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Change Happens One Step At A Time

Couples in therapy are most successful when the expectation for change is set during the first couples therapy session. During our therapy sessions I emphasize that change requires making small choices and decisions everyday and that working in-between sessions is where the healing continues to takes place. A conscious relationship is one in which we think about how to make changes, the changes we are willing to make, and making a commitment over time. Think about it ... if your goal is to make lasting change in your marriage or relationship, one 'push-up' a day is better than trying to do 365 'push-ups' in one day! Or similarly, one change a day is more reasonable and realistic than setting a goal to make changes all at once.

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When One Wants Out and The Other Doesn't in Couples & Marriage Therapy

Sometimes couples arrive in my office who tell me right off the bat that they've talked about breaking up and are ready to do it if therapy doesn't 'work'. Usually there have been countless conversations about the hurt, anger, and pain they've caused each other and have likely gone in predictable circles around the topic at hand. Fortunately a couples and marriage therapist will know exactly what to do to help support the marriage and help the couple make the best decision possible for their relationship.

Couples therapy with polarized couples can be a unique opportunity. With guidance, the couple can rebuild their bond and reconnect for the right reasons, or disconnect for the right reasons. An experienced couples and marriage counselor will focus on each partner's personal development, the life cycle the couple are in, external factors, individual problems, and relationship history. Often times a client's family-of-origin experiences are an important aspect as well.

If you and your spouse are considering a divorce, or one person has said they think it is over, please call or email us today to learn about how to best approach this time in your relationship so you don't live with regret.

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Many times people fear change because we focus on what we need to give up, or what will be lost. This is a universal experience that pops up in individual, couple, and marital counseling. But, change is also an amazing opportunity ... after the chaos settles and if you use it well.

Change has the remarkable ability to open our hearts, gain insightful awareness, examine ourselves, and force us to either shut down in fear, or, look for the positive over which we can't control. We get to practice mental flexibility and our ideas of what we think relationships or life should be.

With some of the couples in therapy, letting go of assumptions about what the relationship 'should' look like is a task. In our society it is so easy to become bogged down in what is 'normal' and 'healthy' when it comes to communication, sex, etc. Individual, couples, and marriage counseling is a wonderful tool for untangling the assumptions and expectations that can guide our emotions and our relationships if left unchecked.

If you are in the midst of a change cycle in your life or relationships, and wish to learn more about finding peace through change, contact us today.

Warmly,

Corinne
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Dr. Corinne Scholtz has been selected as One-Of-Three Best Rated Marriage Counselors in Ft. Lauderdale! Three Best Rated is a brand committed to finding only the best of local business based upon ratings, reviews, history, cost, satisfaction and more. Visit www.connectedliving-fl.com for more information about scheduling your appointment today!
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I prefer the idea of setting and focusing on our intentions rather than resolutions. Intentions seem to frame our interests and goals in a positive, forward-moving direction while resolutions seem to suggest we are attempting to address a negative in our life by making a decision to not repeat past unwelcome behavior. For example, I intend to devote more time to reading for both fun and work each week. I can easily look at my calendar and insert time for my intention. With a resolution, my self-talk may sound like this; 'I didn't make enough time for reading last year, and it's important, so I should make sure I read more this year.' A resolution is easily connected to a previous lack.

An intention is powerful, especially when written on paper and reviewed every day, several times a day. What we focus on expands and we often spend our days running around with ideas circling in our minds wildly. Settling down and focusing on our intentions increases our success!

Intentions can be a part of any therapy, and definitely couples counseling. Changing habits and behavior starts with our thinking. Setting detailed goals for our relationship, and outlining clear steps on how to move forward is a great task for couples. Often the changes we wish to see are intangible and subjective and putting it onto paper helps to clarify where we are and where we wish to go.

I encourage all couples to begin to talk about a vision for the future, areas of growth and concern, and setting intentions for how to create the best future possible. It's so easy to get stuck in a problem-focus view -- try shifting to expanding on creating the next best year of your relationship! We can help with this and is something easily integrated into our couples and marital counseling, along with individual therapy.
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Care For Your Relationship During The Holidays!

I spend time in session often discussing how caring for ourselves can jump start a plateau in any relationship. This is different for everyone , but most often includes establishing ourselves and our health - emotional, physical and spiritual - as a priority. However, as most of us experience, the holidays bring with them a lack of time, competing demands and obligations, social events, school events, and more, that can make it extremely difficult to stay focused. So, how do couples take care of the relationship during the holiday season so that the connection stays strong?

One of the best methods for staying connected in a marriage or relationship during the holidays is to develop a sense of tradition. Family traditions bring people together and create a sense of belonging... after all, it's something that is unique to you!

Taking extra time to appreciate and comment on the little (and big!) things your partner is doing. Saying thank you and showing attention to our partner goes a long way.

Talk together as a team about how you want to handle certain stressors ahead of time. Being prepared and on the same side creates a mental and emotional connection.

Finally, make time to touch! Affection is extremely important to showing our partner how we feel about them...that they are important to us. Touch decreases tension, helps us to relax, and literally sends off hormones to help combat stress.

Whether you are married or coupled these tips will help re-focus attention onto what is most important during the holiday season. If you or someone you know are interested in working together to build unique tools for your relationship, you can contact us using the email box or by calling 954-253-0985.
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I am a marriage.com verified expert contributor! You can read about how to deal with a Lack of Sexual Intimacy Between Partners as well the Adult Stages of Divorce.
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Discover the secrets to how, and why, some people have successful relationships and why others don't. Thousands of couples discover the benefits of couples counseling every week when they discuss their struggles with a therapist. Visit www.connectedliving-fl.com for more details and to book your session today!
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Did you know that getting 8 hours of sleep can help you cope with depression and anxiety? Join Dr. Corinne Schultz online today to learn more ways to cope! #familytherapistfortlauderdale  
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Are you going through a divorce? Get to know the stages of divorce by reading a helpful article written by our expert here at The Center of Connected Living in Fort Lauderdale, Dr. Corinne Scholtz:
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