You are a unique individual. None is like you in the world. You have a wonderful blend of amazing abilities and qualities combined in a distinctive and exceptional way. Spend some time getting to know yourself. It will CHANGE your perspective in life and the way you handle yourself and life in general.
As a real authentic man the best thing you can do for your life is ensure you have strong firm boundaries in place that will protect yourself, your wife and kids. Putting those things in place in my life has helped me feel safe, as well as put my family first and establish with others I am not someone you mess with when it comes to boundaries.