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It's not the knowing. It's the doing.
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The Trust Trifecta – Build Trust; Trust Others; Trust Yourself – Part 4
Why Trusting Yourself is More Important than Trusting Others

Trusting yourself is the vital first step in being able to trust other people and for them to trust you. If you radiate self-doubt and negativity, people will take you at your valuation.

However, if you have been hurt or betrayed in the past, it’s hard to trust others, and perhaps even harder to trust yourself. It may not feel safe to trust yourself; you might still feel that somehow it was your fault that you were let down.

Often self-doubt is firmly rooted in your childhood experiences – the messages you were given about your worth, your capabilities and your judgment. Were your choices and perceptions overridden because someone else, an authority figure, knew better?

So many of us are trained from early childhood to give our power away and doubt ourselves. It’s time to reclaim your power, by starting to trust yourself.

There are some straightforward things you can do to start trusting yourself immediately.

1. Build your self-knowledge
I know this sound ridiculous, but knowing yourself is key to building a sense of self-worth and self-trust. When we are safe and secure in who we are, we can trust our intuition, our internal voice and inspire others to trust us.

2. Change your negative mindset
Take some time and write down all the messages in your head about your capabilities, skills and judgments. Look at them. And, if necessary, challenge them. Reset your mental programming by replacing false, negative beliefs with positive things about yourself that you know to be true. It may help to ask people who love you, people you trust, what are your skills? What do they love about you? Make a positive list and look at it every day. This will go a long way to upgrading your self-image.

3. Forgive yourself
This can be a tough one. Every human being makes mistakes throughout their life. It’s the only way to learn and grow to become a better person. Forgive yourself for your past mistakes and MOVE ON. Let go of any attachment to being ‘perfect,’ and accept and love yourself for who you are – a fallible, curious, wonderful human being - not a victim, but someone in charge of their destiny.

4. Take some risks
Start small and safe to build your confidence in your intuition and your judgment. The more wins you get, the more your confidence grows and the more you will trust yourself. Then you’ll find that trust is contagious. You will trust other people without fear but instead with clear-eyed judgment.

“To be trusted is a greater compliment than being loved.” – George MacDonald

https://youtu.be/6Czhnr4hRsQ

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The Trust Trifecta – Build Trust; Trust Others; Trust Yourself – Part 4
Why Trusting Yourself is More Important than Trusting Others

Trusting yourself is the vital first step in being able to trust other people and for them to trust you. If you radiate self-doubt and negativity, people will take you at your valuation.

However, if you have been hurt or betrayed in the past, it’s hard to trust others, and perhaps even harder to trust yourself. It may not feel safe to trust yourself; you might still feel that somehow it was your fault that you were let down.

Often self-doubt is firmly rooted in your childhood experiences – the messages you were given about your worth, your capabilities and your judgment. Were your choices and perceptions overridden because someone else, an authority figure, knew better?

So many of us are trained from early childhood to give our power away and doubt ourselves. It’s time to reclaim your power, by starting to trust yourself.

There are some straightforward things you can do to start trusting yourself immediately.

1. Build your self-knowledge
I know this sound ridiculous, but knowing yourself is key to building a sense of self-worth and self-trust. When we are safe and secure in who we are, we can trust our intuition, our internal voice and inspire others to trust us.

2. Change your negative mindset
Take some time and write down all the messages in your head about your capabilities, skills and judgments. Look at them. And, if necessary, challenge them. Reset your mental programming by replacing false, negative beliefs with positive things about yourself that you know to be true. It may help to ask people who love you, people you trust, what are your skills? What do they love about you? Make a positive list and look at it every day. This will go a long way to upgrading your self-image.

3. Forgive yourself
This can be a tough one. Every human being makes mistakes throughout their life. It’s the only way to learn and grow to become a better person. Forgive yourself for your past mistakes and MOVE ON. Let go of any attachment to being ‘perfect,’ and accept and love yourself for who you are – a fallible, curious, wonderful human being - not a victim, but someone in charge of their destiny.

4. Take some risks
Start small and safe to build your confidence in your intuition and your judgment. The more wins you get, the more your confidence grows and the more you will trust yourself. Then you’ll find that trust is contagious. You will trust other people without fear but instead with clear-eyed judgment.

