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Nuri Olsen
Some days, the only thing that makes the pain bearable is MOAR FIBER.
Some days, the only thing that makes the pain bearable is MOAR FIBER.
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Okay, I have something to say about people who need to be "Talked To." Yeah, this is relevant to harassment, but there are other reasons people sometimes need to be checked, and this applies to ALL of them.

Sometimes, we all do things that are not perceived in the way we intended. Yes, ALL OF US. We're not psychic, and we don't know how other humans with different life experiences are going to take our words and actions all of the time.

So when someone comes to you and says, "You said or did X. You may not have intended it, but it came across in a bad way. Here is why other people perceived it that way. Let's talk about things we could do to avoid that miscommunication in the future..."

SAY YES. SAY THANK YOU. Holy crap, this person cares enough about you and your potential future that they are willing to have a potentially friendship-breaking talk with you to try to help you be a BETTER PARTICIPANT IN OUR SOCIETY.

It doesn't mean they think you're a bad person. It doesn't mean they think you meant to hurt people. We're TALKING TO YOU because we think you didn't mean to hurt people. We presume you are innocent of malice, so we are giving you the opportunity to prove it.

DO NOT throw a tantrum and yell and defend yourself. IT ISN'T ABOUT YOU. It's about the other people and how they perceived what you did or said. Do you want to keep making an ass of yourself the same way? Presuming the answer is "no," then LISTEN and GROW and make yourself known as a person who can be given feedback and will try to respect it.

This is SO VERY IMPORTANT. If I could leave the people I have met with one positive change before I die, this would be it, no question. I have personally benefited from each and every time I have been Talked To. I am a better friend, a better Seneschal, and a better human being because of it.

Half the battle of getting folks to speak up is making it a GOOD thing, both for the speaker and the recipient. This is something you should be doing for your FRIENDS, and it shouldn't be something we dread doing because we know the person is going to get defensive and start yelling about how they're not racist or sexist or rapey whatever. TELL YOUR FRIENDS when there is an issue. LISTEN TO YOUR FRIENDS when they come to you. Strike the phrase, "it should have been obvious" from your vocabulary and start making things explicit, even if it means you have to apologize for miscommunicating.

It's okay. WE ALL DO IT. The real test of your character is how you deal with it after you find out you've done it... again.
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Subject: New soft-flexible parchment to be available through
cooperative order

Last fall, a small group of book conservators visited Pergamena, the parchment makers and leather tanners in upstate New York. During the tour, we expressed an interest in a flexible parchment. Fortunately, Jesse Meyer had been developing that very item. He has a process to make parchment that is more flexible than the traditional that is the hard and stiff type.
A batch of at least two-dozen skins is needed for them to proceed, thus a cooperative order is being assembled.
Each skin will cost $25.00 per sq.ft. or about $150-$200 per skin.
If you are interested in participating in this order, please contact me
off-line: wminterbook@gmail.com
Small samples of this soft-parchment are available.

Bill Minter

William Minter Bookbinding & Conservation, Inc.
4364 Woodbury Pike
Woodbury, PA 16695
814-793-4020
wminterbook@gmail.com

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On safety pins:

(Attn commenters: this is a Public post)

People are wearing safety pins as a symbol that they are a safe and supporting person for minorities, both visible and invisible.

That's cool... but if you put it on, be prepared to follow through with action. We don't need another White People Feel-good Symbol. We need to step up and support folks who are being harassed whenever and wherever we see it.

Try to understand the frustration coming from minorities about the meaningless support symbol problem. They have seen symbolic gestures that are not followed by action over and over again, and they have every right to voice their frustrations. So display your symbols if you want, but more importantly, ACT in accordance with them.

Some people are worried that the alt-right is co-opting the safety pin symbol. Look, you can always modify yours to make it clear what you are supporting. Add rainbow beads, or a white rose, or both. Symbols of support to let people know they are not alone in a crowd are good. But the VERY BEST WAY to show that is to step in when those people need you to.

I am a passing cis hetero White Person, and I will step in. My pin is not to make me feel better. It is to remind me of my promise and to tell you that I have made it. Feel free to tell me if you see me not following through; real friends don't give us a pass when we are failing.
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Come display at the Arts & Sciences Salon II!

