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Victoria Noe
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As it turns out, it's very easy to shut them down. And you don't even have to smack them.
A couple weeks ago we considered the Grief Police. They’re the people who are more than willing to tell you how to grieve the death of your friend. In fact, they’re probably telling you that you’re making too big a deal out o...
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Here's a little hint about my next book - Friend Grief and the Military: Band of Friends (coming Memorial Day). Spoiler alert: it's not like in the movies.
Conlan Carter as Doc on "Combat!" Imagine you work in an emergency room. You’re an orderly, maybe – no rank in the pecking order. You might be the only one there to help, or you might have help, but not from a doctor or nurs...
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Not a hero or a victim, just a guy doing what he felt he had to do. Best book I've read this year.
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Now with updated statistics and resources - because AIDS is not history.
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I was a guest on "After Hours with Rick Kogan" on WGN Radio last weekend. We had a great time talking about why we grieve our friends. We laughed, too. Seriously.
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A little preview of what you can expect in my next book, Friend Grief and the Military: Band of Friends.
Conlan Carter as Doc on "Combat!" Imagine you work in an emergency room. You’re an orderly, maybe – no rank in the pecking order. You might be the only one there to help, or you might have help, but not from a doctor or nurs...
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They're at it again. We've all met them, haven't we? What would you like to hear people say to you instead?
You know who they are, because they made you feel like this. You tell them your friend died, and they probably said one of these things to you:              “I know just how you feel. My dog died.’  “Aren’t you over that...
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As part of the release of the updated Friend Grief and AIDS: Thirty Years of Burying Our Friends, I've included those new statistics and resources on my blog.
This is the updated information from Friend Grief and AIDS: Thirty Years of Burying Our Friends, reflecting new statistics on HIV/AIDS around the world and additional resources:                 On World AIDS Day, 2013...
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Where I think I've figured out why we mourn when a celebrity "friend" dies.
suntimes.com There’s been a lot on the news, on the internet, in the papers the past 48 hours about the death of writer/director/actor Harold Ramis; even more here in Chicago, because he was one of “us”. Again – as we saw re...
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As it turns out, guilt and regret are not the same thing.
Guilt: responsibility for a crime or for doing something bad or wrong; a bad feeling caused by knowing or thinking that you have done something bad or wrong. Regret: to mourn the loss or death of; to miss very much; to be ve...
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Sharing stories of people mourning their friends and changing their lives.
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This blog is about people's experiences grieving the death of a friend: their frustration at finding their grief was not respected, as well as the remarkable ways they changed their own lives as a tribute to that friend. And I owe it all to a friend.
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    Theatre, 1972 - 1976
  • Webster University
    Theatre, 1970 - 1972
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Random Thoughts on Friend Grief
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Last week, there was a horrific crash on I-94 near Michigan City, Indiana. Four dozen vehicles – including 18 semis – were involved in the a

Death Cafe
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January 2014 Chicago-area Death Cafés Join us at these upcoming Death Cafés. To learn more, go to www.DeathCafe.com January 22, 2014 Curt’s

Book review of Friend Grief and AIDS: - Readers' Favorite: Book Reviews ...
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Friend Grief and AIDS: Thirty Years of Burying Our Friends by Victoria Noe is one of a series of books about techniques for handling grief.

Articles by Victoria Noe - Page Noe
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Victoria Noe Theatre and Broadway Articles

Victoria Noe
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Author of Friend Grief and AIDS, Friend Grief and Anger, and Friend Grief and 9/11

'You'll Never Get a Date Now': On Being Straight in the AIDS Community
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It was 1989, and I'd just told a former boyfriend that I was taking a break from my fundraising consulting practice to become the developmen

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G+ page for Damon DiMarco, actor, author

Dealing With the Grief of Losing a Friend to AIDS?
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Writer Victoria Noe's new book has some suggestions for all of us.

Avoid Friend Guilt
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When someone dies, those left behind often feel some measure of guilt. Sometimes the guilt is directly related to the death: why didn’t I ta

New Indie Book Release: Friend Grief and 9/11: The Forgotten Mourners (V...
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Those who were killed on September 11, 2001 left behind more than family members. They left thousands of friends who are often forgotten and

Welcome to my guest blog fest
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For the next three and a half weeks I’m going to turn Choices over to the voices of other wonderful and experienced writers. I’ve asked twel

UNDERGROUND & DEATH PANEL by Jim Eigo
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UNDERGROUND & DEATH PANEL by Jim Eigo Underground (Union Square) On the crowded subway platform a space had cleared around the couple. For r

30 Questions to Ask Yourself Before You Die
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30 questions worth pondering at every stage of life.

Spilled Milk: In Case of Inferno, Evacuate
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A couple of weeks ago a fire tried to eat our town. You may have heard about it on TV. My mother called from 3,000 miles away to say Brian W

Welcome to the Death Cafe
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What would you consider a good death?

BWW Reviews: AN UNBROKEN BOND: The Untold Story of How the 658 Cantor Fi...
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What more can be said about 9/11 and the families who lost loved ones on that horrific day? Well, as it turns out, there is a lot more to le

Friend Grief and Death Cafe - Guest Post from Kristie West
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Kristie West I’m thrilled to welcome Kristie West to Friend Grief. I met Kristie on Twitter last year, and though she’s in London and I’m in

A Body That Only One Million Moms Could Hate
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The conservative group has its panties in a bunch over a sexy salad dressing campaign.

Self-Publishing Insights: Q&A With Victoria Noe - DIY MFA
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The second Q&A in our Self-Publishing Insights Series. Today we hear from Victoria Noe, author of FRIEND GRIEF AND ANGER and FRIEND GRIEF AN

Ether for Authors: United We Divide : Publishing Perspectives
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The week's web buzz: Ann Patchett encourages authors to work with traditional publishers and gets rebuffed, a map of the five paths to publi