This is coming from a male who was mostly raised by his mother and had a father but he wasnt around all that much. My mom did NOT give me confidence. My mother did NOT give me security. My father who was there whenever he could even against my mothers wishes did do those things. She tried very hard to keep him out of our lives and to distance us from him even when he would move miles and miles to be closer to us. It depends on the mother and father on how the child ends up. It is both of their jobs to do those things. That doesnt mean that they always will.