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Eric Werl
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In times of darkness the most important thing to keep us going is finding hope. All Pro Dad explains where hope can be found in deep pain.
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I have watched her grow from a little thing tucked in my arms watching football on the couch with me into a young woman and a lady. I miss not having her in my home every day, but she is always in my heart and will be forever!
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It's too easy to lose touch with our kids. Be proactive and make quality one-on-one time the best investment dads can make.
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All Pro Dad shares words of wisdom for daughters on how to prudent about boys and spot their hidden character qualities.
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An Open Apology To My Kids On The Subject Of My Divorce

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I am sorry we failed. I will forever feel guilty that we broke your home and world apart. I know it's ultimately for the best, but I know, and you have explicitly told me, that you would rather us all live together with some tension than separately tension-free. You don't know that I was no longer living and now you have a father, when before I could barely breathe. I know at 7 and 10 and 12 and 14 you want your mom and dad together and for that I am so sorry.

I am sorry you have to move back and forth between two homes. Going away for a weekend causes stress when I pack. I plan what I need: clothing, jewelry, shoes, jackets, electronics and toiletries. You are forced to move several times a week and you don't complain. If something is needed from the other house you make do without or mention it without reprimand or annoyance. You are always in one car going to another house. It's exhausting for me and I am sure it is for you. I created this and I am sorry.

I'm sorry you will have to deal with the uncomfortable and embarrassing reality of your mom and I dating, loving, kissing and hugging someone other than your mom or dad. It will be great for you to see what a stable and healthy relationship is. But, I get that lesson is not top of mind for you. Affection between parents is nauseating enough for kids and teenagers. To bear witness to your mom or dad with their girlfriend or boyfriend must be even more skin crawling.

I'm sorry that even though your mom and I are really good at not putting you in the middle, your reality inherently makes you smack dab in the thick of it. If we were married and you went out for a day with mom and had fun, great! Now sentences start with "no offense dad but I had the best time…with mommy and my cousins." No offense taken, my heart is filled whenever you have good quality time with your mom and extended family, on either side. My heart breaks a little that somewhere inside, you feel a twinge of guilt for it.

I am sorry that you miss me at bedtime, are lonely sometimes in your new home, miss your dad when you go on vacation and have to always think about whose house you are sleeping in tonight. I'm sorry you have to tell your friends you have two homes, grasp for words to describe our significant others and have to spend every holiday split. I'm sorry that even though we try to handle it all behind the scenes, you still wind up being the western union, relaying messages back and forth. You are people, not robots, and I'm sorry that just because today is Tuesday and that is "my day", doesn't mean you don't want to hang with mom. And maybe on a Thursday, "mom day", you want some time with me. You don't have the luxury of having complete access to your parents. As you go to bed on your 10th birthday with tears in your eyes and tell me that now you have a to wait 365 days until you can get one dinner with just your brothers sister and me and how it really sucks that you only get that once a year, I am more sorry than you will ever know.

I'm mostly sorry that I am not a child of divorce. I know what it's like to be left out from a group of friends, not be picked first for a team, feel insecure, lonely or do poorly on a test. I know what it feels like to be teased, want the shirt your friend has or wish you were allowed to watch a movie that I keep saying no to. I know what it's like to want chocolate and not carrots, be annoyed with your sister, or brother, have a great day and want to run home and tell both parents. I know how it feels to yearn to be older, do more, make more decisions. I can relate and offer advice on all of this. I do not know what it's like to be a kid of divorce. I do the best I can to empathize and put myself in your shoes. I will walk down your path next to you. But I can't know your pain, the pain I have caused, and sorry is too small a word for what I feel.

I am hopeful that this will be your sucky lot in life and that your other roads will run smoother. We all have crud to deal with and within the pain there are innumerable lessons you will learn. You won't realize these lessons, they won't stand out. They will be part of the fabric of your soul. You will be compassionate, flexible and have a world-view that is one more expansive than I had growing up. From a young age you see your mom and I, as people, not just parents and this will serve you well.

My love for you is greater than my guilt. While I am so very sorry for all the sucky things that divorce means for you, I have the knowledge of what our collective alternative was and am unwavering in my decision that this was the best path for all of us.

But I'm still sorry.
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All Pro Dad helps you be the best role model you can be in your son’s life. Here are 7 things a son needs from his father.
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In this article we will look at life after divorce to explain how to experience less trauma and emerge from it with a spirit of wisdom and positive renewal.
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