Mustabation! The three musts... You must, is simply not true and can be unhealthy...

1. I must do well and win the approval of others for my performances or else I am no good.
2. Other people must treat me considerately, fairly and kindly, and in exactly the way I want them to treat me. If they don't, they are no good and they deserve to be condemned and punished.
3. I must get what I want, when I want it; and I must not get what I don't want. It's terrible if I don't get what I want, and I can't stand it. Arrrrgh lmao

The first belief often leads to anxiety, depression, shame, and guilt. The second belief often leads to rage, passive-aggression and acts of violence. The third belief often leads to self-pity and procrastination. It is the demanding nature of the beliefs that causes the problem.

Less demanding, more flexible beliefs lead to healthy emotions and helpful behaviours...
REBT! Rational Emotive Behavioural Therapy.... :O)
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