That was refreshingly candid. I have not done those sorts of things this person has to a partner, though in reading through them, I was reminded of some of the much smaller ways I lacked respect at times, and saw it in this person's deeds.
Of course, I was much younger, insecure, and afraid of women enough that I did not always feel satisfied until I had some control over them or emotional edge.
I'm not sure why that mattered to me at the time, but I could never do it without a lot of hidden cognitive dissonance. Afterward I would panic at my behavior, and that would only make the situation worse.
After I finished my undergraduate studies, 'geting girls' was not some sport anymore. I enjoyed being on my own and had an academic post that was very fulfilling, and after that my relationships happened without moving too fast and felt more natural. If it didn't work out, I might have a freak out but I would not let them know, since this as I learned risked a more bitter exchange that only would hurt her more and make me like myself less.
After each breakup they became easier, and I'm most happy for this because I now have the emotonal resources to focus on giving respect to a partner who I date without pushing them, forcing opinions on them, or feeling like I have to assert my 'bro' intellect to create their sense of inferiority and my sense of control.
Only now do I feel in control now that I feel no pressure to be. I can just get to know women and we can let one another grow according to our natural development without the need to own. As an adolescent I was girl crazy, but now that I can chill the fuck out, I can't believe how different it feels to appreciate the little and awesome things about women, and I mean all of them, when your mind isn't on getting them, but just noticing what they do and say.