“Show Us Your Failures and What You Learned From Them"
A&S Display and Populace Token Vote

We are trying something a little different for this Arts & Sciences display. For everyone who has ever looked at all the meticulous, well-crafted projects that our artisans and scientists have produced and thought, “wow, that’s amazing… I could never do that,” we are asking for people to enter some of their “behind the scenes” work so we can all see the experimentation and practice it takes to be able to produce a magnificent end product. We often learn the most from our failures and mistakes!

Please bring something that didn’t go the way you hoped or planned, and a short explanation (1 page or shorter) of what it is and what you learned from it! There will be no judging, but each display item will have a bowl for collecting tokens from the populace (we will provide tokens for folks who don’t have their own). At the end of the day, the entries with the most populace tokens will have the opportunity to pick from an assortment of prizes, so bring out the blunders and inspire people to keep trying and improving!

We look forward to seeing what you’ve been keeping behind the curtain!

Questions can be directed to Lady Finnguala ingen Néill meic Chuircc (nuri@frontrowcrew.com)

http://www.eastkingdom.org/EventDetails.php?eid=3046
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I am making a Garden circle. This will include both medieval and modern garden stuff. Posts will include:

1) SCA project updates for the medieval garden beyond the periodic posts from my project blog
2) Offers of extra baby plants if I have too many for their designated space
3) Offers of extra harvest, including dyestuffs from the dyer's garden I'm going to plant and probably not use for my own projects
4) Probably copius photos of plants, and potentially posts about growing and using individual plants
5) Questions for other folks who might have dealt with the same thing so I don't have to reinvent the wheel

Some people will get auto-added because I know they are interested, but if you want to be sure you're in the circle, let me know you want in!
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Has Google taken away my ability to caption an already-uploaded photo? Because this is seriously pissing me off. >:(
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Details and prices forthcoming, but feel free to ask if you see something in particular that interests you.

More details for some items here: http://www.ravelry.com/people/NuriKnits/stash/trade
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Yarn & Fiber Major Destash
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SCA Non-member Surcharge.

It's a thing. Apparently it has wider applicability than many folks realized. A lot of people are upset about this, particularly in how it is a barrier to recruitment and retention. I understand this. However, while you voice your opinion on what should be done to change it, please consider an additional course of action:

LET THIS BE YOUR CHANCE TO SHOW NEWCOMERS THEY ARE WANTED.

If you have a spare $5 you can donate, pay someone's fee. Use your $5 to show someone they matter to us. At an event where you don't know any new folks personally? Talk to whoever is collecting money and donate $5 to cover the next newcomer to arrive.

An optional add-on to this is a Freecycle-style table. Got old stuff you don't use any more, like feast gear, belts, pouches, or other starter gear? Arrange to have a small table with a sign that says, "If you are new, take what you need; it's yours now!" (Just make sure you take any unclaimed items home with you after the event.)

Got no extra money or stuff? Offer a ride, escort someone around an event, sit with someone in court... Give your time and attention.

There is plenty we can do to make people feel wanted and help new people get going. Put your action where your mouth is. (Keep running your mouth too -- things will never change if no one says they need to.)
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Coronation Dayboard!

If you are (or are considering) attending Coronation this Saturday in the Barony of Concordia of the Snows, here is a quick preview of what you can expect to find on the Dayboard. As there is no feast, we want to make sure everyone is well-fed!

Every dish will be labeled, and there will be an ingredients list available for anyone with allergy concerns. You can also contact me in advance with questions!

MEATS:
Smoked Beef Brisket
Roasted Pork
Roasted Chicken Legs
Beef Sausage
Smoked Salmon

VEGETARIAN:
Hand Quiches
Irish Oat "Gnocchi"
Hard-boiled Eggs
Marinated Mushrooms

SIDES:
Steamed Asparagus
Roasted Cabbage
Roasted Onion
Parsnips
Carrots
Celery
Radishes
Cheese Cubes
Various Breads
Olives
Pickles
Apples w/Lemon Juice
Cherries
Grapes
Strawberries
Figs
Almonds
Honey-roasted Hazelnuts

CONDIMENTS:
Red Mustard
Hot Mustard
Basic Mustard
Horseradish Sauce
Honey & Herb Butters
Savory Toasted Cheese

DESSERTS:
Honey Oatcakes
Apple Pastries
Hand Pies
Shortbread
Stuffed Dates

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Wars of Roses Lost & Found

Lost and found items from Wars of the Roses! Let me know if something is yours so I can get it back to you.
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