Shared publicly  - 
 
This ties in with something I've been thinking about recently - the horrible misogyny of some parts of the internet - not just things like this, although they're awful, but the below-the-fold horrors of online comment sites too, where the treatment of women beggars belief. I've been trying and failing to write a column about it for months.
Karl Hodge originally shared:
 
Frape isn't funny.

Of course - nipping onto your partner's iPhone and spamming their feed is funny. It can be hilarious. It's the word "frape" that's problematic.

The geek community has form for its casual denigration of the word "rape". I've written about it before (http://bit.ly/qoZejz).

The "George Lucas raped my childhood" era was the gateway, a decade long cultural erosion of a word's power and weight. The word frape is its apathetic offspring. It's what happens when you forget what words mean. What the actions behind them are. When you stop caring.
1
Karl Hodge's profile photoAlisa Starke's profile photoNeil Mohr's profile photo
3 comments
 
I've heard the term "frape" several times and to be honest, I haven't taken notice of it. Maybe 10 years ago it would have outraged me (I think it would have) but I am among the masses who have been desensitized to the term. But I think you bring a very good point to light and decide if it's right to tolerate that.

That being said, the word rape has multiple definitions:

-an act of plunder, violent seizure, or abuse; despoliation; violation: the rape of the countryside.

-Archaic . the act of seizing and carrying off by force.

I guess it's a matter of opinion if the term Frape comes from the sexual connotation or one of the alternate definitions. I'm inclined to think the latter, to be honest, but I haven't given it proper thought.
 
In my original blog post about the subject, I tracked the origins of the "George Lucas raped my childhood" meme. Looking at the contexts of usage, it seems that the allegorical meaning of spoilage and violation is foremost. There are variations that make this clear (that make the sexual meaning explicit). But, in some ways, intention of meaning is moot. Reception is possibly more important - and our respect for that.

I'm reminded, once again, of the Stewart Lee "Top Gear" sketch, where he talks about Clarkson's casual racism and sexism, and the rest of the team's giggling complicity in it. He ends by saying he wished Richard Hammond had died in the crash that injured him. Then, after the audience gasp he says: "No, it's alright, it's just joke - like they have on Top Gear".
 
Last time I checked men can also be raped, so why does that mean only women can be insulted by the (mis)use of the word? Largely as there's cultural bias, perhaps one would go as far to say a misandry within the culture when it comes to power and sex. I don't particularly like the term frape, rape's a horrible term and to associate it with what's usually something so trivial is puerile. But if you are going to, don't do it on the back of it's insulting to just women. Having said all of that, you may (or actually may not) want to check some of the hate filled gaming comments towards women, the world is full of idiots. ooh, here's a dedicated blog: http://fatuglyorslutty.com/
Add a comment...