Try this. Even if you don't want to talk about footwear go and join the group and smile and laugh (in the appropriate places!). Once they know who you are and that you are "safe" you should be o.k. Also, look out for a "yummie muimmy" to flirt with, also a singleton of course or you could get a bad reputation before you have been accepted into the huddle. Dont feel awkward, feel brazen and sexy and slide in there with a smile and a "good morning ladies". This is your mission, report back!
It's Picking My Kids up from the School Gate…
I know this is going to be different in other communities but in the UK outside of the cities people can be rather narrow-minded For the last three years I've been to pick my children from school watching small groups of mothers huddled together talking, gossiping, laughing and joking. Admittedly the majority of the conversations they seem to have, that I overhear, are not ones that I would wish to be involved in. I do strain myself to say hello and try and make polite conversation but I'm a male in their self-proclaimed female environment. They rarely reply.
It is true also that many of the mothers have known each other for a long time however I am always saddened when a new child starts at the school and the new mother is instantly welcomed into the giggling group whilst myself and a couple of other "Lone Fathers" are left out of the loop.
On a few occasions I have missed out on valuable school-related information, which I have discovered at a later date, that I know has been passed around the playground whilst we are all waiting for the children to come out.
But I think the worst example of being a single father at the school gates for myself came when my daughter wanted to bring her friend home for dinner. I had to stand there while the teacher rang the child's mother to confirm that I was taking her from school that evening in front of an entire group of onlooking mothers. I may as well been dressed up like Jimmy Savile. Just a couple of days before I had witnessed one of the mothers relate a story to the same teacher of how some mom was stuck in traffic. Without any corroboration of that story she walked out of the school with two extra kids.
So if you are a mother reading this next time you're at the school picking your children up remember to say "hello" to some of the single fathers who I guarantee you will be feeling bloody awkward.
They know who everyone is. Its a small school and 'we' have been there for three years. Have done all things you mentioned but the UK is still a rather backward place socially in some quarters. It took a year for the school staff to begin sending me info after repeated complaints. The original answer I got was that, 'Mum rules around here.'
I have changed the schools attitude I hope but the Mummy Mafia is a different case.
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