Making people feel like they are beneath you is so easy to do. All it takes is a making snide comment about their appearance, or maybe spouting some pseudo-intellectual babble to make them feel stupid. I used to do it all the time. I didn't have much self-esteem and I carried around a lot of guilt/shame so I built myself up by knocking others down. Two summers ago, I did it to someone who was going through a tough time in her life and it hurt her far more than I knew. I didn't even know I had done it. This was someone that I truly respected and admired and I made her feel like she was a piece of shit! She carried it around for months. When she finally told me what I had done, I was shocked. I had no idea that my off-the-cuff remarks carried so much weight. Since then, I've resolved to never do that again, and to do whatever I can to make people feel better about themselves. I thought that picking people up would be just as easy putting them down, but it's not at all. It's much more difficult. People seem to have a hard time accepting compliments, and an even harder time accepting love. I think it's because we are used to any compliment, particularily from a stranger, coming with conditions. If someone does anything nice for us, they are going to want something in return, right? I don't think that belief is going to change much anytime soon, but I'm going to try anyway. I don't need any more returns on kindness and I should certainly have plenty to invest. I'm extremely fortunate to even be alive. I have a loving family, wonderful friends, and every single day I have opportunities and resources that some people dream about for a lifetime without ever getting. My New Year's Resolution is to not forget that... this year, or ever!
Happy New Year!! If no one's told you today... Lee Miller loves you!