“To be trusted is a greater compliment than being loved.” – George MacDonald

https://youtu.be/6Czhnr4hRsQ

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The Trust Trifecta – Build Trust; Trust Others; Trust Yourself – Part 4
Why Trusting Yourself is More Important than Trusting Others

Trusting yourself is the vital first step in being able to trust other people and for them to trust you. If you radiate self-doubt and negativity, people will take you at your valuation.

However, if you have been hurt or betrayed in the past, it’s hard to trust others, and perhaps even harder to trust yourself. It may not feel safe to trust yourself; you might still feel that somehow it was your fault that you were let down.

Often self-doubt is firmly rooted in your childhood experiences – the messages you were given about your worth, your capabilities and your judgment. Were your choices and perceptions overridden because someone else, an authority figure, knew better?

So many of us are trained from early childhood to give our power away and doubt ourselves. It’s time to reclaim your power, by starting to trust yourself.

There are some straightforward things you can do to start trusting yourself immediately.

1. Build your self-knowledge
I know this sound ridiculous, but knowing yourself is key to building a sense of self-worth and self-trust. When we are safe and secure in who we are, we can trust our intuition, our internal voice and inspire others to trust us.

2. Change your negative mindset
Take some time and write down all the messages in your head about your capabilities, skills and judgments. Look at them. And, if necessary, challenge them. Reset your mental programming by replacing false, negative beliefs with positive things about yourself that you know to be true. It may help to ask people who love you, people you trust, what are your skills? What do they love about you? Make a positive list and look at it every day. This will go a long way to upgrading your self-image.

3. Forgive yourself
This can be a tough one. Every human being makes mistakes throughout their life. It’s the only way to learn and grow to become a better person. Forgive yourself for your past mistakes and MOVE ON. Let go of any attachment to being ‘perfect,’ and accept and love yourself for who you are – a fallible, curious, wonderful human being - not a victim, but someone in charge of their destiny.

4. Take some risks
Start small and safe to build your confidence in your intuition and your judgment. The more wins you get, the more your confidence grows and the more you will trust yourself. Then you’ll find that trust is contagious. You will trust other people without fear but instead with clear-eyed judgment.

“To be trusted is a greater compliment than being loved.” – George MacDonald

https://youtu.be/6Czhnr4hRsQ

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The Trust Trifecta – Build Trust; Trust Others; Trust Yourself – Part 4
Why Trusting Yourself is More Important than Trusting Others

Trusting yourself is the vital first step in being able to trust other people and for them to trust you. If you radiate self-doubt and negativity, people will take you at your valuation.

However, if you have been hurt or betrayed in the past, it’s hard to trust others, and perhaps even harder to trust yourself. It may not feel safe to trust yourself; you might still feel that somehow it was your fault that you were let down.

Often self-doubt is firmly rooted in your childhood experiences – the messages you were given about your worth, your capabilities and your judgment. Were your choices and perceptions overridden because someone else, an authority figure, knew better?

So many of us are trained from early childhood to give our power away and doubt ourselves. It’s time to reclaim your power, by starting to trust yourself.

There are some straightforward things you can do to start trusting yourself immediately.

1. Build your self-knowledge
I know this sound ridiculous, but knowing yourself is key to building a sense of self-worth and self-trust. When we are safe and secure in who we are, we can trust our intuition, our internal voice and inspire others to trust us.

2. Change your negative mindset
Take some time and write down all the messages in your head about your capabilities, skills and judgments. Look at them. And, if necessary, challenge them. Reset your mental programming by replacing false, negative beliefs with positive things about yourself that you know to be true. It may help to ask people who love you, people you trust, what are your skills? What do they love about you? Make a positive list and look at it every day. This will go a long way to upgrading your self-image.

3. Forgive yourself
This can be a tough one. Every human being makes mistakes throughout their life. It’s the only way to learn and grow to become a better person. Forgive yourself for your past mistakes and MOVE ON. Let go of any attachment to being ‘perfect,’ and accept and love yourself for who you are – a fallible, curious, wonderful human being - not a victim, but someone in charge of their destiny.

4. Take some risks
Start small and safe to build your confidence in your intuition and your judgment. The more wins you get, the more your confidence grows and the more you will trust yourself. Then you’ll find that trust is contagious. You will trust other people without fear but instead with clear-eyed judgment.

