My friend is fitting the bill for this owner in the meantime but she doesn't really have the money (she is a teacher). She just refuses to let an animal die for lack of funds. Especially with such a treatable condition.
If anyone wants to help or wants more information, email me (email@example.com) and I will answer any questions and/or send you her paypal email address for which to send money.
Sometimes, when I see a post on forgiveness, I find myself doubting the poster knows what actual forgiveness is. When you say you forgive someone, this means you have let go of the hurt and resentment you hold toward that person. It is more for you than it is that person in most cases. When you forgive, you are freeing your heart from negative emotions. If you choose to give that person another chance to be a part of things, then that is even more wonderful for you, because it can be a risk.
However, saying you are a forgiving person, but holding onto anger and resentment over something, means you have not forgiven that person. Or maybe it means you have internally forgiven that person, but are angry with the decisions you made in those events, and are displaying your anger toward those involved instead of where you are truly feeling it.
So here is what I think people should focus on when this topic comes up. Before you post that you have forgiven someone or that you are a forgiving person, assess yourself. See if you truly mean that, or if you are just saying it, hoping that going through the motions will free you (it won't- but I understand the reasoning).
Here is my own personal assessment on 3 relationships and how forgiveness fits in.
I will sometimes say I can forgive someone for something, but I will not forget and I will not trust them again. This is how I WANT to feel, but in reality, there is a specific person I cannot forgive. As much as I want to, I just cannot do it. Maybe one day I will. Going through the motions never got me the forgiveness I was hoping to feel; the freeing feeling from the anger. But sometimes, I justify that with knowing that by holding onto that anger, I am protecting myself and most of all, my family. There is a real physical protection issue in this instance, and I feel like if I forgive, I may actually forget. I'm caught here, not knowing how to move forward. So for now, I will not forgive, because I refuse to forget, on the basis of my family's safety.
There is a friend I have forgiven, and I made mistakes too, and I wouldn't mind having another chance at being friends with her. We used to be the best, but I felt betrayed. I know I wasn't the best person either, so I cannot hold on to that without having assessed myself and realizing that I have changed, and that means others can as well. I am no longer angry over what happened, but more sad that a friendship was lost. But I have accepted it, and it is ok. It is how things went and we all turned out fine (I believe).
And finally, there is a person I have forgiven for her actions. However the effects are and will forever linger. I do not want a relationship with this person, but I do want closure and I want a relationship with someone she is keeping from us. She has instilled hate and anger in both herself and this other person, and continues to hold onto it to this day (several years later). This has not just caused pain for her and another person, but it has ruined relationships that I pray will one day be repaired to some extent. Her anger and resentment was so strong that it hurt MANY people and there were many mistakes she made too. However, I forgive her. I can forgive her because I want to move forward and repair the other relationships. I would never be able to work toward that goal if I continued to hold anger and resentment over this situation. I only hope that one day she will let go of hers and realize how much better it would be for everyone, especially herself and her own heart and internal peace. I pray for her to find that peace one day.
Anyway, if you stuck through all of that and the very vague situations I listed above, kudos to you. I would love to hear other people's thoughts on this.
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