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Ambient Conversation - www.akashicreading.com

Most people think of conversations as what we say. They think that what they express is through words, through speaking, through talking it out.  There's the printed word as well.  Words on the screen, on the page, on the wall.  Meaning comes through saying what we mean and meaning what we say.  Whether we're talking around a person or directly to them, we feel that the message we want to impart needs to be through words. And for many people the challenge is to empower ourselves to speak the truth, be honest, be fearless and vulnerable and therefore take a further step into an authentic and wholehearted life.

However we often ignore the way in which we express things through our actions or inactions.  My cat is a great teacher on this subject.  She'll be doing something on her own and the next thing I know she's rolling on the floor near me, talking about how good life is, making happy chuffing noises and looking at me out of the corner of her eye periodically. If that doesn't get my attention then she'll come and sit or crouch just close enough to me that her tail touches me when she flicks it.  I call this behavior passive/aggressive.  :)  My passive/aggressive kitty.  All of this an attempt to coerce me to stop doing whatever I'm doing, usually work on the computer, go downstairs and open the door so she can go outside.  It would be much more effective if she were to goto the door and meow at me, but then it wouldn't seem like my idea.  Why be responsible and all confrontational when you can be cute and get petted and loved up for free in addition to getting the access you want?  LOL

I'm not recommending being passive/aggressive nor do I think that rolling on the floor next to someone is going to get you the end result you're looking for.  But feel free.  What I am saying is that direct communication sometimes doesn't get you what you're looking for or leaves win/win benefits untouched.  For example, if you think that your sweetheart could achieve some of their goals by taking on gentle yoga, telling them so directly might get you a polite version of mind-your-own-business.  But talking with friends about how much you enjoy a particular class or routine (while you're in earshot of your spouse), getting the kids involved in it, making it and other healthy activities part of your own routine and hanging out with others that do puts the message in the air without needed to talk about it at all.  This gives them the opportunity to make choices for themselves apart from any relationship dynamic between the two of you and lets it seem as if it's their idea.  Who knows, they might be inspired in a direction you hadn't thought of and open up vistas you've not explored.  And now my kitty thinks I need to go check on that whole door open or shut thing. :)
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Permission - www.akashicreading.com

In spiritual and therapeutic circles we talk about "giving permission." We give ourselves permission to do this or that, be this or that. We give other's permission to be or do this thing or the other.  We release unnecessary boundaries that are holding us back from being authentic and fully experiencing all we can be and what is possible.  Yay!!! At least, we try to, when we get there, when we are brave enough to be vulnerable, to realize we've lost our authority along the way and we struggle to find it again.

I love that and I'm all for it. I sometimes point out to my clients that they are asking me to give them permission to do something they don't need permission to do.  I laugh and comedically put on the "Hat of Authority" for them for a moment and use the "Wand of Permission" to bless them and allow them access to the kingdom of what they already had and already were.  We all get a kick out of it and it allows for healing.  But there is also a level of giving permission that has nothing to do with words, with perceived roles or power.  It has to do with actions.

Often we want to empower those we love, to give others permission to be vulnerable, to take chances, so we wait like spotters at the gym, available to support them in doing this difficult task and to keep them safe. Meanwhile, they are waiting for us to go first.  They are waiting to see how it works, what it looks like to be vulnerable, to hear our stories and see our beauty before they are willing to expose their own. And so like two people at a door we say "No, you first," while they say "No, you first," and neither of us goes through the door.  Leading through our actions isn't just about the courage to do something, many times its about the courage to be something. To be that something in public where others can see. It's about being vulnerable. Our actions create the path that others can walk. Our examples create the template that others will use to build their lives, one vulnerable step at a time. So don't wait to give someone permission to be themselves, show them they don't need it.
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Too Too - www.akashicreading.com

Life can get out of balance even if we're leaning in the right direction.  You know, too much of a good thing and alla that.  We can get too open to whatever happens and miss out on the sign posts pointing us towards the amazing next steps awaiting us.  Yes, life is rich and full of opportunities, but if you've already ordered your meal and then get up and run after the ice cream truck, you not only miss out on an amazing meal, you leave behind some bad feelings and waste the effort of those who were involved in the transaction.  Being open to opportunity shouldn't cause us to become the dog from UP! squirrel  We can balance being open to opportunities, keeping an open mind and child like wonder while still holding our boundaries, keeping sight of our goals, and shouldering our responsibilities.

We can also get too focused on the goal.  When we get focused on one goal, on one want or need, we channel all of our energy into that to the detriment of everything else.  All other facets of our lives can become converted into facets of the goal or they can become obstacles to overcome instead of being part of a gloriously interconnected life.  Too much focus can get us into a rut seeing only one best way to achieve things and deselecting everything other opportunity because it doesn't conform to what we want.  We can disregard anything that might divert us from our goal and our plans even though the diversions are diversions but attempts to get us to course correct and stop missing the forest for the trees.

