Last week I read Dork Whore, Iris Bahr's memoir about traveling to Asia, fresh out of the Israeli army, to try to morph from a "pseudo-virgin" to a "non-virgin."  She meets lots of guys, so it is surprising how long this takes and how many failed attempts there are. 

It turns out that one reason it takes a long time is that Iris -- as she realizes in the course of her travels -- is kind of a self-absorbed pain in the ass.  You might have thought even a self-absorbed pain in the ass would have no trouble hooking up as long as she was young and cute, but that turns out not to be true, at least in this case. 

It just goes to show:  the different techniques for getting in your own way and screwing things up are so multiple and varied, you'll never think of half of them. 
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