This post is inspired by +Mel Pence
and her own thoughts/writings on this similar subject.
I want to take a moment to talk about Love.
I have a friend who has, in times, been like a brother to me. We don't get to talk as much as I'd like, but often when we do, it's about Love. The lack of Love in his life, and how empty he feels. How he hates this time of year, how frustrated and angry he is, how alone he feels, how much despair he feels over the thought that he'll never have Love. I tell him not to give up hope, and he tells me how painful it is to keep hoping only to have those hopes dashed over and over and over again.
He remarks about how Love will never find him, he must not be deserving of Love, or he did something in some past life and is being punished with lack of Love. He wanted children but will never have the Love of children, he wanted so many things, but feels he should just give up on them. Give up on Love, since he thinks that would hurt less.
But I want to talk about Love, because I keep trying to get this friend to understand, and maybe someone out there needs to hear this too.
Love is not sex, or marriage, or children, or kissing, or intimacy, or family, or any of these things. Love is something that surrounds them, is a part of them, but Love is not these things.
Love is so much more than anyone gives it credit. Love started out as an emotion you could feel for everyone around you - Love of your fellow man, compassion, empathy. Willingness to help, willingness to care, willingness to share burdens - to take up the burdens of the people around you, to let them help you carry yours. Love is your connection to the entire Universe, Love is your connection to every living thing on this planet - animal, human being, plants. Love is not limited to one thing.
Love is not about having any one person, because Love is greater than one person could ever be to you. Love is not some narrow thing that can be bound to a wedding ring, or a box of chocolates, nor can it ONLY be found in the bedroom. Love is bigger than that.
You don't have to own anything to have Love. You don't have to have any one special person in your life to have Love. And Love isn't punishing you. It isn't some vengeful God.
Just allow yourself to feel it. Stop searching for it in certain places or at certain times, and go outside, and find Love. Find Love in the sunshine beating down on your head, find love in your Garden, find love by talking to your neighbors, find Love by hugging a friend, or your cat, or even by taking in a stray animal.
Go volunteering, help children or people in need, and find more Love than you can possibly handle. Get involved in life, in the world around you, and experience the Love that has no bounds - the Love of this world, the Love of the people who share it with you.
Stop sitting around feeling sorry for yourself or the things you think you will never have. Go and look in the mirror, and find Love for the person who looks back at you.
It never left you. It never abandoned you. Don't be so narrow. Just open your heart up enough to feel it.