“To be trusted is a greater compliment than being loved.” – George MacDonald

https://youtu.be/6Czhnr4hRsQ

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The Trust Trifecta – Build Trust; Trust Others; Trust Yourself – Part 4
Why Trusting Yourself is More Important than Trusting Others

Trusting yourself is the vital first step in being able to trust other people and for them to trust you. If you radiate self-doubt and negativity, people will take you at your valuation.

However, if you have been hurt or betrayed in the past, it’s hard to trust others, and perhaps even harder to trust yourself. It may not feel safe to trust yourself; you might still feel that somehow it was your fault that you were let down.

Often self-doubt is firmly rooted in your childhood experiences – the messages you were given about your worth, your capabilities and your judgment. Were your choices and perceptions overridden because someone else, an authority figure, knew better?

So many of us are trained from early childhood to give our power away and doubt ourselves. It’s time to reclaim your power, by starting to trust yourself.

There are some straightforward things you can do to start trusting yourself immediately.

1. Build your self-knowledge
I know this sound ridiculous, but knowing yourself is key to building a sense of self-worth and self-trust. When we are safe and secure in who we are, we can trust our intuition, our internal voice and inspire others to trust us.

2. Change your negative mindset
Take some time and write down all the messages in your head about your capabilities, skills and judgments. Look at them. And, if necessary, challenge them. Reset your mental programming by replacing false, negative beliefs with positive things about yourself that you know to be true. It may help to ask people who love you, people you trust, what are your skills? What do they love about you? Make a positive list and look at it every day. This will go a long way to upgrading your self-image.

3. Forgive yourself
This can be a tough one. Every human being makes mistakes throughout their life. It’s the only way to learn and grow to become a better person. Forgive yourself for your past mistakes and MOVE ON. Let go of any attachment to being ‘perfect,’ and accept and love yourself for who you are – a fallible, curious, wonderful human being - not a victim, but someone in charge of their destiny.

4. Take some risks
Start small and safe to build your confidence in your intuition and your judgment. The more wins you get, the more your confidence grows and the more you will trust yourself. Then you’ll find that trust is contagious. You will trust other people without fear but instead with clear-eyed judgment.

“To be trusted is a greater compliment than being loved.” – George MacDonald

https://youtu.be/6Czhnr4hRsQ

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The Trust Trifecta – Build Trust; Trust Others; Trust Yourself – Part 4
Why Trusting Yourself is More Important than Trusting Others

Trusting yourself is the vital first step in being able to trust other people and for them to trust you. If you radiate self-doubt and negativity, people will take you at your valuation.

However, if you have been hurt or betrayed in the past, it’s hard to trust others, and perhaps even harder to trust yourself. It may not feel safe to trust yourself; you might still feel that somehow it was your fault that you were let down.

Often self-doubt is firmly rooted in your childhood experiences – the messages you were given about your worth, your capabilities and your judgment. Were your choices and perceptions overridden because someone else, an authority figure, knew better?

So many of us are trained from early childhood to give our power away and doubt ourselves. It’s time to reclaim your power, by starting to trust yourself.

There are some straightforward things you can do to start trusting yourself immediately.

1. Build your self-knowledge
I know this sound ridiculous, but knowing yourself is key to building a sense of self-worth and self-trust. When we are safe and secure in who we are, we can trust our intuition, our internal voice and inspire others to trust us.

2. Change your negative mindset
Take some time and write down all the messages in your head about your capabilities, skills and judgments. Look at them. And, if necessary, challenge them. Reset your mental programming by replacing false, negative beliefs with positive things about yourself that you know to be true. It may help to ask people who love you, people you trust, what are your skills? What do they love about you? Make a positive list and look at it every day. This will go a long way to upgrading your self-image.

3. Forgive yourself
This can be a tough one. Every human being makes mistakes throughout their life. It’s the only way to learn and grow to become a better person. Forgive yourself for your past mistakes and MOVE ON. Let go of any attachment to being ‘perfect,’ and accept and love yourself for who you are – a fallible, curious, wonderful human being - not a victim, but someone in charge of their destiny.

4. Take some risks
Start small and safe to build your confidence in your intuition and your judgment. The more wins you get, the more your confidence grows and the more you will trust yourself. Then you’ll find that trust is contagious. You will trust other people without fear but instead with clear-eyed judgment.

