I wanted to take a moment out from my chemotherapy haze to vent about #wheniwas
for sexual "assault". I used quotations for a reason. The first example I read was "when I was 13 a friends mother at the pool told me my chest was too big-she said I should be wearing a t shirt or a high neck swimsuit. I felt body shamed." >>I myself have a big chest. At 13 you are just getting used to having your boobies. No your tits do not need to be hanging out at the pool. When I was 12 I wore a Betty Boop tshirt. As I developed all the boys at school called me Betty Boobs. It was the early 80's. However neither of those things are sexual assault. Put your tits away and quit your whining. The second example I read was "when I was in middle school. A principal pulled me aside to tell me I needed a bra. I screamed why are you looking at my boobs." Well honey, he was looking at your boobs because you needed a bra. AND that again was not sexual assault see the betty boobs story I lived. The whole hashtag disrespects real feminist.
Feminist who were gang raped in the back of cars in the 1950's impregnated and sent away. Women who were smacked on the tush. Pinched,grabbed,and held up against cigarette machines just trying to pour coffee at Diners. Women who didn't run out with their tits hanging out expecting no one to say a word.
I say all this as someone who worked in the adult entertainment industry. Someone who worked in bars. Someone who worked in retail selling lingerie. Someone who has spent a good amount of their life with their tits hanging out. I have heard it all. And then some. I have also experienced rape. I have experienced friends rapes. Abuse verbally and physically. I know what is right and what is wrong.
It is not wrong to tell you that your swimsuit is inappropriate. It is not wrong to tell you-you need a bra. It is not sexual assault for someone to whistle at you. It is very far from it. I understand that if you look at a girl wrong these days you can get sent to jail. So I understand the delusion that younger women have about the definition of sexual assault. It is clearly what made this hashtag of the day a complete failure.