hi Jeannine and thank you for your comment. I find that one of the first responses from men regarding women who are anti porn, is that you must be a frigid, lesabian man hating sex hating religious freak, any or all of the previous. My porn addicted partner was obsessed with porn, and made me feel less of a woman, less of a sexually attractive human being. He could not own up to the fact that his inability to perform was down to his porn addiction, and so he made me feel like the least attractive woman on earth. I want women to own their own sexuality. To be proud of who they are and know that if their guy has a problem with sex, it is the man's problem, not theirs. You don't have to dress like a nun to be anti porn. I realise it is not exactly the most demure picture I have of myself, but it is to make a point.
I hope you will come to the sight, as my approach to helping partners is also not conventional and pretty 'in your face'. which again, is deliberate. There are few resources to help the partner and even fewer that use humour and a 'put yourself first' message out there. Too many expect the woman to stand by her man, even though it is destroying her self esteem and even her soul. I came through and my humour kept me sane. It took a long time before I could see myself as even vaguely attractive again, let alone sexually atrractive.
It's not always to everyone's taste or approval and that is fine. I would like to hear your story, if you care to share it with me. I would like to help if I can. If not, I wish you all the best in your journey anyway.