“To be trusted is a greater compliment than being loved.” – George MacDonald

https://youtu.be/6Czhnr4hRsQ

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The Trust Trifecta – Build Trust; Trust Others; Trust Yourself – Part 4
Why Trusting Yourself is More Important than Trusting Others

Trusting yourself is the vital first step in being able to trust other people and for them to trust you. If you radiate self-doubt and negativity, people will take you at your valuation.

However, if you have been hurt or betrayed in the past, it’s hard to trust others, and perhaps even harder to trust yourself. It may not feel safe to trust yourself; you might still feel that somehow it was your fault that you were let down.

Often self-doubt is firmly rooted in your childhood experiences – the messages you were given about your worth, your capabilities and your judgment. Were your choices and perceptions overridden because someone else, an authority figure, knew better?

So many of us are trained from early childhood to give our power away and doubt ourselves. It’s time to reclaim your power, by starting to trust yourself.

There are some straightforward things you can do to start trusting yourself immediately.

1. Build your self-knowledge
I know this sound ridiculous, but knowing yourself is key to building a sense of self-worth and self-trust. When we are safe and secure in who we are, we can trust our intuition, our internal voice and inspire others to trust us.

2. Change your negative mindset
Take some time and write down all the messages in your head about your capabilities, skills and judgments. Look at them. And, if necessary, challenge them. Reset your mental programming by replacing false, negative beliefs with positive things about yourself that you know to be true. It may help to ask people who love you, people you trust, what are your skills? What do they love about you? Make a positive list and look at it every day. This will go a long way to upgrading your self-image.

3. Forgive yourself
This can be a tough one. Every human being makes mistakes throughout their life. It’s the only way to learn and grow to become a better person. Forgive yourself for your past mistakes and MOVE ON. Let go of any attachment to being ‘perfect,’ and accept and love yourself for who you are – a fallible, curious, wonderful human being - not a victim, but someone in charge of their destiny.

4. Take some risks
Start small and safe to build your confidence in your intuition and your judgment. The more wins you get, the more your confidence grows and the more you will trust yourself. Then you’ll find that trust is contagious. You will trust other people without fear but instead with clear-eyed judgment.

“To be trusted is a greater compliment than being loved.” – George MacDonald

https://youtu.be/6Czhnr4hRsQ

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The Trust Trifecta – Build Trust; Trust Others; Trust Yourself – Part 3
Reasons You Don’t Trust

It might seem like you’re bombarded with reasons not to trust people or institutions anymore. Every day the media is full of more stories of betrayal, lying or breach of trust. And you probably have a personal history of being let down or disappointed.

The most common reasons people don’t trust are

1. Previous bad experience
Most people have been let down to some degree during their lives. Accept that this is a part of the risk of living a full life. Let go and move on.

2. Lack of self-trust
If you don’t trust yourself, you can’t expect others to trust you. A negative mindset will skew your perception of the world and people’s motivations. You will see the worst in everything and miss out on all sorts of opportunities. Work on your self-worth, develop and listen to your intuition, and you will have a sound basis to trust others.

3. Anxiety and catastrophizing/projecting
Anxious people spend a lot of time and energy worrying about things that are not likely to happen. That can lead to projecting and destructive catastrophizing. You'll brood about scenarios that are likely never to happen.

4. Fear of judgment and rejection
If you trust someone with a problem or secret, you are taking the risk that they won’t respect your privacy. But if you trust people, they tend to respond in kind and are more likely to reward you with their trust.

5. Poor communication
Lack of clarity about expectations, fear of revealing mistakes and not feeling safe to ask questions can undermine trust. Be honest and clear in conversations and meetings and make sure everyone is clear on what was agreed. Make it clear that it’s always appropriate to stop and recalibrate when necessary.

You might think that trusting people is foolish and just leaves you open to being hurt and deceived again. But there are good reasons why you should work on building trust in yourself and other people.

• Trust is fundamental to good relationships. It is the cement that bonds people together whether it’s your spouse, family members, friends or work teams.
• Trust breeds trust. When you start trusting people, it sets up a positive feedback loop that draws in more and more people.
• Trust improves productivity.
• People who trust and who others see as trustworthy are happier and more successful in their lives.

It’s worth examining your reasons for not wanting to trust others. Test those reasons and challenge yourself to be more willing to trust.