Sometimes life is a roller coaster, sometimes slow and steady wins the race, but having the balance of the dancer, of the yogi, of the martial artist teaches us that it's not about being rock solid but being able to flow with change, to adjust and shift while still being centered in the self that allows us to achieve and succeed and live.
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Being Known - www.akashicreading.com

We all like to be known and be seen.  Well, as long as how we're known is a positive thing.  No one likes to be the local pariah.  However, there's a more practical side of being known and seen.  Life is going on all around us all the time.  We're not an island in it, we're part of it, involved in it up to our eyeballs and beyond so what we do affects others and what they do affects us.  How we connect with them or don't, how we are known and seen affects the way in which we interact and are interacted with.

For example: Just a few minutes ago my next door neighbor had his door kicked in.  Not by hooligans or terrorists or burglars, but by the fire department.  Someone in the family left something on the stove and then everyone left.  The burning and smoke set off the fire alarms and the fire department responded.  Yay!!!  However, they had no means of getting in other than kicking in the door.  The fire was put out, the smoke pushed out of the house with several large fans, and the emergency was resolved with minimal fuss although I'm not sure about the extent of the damage.

The issue is, how to contact my neighbors to let them know.  Neither I nor anyone else in our cul-de-sac knows their cell phone numbers.  Because, you know, neighbors.  If we want something we just go next door when they are home and ask them about it.  We all know lots about them, but how to get ahold of them in an emergency? Not so much. Things could have been worse and it won't be the most pleasant surprise when they get home, but the fire fighters blocked the doorway up so that no one can just go in and ransack the place.  The door and the jamb are a total loss, unfortunately.

So when you think about how you are known, by whom, in what way, make sure that there are those around you in your physical proximity that know how to get ahold of you, just in case.  That know you have pets and where they are...just in case. That know what might be precious to you, what to look for, what to save...just in case.  It might never be necessary, it might never be possible to act on the information, but better to be known than not.  There are some surprises we can do without.
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And Now...Yesod - www.akashicreading.com

Yep, still working on the Kabbalah class.  The kewl part is that I'm at Yesod which is roughly equivalent to 2nd chakra.  It's all about relationships and manifestation.  In fact, I'm elbow deep in relationship writing and mirror poetry.  I'm all about Rumi and Susan Griffin's Woman and Nature: The Roaring Inside Her at the moment.

It's a little bit hard to tell, but the picture here is the quilt block for this Sephirah and the Hebrew has been stitched on it. You can see the stitching running across his elbow if you squint. :)

Also, my amazing sister, Margaret Joyce continues to compose original music for each meditation.  You can check out a sample of on the website here: http://wp.me/p1t1N6-17L  

Let me know what you think.
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Expectations and To Do Lists - www.akashicreading.com

We are so very bad at it.  It's amazing.  It's as if we're seeing our goals reflected in a hall of mirrors in the Fun House at a carnival and we're setting our expectations and creating our To Do lists based on that reflection.  We're either setting goals way too high so they are completely out of reach or we're taking on so much that we destroy ourselves on the way to getting there.  Then we double down on our goal dysmorphia by seeing the problem not in the goal we've set or how we're attempting to achieve it, but as moral failure within ourselves.  facepalm

One of the more common of these is the New Year's resolution to lose weight.  The goal isn't the problem.  Being healthy, eating better, losing weight to feel better, increased self-esteem, it's all good.  However, the fun house mirror we see this through twists the image so we don't see how this is best achieved through gradual life changes, through reforming habits, through positive reinforcement, and so on.  Instead it seems as if we can use a quick fix, a supplement, a cleanse, a diet plan, a completely new and strenuous exercise regime, a class or some other thing that will really be THE answer and solve the problem for us.  Problem solved except none of those actually change the underlying issue, the change isn't permanent, can't be sustained and in the end we usually give up after a couple of weeks and are left feeling worse than we did before without having made any real progress towards the goal.

Another example is the punishing "To Do" list.  In the fun house mirror the list looks like it is helping us achieve all of our goals.  It helps us schedule our day to use our time not only wisely but for maximum out put therefore we will achieve our goals in the quickest and best manner possible.  This should help us build self-esteem, be successful, and make our life a perfectly humming engine of productivity.  However, these To Do lists usually convert from tools that support us into gauntlets we have to navigate throughout the day. They can become burdens that we suffer because the fun house mirror view keeps us from seeing that having a good life isn't an item on the list, but the reason the list exists.  It isn't an outcome of achieving the goal, but a reason why we're attempting to reach the goal at all.  Personal time, joy in life and things we enjoy doing should be a part of every To Do list not just because it's a good idea, but because without them the other items have no meaning whatsoever.

