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Oh, disappointment and rejection.  I know thy bitter kiss well.
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Just had a major nerd moment.  Thought I'd share.

I was just eating lunch and watching the Babylon 5 movie Thirdspace.  No, that's not the moment.

They pulled a giant alien artifact out of hyperspace and were doing initial tests on it when someone reported on their findings.  They said that carbon dating had shown the artifact to be over a million years old.  Ten years ago this would have passed me right by but today it sent up warning flags all over the place.

Carbon dating only works up to fifty thousand years or so.  It's no good for dating anything older than that.  It's also only useful on the remains of living things, so unless this artifact was made of wood or animal carcasses carbon dating would be doubly useless, due to the artifact's extreme age relative to C14's half-life and its chemical composition.

My nerdiness is interfering with my geekiness.

#babylon5   #Science  
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They'd be less likely to get away with that nowatimes, I'd wager.
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Season 4 of Game of Thrones is over and our new season of Academy X is just gearing up, so here's a nice mash-up to commemorate both. 
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Tribune cut me loose today.
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So sorry dude! You'll land on your feet though!
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Multi-tasking is way overrated.  Being able to talk, text, eat and watch TV all at the same time is not impressive.  Show me someone who can devote their full attention to one task for an hour or more and I'll be impressed.
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I have been asked more than once why I take homophobia so much to heart despite not being gay.  That's a complicated issue, but here's my answer.

When I was a kid I had a tough time socially.  I was awkward and didn't handle teasing well and growing up I felt really alienated and unwanted by my peers.  You can imagine what feeling unwelcome for months and years at a time does to a kid's self-esteem, or maybe you don't need to imagine it.  

But when I was twelve I got into a local karate school and it was one of the things that got me through that very long rough patch.  Every day I would go to school and feel like an outsider.  It was like most people didn't care if I was there or not, except the few who went out of their way to be cruel.  But at least when the school day was done I had a place, the dojo, where I didn't feel so weird.  There I was welcome.

Two of the most important people I knew from there were the head instructor, Paul, and his son from his first marriage, Jim.  Jim became a close friend to me and Paul was almost like a second father.  I looked up to and admired him deeply.  They lived close to us and I visited their house frequently as Jim did mine.

Then along the way Jim announced, after spending some time with his mother and her family, that he was gay and didn't want to hide it any more.  That's when things turned sour.  Paul was very conservative, religious and strict.  His son's sexuality was something he couldn't accept and it affected them both profoundly.

Jim couldn't handle his father's disapproval toward him and he started to self medicate with booze and drugs.  Meanwhile Paul grew cold and distant and the whole temperature of the dojo changed.  Before all this happened (and maybe there were other factors going on behind the scenes I don't know about) training was fun.  He trained us hard, but we could still enjoy what we were doing.  After that the joy just kind of drained out of it and Paul became hard and humorless and the whole atmosphere of the dojo followed.

I stopped going to the dojo after my junior year of high school, and Jim, a year older than me, went off to college.  I still saw Jim from time to time over the next few years but he was kind of on a downward spiral that whole time.  I only saw Paul once or twice after.  It's been over ten years since I've seen either of them.  They were two of the most important people in my life and my friendship with both just sort of disintegrated.

That's why I go so hard against homophobia.  I've seen what it does to everyone around it.  It harms, dehumanizes and tears apart.  It's just a form of bigotry like any other and all bigotry can do is tear things down.  It has no other power.  I just hope both of them have been able to move past it all and find some peace with it.

At a time when I had few friends to spare and few places to go where I felt the least bit welcome, I lost a friend, a mentor and a safe-haven all because one man couldn't get past his own prejudice, and what I lost is nothing in comparison to what Jim and even Paul himself must have suffered.  I missed them both dearly senior year.

I still miss them.

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It's a weird idea, isn't it, that you should only care about gay issues if you yourself is gay. I mean, people care about the rights of other people? Ehrmagerd! 
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My air conditioner died last night so I got up early this morning, headed to Lowe's bought a new one, lugged it home, installed it and the cord came up two feet short of the outlet, headed back to Lowe's for an extension.  Lot of effort just to stay cool.
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Anybody looking for a good game on the cheap?  The complete XCOM is featured on the Steam Summer Sale today.  Core game and all the DLC for $16.50.  It's a steal.  XCOM is the bomb.
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This particular incident has really stuck with me.  I wonder if maybe this is the male side of media deluging us with unrealistic expectations about love and happiness.  Women who can't live up to the airbrushed, lipo-suctioned ideal internalize their dissatisfaction until they get eating disorders and awkward, lonely men sit alone at night with nothing to do but nurse their resentment until, once in a while, it boils over.
I had a lot of those feelings. I thought a lot of those thoughts. I'm not fully sure why or how I grew past it, but luckily for me, and others, I did. But others don't. Why?
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Re-shared for +Rob Kirker who loves Venn diagrams.
 
#ENOUGHsaid yet my lost to absurd, misguided, violent, murderous, ethnic cleansing, hate-filled, fantasy worshiping #GOODchristiansMyASS family, friends, fellow citizens, and peers yet? EXACTLY!

#SCIENCEisMyGOD #OccamsRAZOR #FACTSonlyPLEASE #GodsAREimaginary #Atheism = #TRUEmorality
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Ha! Good stuff :)
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