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Robert Clarke
Rob Clarke Professional hypnotherapist using hypnosis & hypnotherapy in Bournemouth, Poole & Dorset.
Rob Clarke Professional hypnotherapist using hypnosis & hypnotherapy in Bournemouth, Poole & Dorset.

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#Stop #Vaping and using #E-cigarettes in Bournemouth, Poole and Dorset.


Welcome to my blog about #stopping #Vaping and using #E-cigarettes. Using E-cigarettes for many people have become a great temporary alternative to smoking cigarettes & tobacco. The cost of using E-cigarettes is far less than smoking normal cigarettes but the consumption of nicotine is still present! This is undoubtedly damaging to our bodies as nicotine is in fact a poison. Many years ago nicotine was one of the most powerful insecticides in the world and could do damage to both insects and people!

Health risk

So although there are no actual documented statistics about how damaging Vaping actually is to some ones health people may still believe that #Vaping is a safer option, but in reality by consuming nicotine they are still risking their health and wellbeing by using these E-cigarettes.


It is also becoming more and more an antisocial thing to do with pubs and public places now asking people not to use E-cigarettes.....with the actual scented smell of the Vaping and the left over chemicals being breathed directly into the surrounding area of other people.

#Stop #Vaping now!

So stop Vaping and using E-cigarettes today and get that immediate reward that you want and desire. Call me today on 01202-245020 or 07920 885015 and start to take back control of your health and wellbeing!

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#Mindfulness, #meditation and #relaxation.
Mindfulness can help to change your mental wellbeing and is a process of bringing your attention to the internal and external experiences occurring in the present moment, which can be developed through the use of meditation, relaxation and other training.

Research studies have shown that the practice of mindfulness is strongly connected with greater well-being and better health. When used in your everyday life it can be help you to be more in control of your thoughts, feelings and emotions, helping you to start to see things in a much more positive way. This can be useful in a working environment for example helping you to control your anxiety and stress levels allowing you to be more relaxed and more productive.
Studies over the years have shown that over analysing and worry can lead to problems such as #depression, #anxiety, and even #panic attacks and mindfulness can prove effective in the reduction of these problems.

Stop worrying about the past and the future
We sometimes allow ourselves to dwell on things that have happened in the past or might happen in the future. Mindfulness can be used anywhere, at anytime and is very helpful to get yourself into the moment instead of stirring up and reliving past emotional events and possible future events.

How can I help myself to achieve Mindfulness?
Using either #hypnosis, #hypnotherapy, meditation or a positive thinking styles course can start to change negative thoughts and perceptions to positive thoughts. This can then allow you to be more in the moment, feeling much more relaxed and calm and seeing opportunities which you may have originally missed.

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Are you going to be a #dryathlete this January?
Have you kicked off 2016 by making a promise to yourself that you’ll go cold turkey on the alcohol for 31 days? If you have, and you’re determined to stick to it, then please keep reading to be reassured that you are absolutely doing the right thing. On the flipside, if you think you might waver half way through the month, then I will try my very best to convince you to stick to it.
It can take years for us to see the true damage that alcohol can do to our bodies. The short term signs such as grey skin, a sore head, tired, bloodshot eyes and a dry mouth are all relatively short lived if you’re someone who drinks only occasionally. But even the odd binge drinking session here and there can be causing damage you can’t see, and in years to come it is very likely that the alcohol consumed over a lifetime could start to become a problem that can be avoided by stopping or cutting down now.
The health benefits of a whole month without alcohol are astonishing. Studies and research have shown that abstention can lower blood pressure and cholesterol , reduce liver fat and lower the risk of developing type 2 diabetes and cancer later in life. Weight loss is also a huge factor in giving up alcohol, as the calories consumed in just a couple of glasses of wine or a pint of beer add up over a week, a month and a year to result in an unhealthy amount of weight gain. Shorter term benefits are clearer skin, better concentration levels and a higher quality of sleep. Getting out of bed in the morning will become much easier, and wouldn’t it be refreshing to wake up without a hangover? No headache, no feeling sick, no grey pallor to your skin; the benefits really are endless.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with having a drink or 2 at the end of a long, hard week at work, and sometimes there is nothing nicer. It’s reality that we enjoy a glass of wine or a pint of beer occasionally, but if you can abstain from this for just 31 days, it will open your eyes to just how beneficial it is to cut the alcohol out, and will very likely encourage you to think about your long term (and short term) health. In addition to this, it will hopefully make you pause before polishing off that bottle, or ordering more drinks at the bar. Why not distract yourself in the evenings by taking up a new hobby, make sure you don’t purchase alcohol during your weekly shop and keep telling yourself over and over just how much better you’ll feel.
So for less than 9% of 2016, just 744 hours, give it your absolute best shot (but not a shot of Absolut!!): ditch the drink and become a dryathlete. January may well just be the start of something that will benefit you for the rest of your life.

