diamond and other playing fields. Two gated play areas for smaller children to play in that get shade in the afternoon, and a swimming pool open in summer. The recreational center offers programs for everyone: preschoolers, teenagers, and adults. The parking lot is fairly large, too. Been coming here for nearly three years and never had a problem: it is safe, clean, and everyone is polite/friendly.
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I really like this place. The food is comparable with all the other Japanese places in town (there are 3 others across the street!) and the only reason I don't eat here more is my husband prefers the atmosphere at Izakaya Mai (even though the food there isn't as good, IMHO).
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Japanese version of Korean BBQ. Many cuts of meat and some fish, lots of sauces and veggie options. There is a little grill in the center of the table. You put your raw slices of seasoned meat on the grill for a couple of minutes, then move to a dish with your dipping sauces. I really like the butterfish. My husband loves the filet mignon. A good variety of cooked appetizers and alcoholic beverages. This place is always busy so call ahead for a reservation or be prepared to wait 45 mins to an hour
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Our go-to place for rolls.
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Great unique dishes, very good sushi, good rolls. Tremendous sushi boats. Nice atmosphere, attentive staff--roomy enough to accommodate families with strollers. They have free parking across the street, second floor.
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Great burgers and salads. They often have specialty ground meats like lamb and buffalo for burgers, too. Good chicken sandwiches. I like the sliders (mini burgers) so I can choose a couple different types of burger at a reasonable price. Full service bar, too, and a sophisticated atmosphere.
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Authentic Italian food, like Grandma Stallone used to make. This means the flavors are muted compared to the over-blown, over-seasoned versions of "Italian" that Americans have gotten used to at the chain restaurants. Nice ambiance, good wine list.
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