Just asking, but why is it always the man's fault when a relationship breaks down? As mentioned time and again, it takes two, irregardless. And what about all the men who do end up leaving a relationship with a woman but still do what they can to remain a positive influence to their children? Whether raised by a single mother, or single father, it just comes down to paying attention to your children and being part of their lives, not just turning on the TVs because it keeps them out of your hair. Everyone make mistakes, but if you deny you even tried, that's where your real mistake is. Also, no one is perfect and every situation is different; hard to judge when you don't know all three sides (his, hers and the truth).