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#Trust is absolutely pivotal in any relationship, and the foundation on which we then build from, allowing us to feel relaxed, contented and happy with those key people. It is not just two people living together or being married to each other that require #trust; we need this from people we work with, our friends, our parents and our children. Those people closest to us are the ones that cause us the most pain if that trust is then broken, resulting in the relationship becoming damaged and sometimes beyond repair. Trust, however, absolutely can be built back up and relationships repaired through communicating effectively with each other on all levels. Most people have- at some point in their lives- been let down by someone they love or care about, and at the time it feels as though you will never be the same again, but over time these feelings ease and fade, enabling you to once again trust that person. But they have to show you that this is possible of course, and it will take time and effort from both of you to rebuild and regain that all-important trust.
The most important thing in all of this is talking it through with each other. You cannot and must not let feelings of hurt and resentment build up inside you, as not only is this damaging to your own health, it will eventually damage your relationship with that person and thus become irreparable. Has the breakdown of trust triggered old wounds that haven’t healed properly? It may be that what has happened isn’t the same thing, but it has conjured up feelings that you have previously tried to push away and hide. Secondly, it is vital that the person who has betrayed you acknowledges that they have done so, and must be able to show remorse and compassion for you and for the situation. If they are being blasé about it, chances are that this person is not who you thought they were, resulting in you making decisions about whether you still want that person in your life.
It is always very difficult to trust someone again after any kind of betrayal, and also to allow yourself to feel relaxed in that person’s company. You may be constantly wondering if they are going to do it again, and not knowing whether you would be better to let that person go from your life. You can ask yourself certain questions, such as ‘do I want or need this person in my life?’, ‘are my instincts telling me they will repeat that betrayal?’ and ‘how would I react if this happened again?’. Trust your instincts at all times as they are rarely wrong, and ensure you do what is right for you, and not what someone else wants you to do.
Communicate, communicate, communicate. Whether that is between the two of you (or group of you if it is friendships or colleagues) or whether you have a mediator. It is fundamental to talk it through, come to your own conclusions and decisions and then restart your path, whichever way that may be. But if you do rebuild that trust, let the past be the past and allow yourself to start afresh, because hanging on to something that happened previously will only cause you to feel resentment and hurt and stop you from growing as a person.

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Our minds are extremely powerful, more so than many of us probably even realise. How many times have you said to yourself “I can’t do it”, only for someone else to tell you that actually, you can do it? Other people will very likely view your abilities and skills in a far more positive light than you do. However, with the correct thinking styles and replacing negative thoughts with positive, encouraging thoughts, we really can begin to do the things that we previously told ourselves we couldn’t.
Our bodies react to certain predicaments and if we #fear something, this can trigger the “fight or flight” response, a physiological reaction to something that we believe is a threat or will cause us harm. A surge of chemicals including adrenaline are realised, causing heightened awareness of our surroundings and we can only view the situation through a filter of fear.
This response is a natural instinct and something that is hardwired into us from birth. But what if we could relax our minds enough to deal calmly and effectively with any situation, bypassing fear? We can. #Hypnotherapy, #hypnosis and simple deep breathing exercises are all extremely effective in helping to change our mindsets and thinking patterns, turning our thoughts around from “I can’t” to “Actually, I really can do this”. Don’t ever underestimate just how powerful your mind and thoughts are. If you talk negatively to yourself on a continuous basis, you’re going to believe those thoughts; just as if someone keeps telling you you’re not good at something you’ll think it to be true.
Self-belief and self-worth are paramount in starting to understand just how much you can achieve in your everyday life.  You would not have a friend who consistently put you down, so why do this to yourself? It is extremely important to talk yourself up every single day, tell yourself you can do it and congratulate yourself every single time you achieve something new.
So where do deep breathing exercises come into play? It may sound strange, but many of us do not breathe properly. We shallow-breathe, not allowing enough oxygen into our bodies which will only result in feeling tired and in many cases panicky. Sit quietly for 5 minutes a day and breathe deeply and properly, in and out, and see how much better you start to feel. You will quickly become aware of your breathing at other times and will start to take deeper, longer breaths. Your mind will be clearer and a sense of calm and clarity will take precedence over previous worries and concerns.

