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Kate Ranta
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He Spent Compulsively, Had No Friends, and Shot his Dog in the Head
I know I haven't blogged in awhile. I don't really know why...other than to say that writing about these things can be emotionally exhausting. So I avoid. But I've thought of a few things recently, so I find myself back here. Compulsive online shopping. Whe...

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A Rant to Victim-Blamers about Victim-Blaming
Unless you've been under a rock the past several weeks, you've probably seen the video. You know the one. Baltimore Ravens RB Ray Rice knocking out his then-fiancée Janay. We finally saw what happened inside that elevator--the truth wasn't surprising. Sadly...

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I'm Angry. Really Fucking Angry.
I was challenged by a good friend on Facebook to do the 7 days of being grateful thing, or whatever it's called, but today I'm struggling. I feel very angry. I think I'll pour out all the anger here, as I never have before, and start the grateful challenge ...

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Guest Blogger! The Beginning—​Red Flags
I'm welcoming guest blogs by family and friends who know me best! My first guest blogger is my dear friend, Kaysha, who wanted to share her thoughts and feelings about what she saw early on in my relationship with Tom. We texted yesterday after she emailed ...

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The Time When He Showed My Son the Gun
I want to talk about the guns. He grew up around them. His father put guns in his hands at a very young age. There's a picture of him at around age 3-4 holding a dead duck by the neck. The duck was about as big as he was. Many parents in this country do the...

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I Want to Talk about Abuse and PTSD
Cynics tend to scoff at PTSD. Stuff that goes on in people's brains isn't visible; so it must not be real, right? We must just be making it up...or being overly dramatic...or too sensitive...or seeking attention. I see comments such as those on social media...

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The Time When His Father Called Him a Sociopath
Oh how I wish I had the email his father sent him in the first several months I knew him. He had already told me about his strained/non-existent relationship with his father, who lived in some extremely remote area in South Dakota. He said his father loved ...

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The Time When He Got Me to Remove My Signature Mole
You know how Cindy Crawford has a signature mole? Well, I had one, too. It was on the side of my nose. I actually always liked it. I thought it gave my face some character. It wasn't outrageously large or anything. In fact, when I lived in LA in mid-90s, I ...

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The Time When He Evaluated My Genitals
This is embarrassing and so super personal and beyond mortifying, and some may not agree with this level of detail, but <throws hands up in air> here it goes. This is my blog and my story. He made me feel insecure about a very, VERY private thing: my body. ...

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The Time When He Made Me Lose My Male Friends
The damage he caused in my co-parenting relationship--due to jealousy and control issues--was bad. But, he also didn't want me to have any male friends in general. He couched it in "protectiveness" with manipulative compliments. That he "knew how men though...
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