“Keep your promises and be consistent. Be the kind of person others can trust.” – Roy T. Bennett

https://youtu.be/CdszzkUuRQM


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The Trust Trifecta – Build Trust; Trust Others; Trust Yourself – Part 3
Reasons You Don’t Trust

It might seem like you’re bombarded with reasons not to trust people or institutions anymore. Every day the media is full of more stories of betrayal, lying or breach of trust. And you probably have a personal history of being let down or disappointed.

The most common reasons people don’t trust are

1. Previous bad experience
Most people have been let down to some degree during their lives. Accept that this is a part of the risk of living a full life. Let go and move on.

2. Lack of self-trust
If you don’t trust yourself, you can’t expect others to trust you. A negative mindset will skew your perception of the world and people’s motivations. You will see the worst in everything and miss out on all sorts of opportunities. Work on your self-worth, develop and listen to your intuition, and you will have a sound basis to trust others.

3. Anxiety and catastrophizing/projecting
Anxious people spend a lot of time and energy worrying about things that are not likely to happen. That can lead to projecting and destructive catastrophizing. You'll brood about scenarios that are likely never to happen.

4. Fear of judgment and rejection
If you trust someone with a problem or secret, you are taking the risk that they won’t respect your privacy. But if you trust people, they tend to respond in kind and are more likely to reward you with their trust.

5. Poor communication
Lack of clarity about expectations, fear of revealing mistakes and not feeling safe to ask questions can undermine trust. Be honest and clear in conversations and meetings and make sure everyone is clear on what was agreed. Make it clear that it’s always appropriate to stop and recalibrate when necessary.

You might think that trusting people is foolish and just leaves you open to being hurt and deceived again. But there are good reasons why you should work on building trust in yourself and other people.

• Trust is fundamental to good relationships. It is the cement that bonds people together whether it’s your spouse, family members, friends or work teams.
• Trust breeds trust. When you start trusting people, it sets up a positive feedback loop that draws in more and more people.
• Trust improves productivity.
• People who trust and who others see as trustworthy are happier and more successful in their lives.

It’s worth examining your reasons for not wanting to trust others. Test those reasons and challenge yourself to be more willing to trust.

“Keep your promises and be consistent. Be the kind of person others can trust.” – Roy T. Bennett

https://youtu.be/CdszzkUuRQM


Post has attachment
The Trust Trifecta – Build Trust; Trust Others; Trust Yourself – Part 3
Reasons You Don’t Trust

It might seem like you’re bombarded with reasons not to trust people or institutions anymore. Every day the media is full of more stories of betrayal, lying or breach of trust. And you probably have a personal history of being let down or disappointed.

The most common reasons people don’t trust are

1. Previous bad experience
Most people have been let down to some degree during their lives. Accept that this is a part of the risk of living a full life. Let go and move on.

2. Lack of self-trust
If you don’t trust yourself, you can’t expect others to trust you. A negative mindset will skew your perception of the world and people’s motivations. You will see the worst in everything and miss out on all sorts of opportunities. Work on your self-worth, develop and listen to your intuition, and you will have a sound basis to trust others.

3. Anxiety and catastrophizing/projecting
Anxious people spend a lot of time and energy worrying about things that are not likely to happen. That can lead to projecting and destructive catastrophizing. You'll brood about scenarios that are likely never to happen.

4. Fear of judgment and rejection
If you trust someone with a problem or secret, you are taking the risk that they won’t respect your privacy. But if you trust people, they tend to respond in kind and are more likely to reward you with their trust.

5. Poor communication
Lack of clarity about expectations, fear of revealing mistakes and not feeling safe to ask questions can undermine trust. Be honest and clear in conversations and meetings and make sure everyone is clear on what was agreed. Make it clear that it’s always appropriate to stop and recalibrate when necessary.

You might think that trusting people is foolish and just leaves you open to being hurt and deceived again. But there are good reasons why you should work on building trust in yourself and other people.

• Trust is fundamental to good relationships. It is the cement that bonds people together whether it’s your spouse, family members, friends or work teams.
• Trust breeds trust. When you start trusting people, it sets up a positive feedback loop that draws in more and more people.
• Trust improves productivity.
• People who trust and who others see as trustworthy are happier and more successful in their lives.

It’s worth examining your reasons for not wanting to trust others. Test those reasons and challenge yourself to be more willing to trust.

“Keep your promises and be consistent. Be the kind of person others can trust.” – Roy T. Bennett

https://youtu.be/CdszzkUuRQM


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