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#PersonalDevelopment is something we all undertake throughout our lives, and is a journey that we will go on, rather than one set destination that we need to get to as quickly as possible. We can certainly set goals for ourselves, with time frames to complete these, but we need to look at personal development as ongoing, continuous and consistent.
When we look at what we want to do with our lives- on both a personal and work basis- we need to create a programme, or a plan, to compound our thoughts, #goals, challenges and development areas. For example, if you are looking to develop yourself at work, you may wish to write down what it is you want to do, what support you need to achieve your goal, how you’re going to get there and how long you want to take over it. It is good to have a time frame and not leave it as an open ended goal, because this will drive you towards that achievement, and then allow you to plan for what’s next.
Try to find yourself a mentor if you’re looking to develop at work. This should be someone you trust to be entirely honest with you, and someone you can talk to easily, whether that is face to face or by picking up the phone to them.
Planning your development by yourself or with your mentor will help you to understand exactly what skills you already possess, and those that you need to hone or develop from scratch. It will also push you to think about those areas that you may be less comfortable with, such as public speaking or doing a presentation, and whether these are things that you will need to do going forward.
Take time out to spend on your personal development; it is important for all aspects of life and each skill you acquire throughout your journey will be an additional string to your bow, helping you in other areas of your life, or allowing you to help others and perhaps even becoming a mentor yourself one day.
Planning is the key but also be sure to keep a record of all your achievements so you can see just how far you have come. Congratulate yourself each time you achieve something, no matter how small, because it is all part of a much bigger picture that is your own personal- and therefore very important-journey.

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#HypnotherapyHypnosis- Dispelling common myths
#Hypnotherapy is often confused with stage hypnosis, and so I wanted to write this blog to help dispel common myths that surround this extremely effective form of therapy and help you- as a potential client or simply someone who is interested in the topic-form a greater understanding of it.
So what comes to mind when you think of hypnotherapy? We have all seen TV shows, or stage shows where the hypnotist entertains the audience by using a volunteer from the crowd who ends up dancing like a chicken. And yes it is effective and comical, but the therapy form of #hypnosis is entirely different, with the main factor being that you are absolutely aware of what you are doing at all times.
Have you ever driven somewhere, arrived at your destination, and realised you don’t really remember anything about the journey because you’ve been on auto pilot? Yet you’ve arrived safely and in the knowledge that you’ve negotiated numerous roundabouts and traffic lights and quite possibly several other obstacles along the way. This state is a very similar one to what you will experience when you have #hypnotherapy . You will never be unconscious or unaware, simply relaxed and calm.
Once we have worked to ensure you are in a relaxed state of mind, we are then in a position to begin changing your mind set, slowly but surely, turning negatives into positives and allowing old thinking styles to be turned around and replaced with new, more positive thoughts and feelings.
Let’s look at anxiety as an example. If you are naturally quite an anxious person, hypnotherapy can be used to calm your mind, relax your body and slow your thoughts down, resulting in a far more restful yet confident style of thinking. #Anxiety and anxious thoughts can create all kinds of feelings and can stem from numerous different things, but these thoughts are entirely unhelpful and can cause stress, weight loss or weight gain, bad sleeping patterns and a whole host of negative emotions that will affect your everyday life.
#Hypnotherapy is extremely effective in allowing you to turn negatives into positives and change your ways and styles of thinking for good. It really is a case of mind over matter, and with enough perseverance and practise, you will feel more confident, happier and far more relaxed in your daily life. And let me reassure you again, you will always be 100% aware of what is happening; my work doesn’t involve any form of stage hypnosis, purely helping people regain confidence in their lives and learning to relax and calm their minds to get the very best out of whatever it is they want to achieve.

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#PublicSpeaking #nerves
Mark Twain once said “There are two kinds of speakers: those that are nervous and those that are liars”.
Public speaking is something that makes even the bravest of us #nervous, even if it is just a little bit. If you’re someone who struggles with it more than just a little bit however (which I can assure you, plenty of people do) then you may be looking for some relaxation techniques or some hints and tips that you can utilise to aid you with speaking in public. Let me reassure you again, you are not in the minority here. Presentation nerves and speaking to small or big groups of people can cause severe anxiety in many people, including sleepless nights, loss of appetite and shaking and sweating, and can even have you reaching for the wine. A large amount of your nerves and #anxiety will be anticipatory, and once you are giving your speech or doing your presentation you will relax into it and may even enjoy what you are doing.
So what can you do beforehand to kick those nerves into touch? If you take one piece of advice away from reading this blog, it is to be prepared. Do not go into a presentation not knowing what you’re going to say. Do your research and have prompt cards, although avoid reading continuously from a script as your audience will start to drift if you’re not engaging with them. Visual aids are always helpful, as these give people something to focus on and will also take all of those eyes away from you, allowing you to concentrate on what you’re saying rather than worrying about being stared at. Try to involve your audience as well, as this keeps people interested and participation takes the focus away from you slightly as well. If you’re doing a presentation at work, ask the audience to guess statistics, such as last year’s sales or wastage for example.
Before you do your presentation or speech, it is always a good idea to exercise. I don’t necessarily mean an hour in the gym, but go for a quick walk or jog as not only does this release serotonin, it also helps to get rid of excess adrenaline which you will have a lot of if you’re nervous. Trust me; this will relax both your body and your mind. It also helps to do some breathing exercises as shallow breathing will instantly send you into panic mode. Just before you’re about to speak, sit quietly and breathe in and out, slowly and steadily. Avoid excess caffeine beforehand as well, as this can make you feel jittery, but have a bottle of cold water next to you.
Leading up to your presentation or #speech, start to place positive images in your head, and imagine yourself doing a fantastic speech and effectively engaging your audience. Block negative thoughts the minute they enter your head- they will do nothing but damage and are not in the slightest bit helpful to you. And always remember that people don’t generally notice your nerves as much as you might believe. You may be concerned that people will judge you, but your audience will want you to do well and most won’t notice your nerves at all.

