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Paul Samakow
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Personal Injury Lawyer serving Northern Virginia and Maryland
Personal Injury Lawyer serving Northern Virginia and Maryland

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Hi Friends.

Today, I want to share a few things I came across this last week. In no particular order, a very funny “test” to determine how sharp you are, or, perhaps, bordering on dementia.

Next, why are buttons on men’s and women’s shirts on different sides?

Finally, what it takes to be a good listener.

Sharp, or demented a bit? Also known as the senior citizen test.

Take this test to determine if you're losing it or not. Answers can be found at the bottom so you can think about them a bit before you scroll down to look.

#1. What do you put in a toaster?

#2. Say 'silk' five times. Now spell 'silk.' What do cows drink?

#3. If a red house is made from red bricks, and a blue house is made from blue bricks, and apink house is made from pink bricks, and a black house is made from black bricks, what is a green house made from?

#4. Do not use a calculator for this:

You are driving a bus from New York City to Philadelphia.
In Staten Island, 17 people got on the bus.
In New Brunswick, 6 people get off the bus and 9 people get on.
In Windsor, 2 people get off and 4 get on.
In Trenton, 11 people get off and 16 people get on.
And, in Camden, 6 people get off and 3 get on.

You then arrive at Philadelphia Station.

Without going back to review, how old is the bus driver?

Shirt Buttons:

The different styles date all the way back to when buttons were invented, around the 13th century. Only wealthy women could afford to have buttons on their shirts, and if you were wealthy, you also had ladies maids. So having the buttons on the other side made sense, because it was someone else buttoning your clothes.

Listening?

Most people think they are good listeners. They also think they are above average drivers.

Most people, apparently, if asked, would reflect and say good listening is doing three things:
Not talking when others are speaking
Letting others know you’re listening through facial expressions and verbal sounds (“Mmm-hmm”)
Being able to repeat what others have said, practically word-for-word
These three things are a good start.

Two guys who did a comprehensive study found a few more things worthy of note in this discussion.
Good listening is much more than being silent while the other person talks. To the contrary, people perceive the best listeners to be those who periodically ask questions that promote discovery and insight. These questions gently challenge old assumptions, but do so in a constructive way. Sitting there silently nodding does not provide sure evidence that a person is listening, but asking a good question tells the speaker the listener has not only heard what was said, but that they comprehended it well enough to want additional information. Good listening was consistently seen as a two-way dialog, rather than a one-way “speaker versus hearer” interaction. The best conversations were active
Good listening included interactions that build a person’s self-esteem. The best listeners made the conversation a positive experience for the other party, which doesn’t happen when the listener is passive (or, for that matter, critical!). Good listeners made the other person feel supported and conveyed confidence in them. Good listening was characterized by the creation of a safe environment in which issues and differences could be discussed openly.
Good listening was seen as a cooperative conversation. In these interactions, feedback flowed smoothly in both directions with neither party becoming defensive about comments the other made. By contrast, poor listeners were seen as competitive — as listening only to identify errors in reasoning or logic, using their silence as a chance to prepare their next response. That might make you an excellent debater, but it doesn’t make you a good listener. Good listeners may challenge assumptions and disagree, but the person being listened to feels the listener is trying to help, not wanting to win an argument
Good listeners tended to make suggestions. Good listening invariably included some feedback provided in a way others would accept and that opened up alternative paths to consider. This finding somewhat surprised us, since it’s not uncommon to hear complaints that “So-and-so didn’t listen, he just jumped in and tried to solve the problem.” Perhaps what the data is telling us is that making suggestions is not itself the problem; it may be the skill with which those suggestions are made. Another possibility is that we’re more likely to accept suggestions from people we already think are good listeners. (Someone who is silent for the whole conversation and then jumps in with a suggestion may not be seen as credible. Someone who seems combative or critical and then tries to give advice may not be seen as trustworthy.)
Senior Citizen Test Answers:

Answer #1: 'bread.' If you said 'toast', just give up now and go do something else. And, try not to hurt yourself.

Answer #2: Cows drink water. If you said 'milk” you again put the water before the horse.

Answer #3: Greenhouses are made from glass. If you said 'green bricks', why are you still reading this??? PLEASE, go lie down.

Answer #4: If you didn’t get this one, oh my. You are the driver. What is your age?

By the way, don’t fret: 95% of people fail most of the questions.

Have a good week.

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Hope everyone enjoyed their weekend!
My weekly article is now available online!
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