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Mark Peter Dunn
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I was very stressed and unhealthy...
I was very stressed and unhealthy...

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What is meditation versus self enquiry?

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A story by Szasz Kinga and Mark Google Dunn <3

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A great way to understand how self-enquiry can help you....
www.positivemeditation.com

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Fear and Need - Two sides of the same coin.....

Have you ever been frustrated with your partner because of their fears? Do you ever wish your partner could be more open-minded and let go of their anxieties or stresses?

Before going on a journey to try to change your partner and to try to get rid of their fears it is worth stopping, taking a breath and noticing what 'needs' are arising in you: 

What 'freedom' are you needing? And is that need really allowing you to be free in this moment? Do you 'need' to change your partner? Do you 'need' them to get rid of their fears?  And what is your motivation behind all these needs?


The moment you enter into neediness you will feel a tightening in your body. You too have actually entered into fear. Because need and fear are two sides of the same coin..... 

Once you have observed that you have gone into neediness and tightening then it may well be worth looking into it what it is you are craving and, by doing so, accepting your role in the need/fear dynamic that is arising in your relationship.

The reason this process is valuable is because we so often get caught up in trying to change our partners without recognising that our need is as strong as their fears! The ego-based behaviour we can so easily recognise in others is sometimes harder to spot in ourselves. The key to spotting when we have become attached to an outcome (become needy) is to be aware of the sensations in our body. Whenver we attach to an outcome or argue with the current situation a tension arises somewhere in our body. This is our body saying to us. "Hey you've gone into need mode. And it hurts me...."

Freedom comes from recognising that your need not only hurts you but can also be partially responsible for the fears in your partner. When you let go of the need, your body will relax and you will feel lighter and more peaceful. In addition, your partner may recognise this in you and begin to let go of some of their fears. It is a virtuous circle in action....

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Boundaries allow us to be open, to be vulnerable and thus to find peace...

"When you can meet your own vulnerability without armoring yourself against it, you begin to discover what I call "radical openness." All the higher emotions—generosity, gratitude, compassion, forgiveness, and especially, humility—emerge from this place of openness and vulnerability

In order to hold and bear the acute experience of vulnerability, you need an appropriate container. The practice of consciously putting up boundaries is part of creating a container. Creating a boundary can mean something as simple as maintaining a physical distance between you and another person, setting personal limits, being able to say "no" appropriately, and understanding whom you're willing to let into your intimate inner circle. Another form of container is a relationship of trust—certain friendships, your teacher, or a practice community can help you find safe spaces in which to open.

Eventually, when you are living in that center, you may start to experiment. How open can I be in this situation? What do I do when I feel overwhelmed by others' energies? A mature practitioner knows when to put up an energetic barrier or shield, and a kind of automatic protective energy system comes into play when needed. He or she also knows when a barrier or shield is just a device that's blocking intimacy.

When you allow yourself to consciously enter the state of vulnerability, you find that at its heart is peace. The peace that comes from standing poised in the aching heart of life. The peace that is your true protection, your invulnerable core." Sally Kempton.

http://www.positivemeditation.com/blog.html
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