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#Tension #Headaches
In today’s world there are so many pressures on us every day and sometimes it feels as though we just can’t keep up. With so much going on, and so much to do, it is not uncommon for tension headaches to arise. Many of us work in fast paced, high stress environments where we have to keep up with daily and weekly change, or where we are sat continuously for hours in front of a computer screen. Working parents are another example of people who are constantly on the go; working for a living and looking after others is not an easy feat. #Stress, pressure and tiredness are all factors that cause tension headaches, but if we can manage all of these things then it reduces the risk of the headache arising in the first place.
Easier said than done, I know. So what can you do to help relax your mind and body enough to at least reduce the number of headaches you may be experiencing? I can’t stress enough how important it is to look after yourself properly and by this I mean leading a healthy life style.  Start with the basics, such as eating healthily, exercising more and cutting right down on alcohol (sorry, but alcohol in the long term does not relax our bodies and it definitely doesn’t allow us a good night’s sleep). You don’t need to join a fancy gym to get a good level of exercise- go out for a walk after dinner, build this up to a jog or a run if you’re up for a bit of a challenge. Try to get a good night’s sleep every night, it really will do wonders. The body repairs itself when we’re #sleeping, getting us ready for the day ahead, so if you’re existing on less than 7 hours a night try to adjust this as soon as you can. Avoiding too much caffeine is something else that will help reduce tension headaches- you may feel as though you can’t get through the day without several cups of coffee but try to reduce the amount you have.
If you find yourself in a situation where you feel yourself tensing up, try to remove yourself from it for 5 minutes; go for a walk, stretch your muscles, take a few deep breaths and repeat some positive thoughts in your head. Negativity and telling yourself you can’t do something will not help your tension levels- or that band of pain across your forehead and eyes. Taking yourself out of a situation can also sometimes help your mind to work out a problem that you just cannot get your head round whilst you’re sat in front of it.
Let go of problems that aren’t yours or that you know you cannot solve, have a #relaxing shower or bath, take up yoga or simply take 15 minutes every day to sit quietly or listen to relaxing music. Deep breathing will certainly help and try putting a cold flannel on your head at the same time to ease the pain. It is also a good idea to write down when you have a headache- the date and what may have triggered it. This will help you to understand what could be causing your headaches.
Finally, if you’re a #smoker, quit! Nicotine reduces blood flow to the brain and this can trigger tension headaches, as well as a whole host of other health issues.

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We have probably all been guilty at some point in our lives of comfort eating, overindulging and simply just eating for the sake of eating. But comfort eating due to emotional issues is slightly more difficult to deal with. Identifying why we comfort eat in the first place is an extremely important factor in breaking the habit. Because that’s what it will have become over a long period of time: a habit.
Once you have identified which emotions have you reaching for food, the next step is to find an alternative activity that will then also – over time - become a habit. I am very aware that this is easier said than done, but the point here is that it absolutely can be achieved and just takes a strong focus and plenty of practise. Take some time to write a list of activities that you enjoy; it doesn’t have to be anything complicated or strenuous, it just needs to take your mind off consuming excess food that your body most likely doesn’t need. Go for a walk, have a bath, do housework or call a friend or relative; the list of things to do is endless and will remove your focus away from food.
Sometimes there is nothing you crave more than comfort food, but stop and ask yourself whether you are really, truly hungry and whether you really, really need it. Chances are, you don’t. If you have that awareness that you’re comfort eating, as opposed to doing it automatically, that is a great first step to putting a stop to it. It doesn’t take us long to get in to new habits, at which point we start to do things naturally without thinking about them. Cravings do go away if you don’t give in to them, it just takes that bit of determination that you do have if you put your mind to it.
Once you stop comfort eating, reward yourself with little (non-food ) treats such as a manicure, a new item of clothing or a spa treatment. There are numerous alternatives to food and it is simply a case of retraining our minds to reach our goals. If we reinforce habits and behaviours, they become natural to us in our everyday lives and in the long term we just don’t even think about them.
Think about a healthier you; write down your emotional triggers and your choice of alternative activities and from here, you will create an awareness of why you’re doing it, how you’re going to overcome it and when you want to achieve those goals.
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