I've been visiting my parents in Tennessee for the past week. They live in an assisted living community - very independent, but their meals are provided, there's no lawn work, etc. I've been eating with them in the communal dining room, and we usually are joined by one or another of the other residents. Many of the people here have lost their spouses, and while talking to them this week I've been reminded of a Vern Gosdin song from several years ago called "Chiseled in Stone." The refrain goes, "you don't know about sadness, 'til you face life alone; you don't know about lonely, 'til it's chiseled in stone." Very poignant while surrounded by these elderly gems, and worth remembering when you find your spouse frustrating or irritating. Just sayin'.