Why "High Functioning" Autism Is So Challenginghttps://www.verywell.com/why-high-functioning-autism-is-so-challenging-259951
Very interesting article that finally describes Aspergers. Some key points:
"They may ... have significant challenges which stand in the way of living a comfortable life, succeeding in work or romance, or achieving a sense of self-worth. Those issues are made more challenging, in part, because they surprise and upset others who don't anticipate odd behaviors or reactions from people who "pass for normal" in many situations."
The key is "pass for normal", except that the Aspies are not really "normal". They are Aspies.
Comparing severe autism with Aspies:
"...people with more severe autism are not generally expected to just suck it up and get through difficult moments, people on the higher end of the spectrum are expected to do just that."
There are six ways that Aspies are a bit different. The rest of us can easily compensate for their characteristics, but only if we are aware, and make an effort. The characteristics are: (from the article)
1. Social "cluelessness."
2. Anxiety and depression.
3. Lack of executive planning skills.
4. Emotional disregulation.
5. Difficulty with transitions and change.
6. Difficulty with following verbal communication.
These are in addition to the other, obvious traits of Aspies:
7. Speech problems, stutter or hesitation, or lisp.
8. Personal hygene issues.
Now, even "normal" persons may exhibit one or more of these characteristics. It does not mean that they are diagnosed as Aspies or on the Autism spectrum. The diagnosis needs to be done by trained professionals. And Aspies may not have all of these traits, either.
Boys outnumber girls in being diagnosed as Aspies, at least four to one. But perhaps that is only because girls are better with trait #1 (above) and are more social. However, I know of many females that, while sounding normal when you talk to them, they suffer from traits 2,3,4,5 and 6. Just because these females, (girls and women) are "normal" socially, and speak well and have no personal hygene issues, nevertheless, they have all the other traits of Aspergers. This theory explains a lot.