Before we start making goals and To Do lists to achieve them, lets stop and check to see if we're looking at our reflection in a regular mirror or one from the fun house.
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Vulnerable Truth - www.akashicreading.com

When people talk about being vulnerable, they are usually referring to a situation where they were seen by other people.  Whether that was on purpose like giving a presentation or not like not knowing your fly is down or your skirt is tucked up in back, these moments expose us...ahem... to others.  We are without protection, without deflection.  We are the shiny object that has drawn people's attention.  Our true selves are on display and it makes us feel.  If can give us feelings of fear, of anxiety, of shame or guilt, but it can also give us access to joy and connection and friendship and deep abiding love.

The thing is, being vulnerable is just as much about ourselves as it is others.  As much as we want to hide who we truly are from others, we want to hide it from ourselves even more. While a slip in public can haunt us for a moment, seeing who we think we truly are makes us squirm like we are being prepared for torture at the hands of the Inquisition. Just as words have power so we refrain from saying them because in speaking them they make things real, so too we hide our vulnerabilities from ourselves because if we become conscious of them then they will become true.  And once they are true there is nothing we can do about it. The bell can't be unrung, what is seen cannot be unseen.  If we acknowledge our vulnerabilities then they become true and we will have to act.

Better to avoid them all together, right?  Better to hide them in being busy, in being competent and playing our roles and being involved in drama and fulfilling everyone else's expectations.  Get a hobby, succumb to an addiction, take on a cause and tilt at a windmill.  Anything, anything to avoid knowing the truth about ourselves.  The wonder of it all is that sunshine cleanses things.  As long as we keep our vulnerabilities in the dark, as long as we keep our true nature hidden, our fears can prey on us and tell us the lies we come to believe.  If we allow ourselves to be vulnerable the sunlight can reach us and we can see clearly who we actually are.  Yes, others will be able to see us to the best of their abilities, filtered through their own masks and fears, but at last we will at least see the truth in ourselves. The vulnerable truth.
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Wholehearted Living - www.akashicreading.com

In Brene Brown's research she's found these 10 things which are the key factors to living a wholehearted life.  I struggle with at least half of them every single day.  sigh What's interesting to me is that when people talk about these things they see the first half as a goal they wish to achieve but come up blank on the how.  When they look at the second half they don't see it as a how, but as a flaw in their core makeup and impossible to overcome.

So if the answer is part of our identity and impossible to heal, then how can we ever live wholeheartedly?  The answer is to realize that our core is actually perfect not irrevocably broken, these things are not insurmountable, and we unlearn them and unbecome them the same way we got here, one step at a time, one day at a time.

1. Cultivating Authenticity (Letting go of what other people think)
2. Cultivating Self-Compassion (Letting Go of Perfectionism)
3. Cultivating a Resilient Spirit (Letting Go of Numbing and Powerlessness)
4. Cultivating Gratitude and Joy (Letting go of scarcity and fear of the dark)
5. Cultivating Intuition and Trusting Faith (Letting go of the need for certainty)
6. Cultivating Creativity (Letting go of comparison)
7. Cultivating Play and Rest (Letting go of exhaustion as a status symbol and productivity as self-worth)
8. Cultivating Calm and Stillness (Letting go of anxiety as a lifestyle)
9. Cultivating Meaningful Work (Letting go of self-doubt and "supposed to")
10. Cultivating Laughter, Song, and Dance (Letting go of being cool and "always in control")
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Authentic Voice - www.akashicreading.com

I don't know how many times I've heard people describe their authentic self, their voice, in these lustrous terms.  It's loving and giving, making the world a better place and doing for others.  It's speaking the unvarnished truth about things and seeing the world clearly. It speaks in ringing tones about everything that's possible and looking to a bright and shiny future.  However, they are stuck because they can't seem to get that voice out of themselves, they can't seem to get past this or that or the other and they just feel stuck with all of these issues and emotions and old baggage that never seems to go away.  They need to get rid of it in order to move forward.

On the outside I make all the acknowledging noises, all the "I hear you" conversational responses because this is their experience of things and they are being honest, vulnerable, and open to the change they see as necessary to have a good and fulfilling life.  On the inside the Warner Brothers sound track where the character's jaw elongates until it hits the floor, the eyes bulge out with an "Awhooga!" and steam comes shooting out their ears is happening.  Just...too...much...irony....overload....tilt!!!  All this time, years perhaps, their authentic voice has been trying to get out, has been trying to be heard, but the most significant person who needs to hear it, embrace it, and validate it is the one person who thinks it's baggage that needs to be jettisoned.  The issues that are most important and which their authentic voice has been screaming about for all this time are the things the person wants nothing to do with and is seeking escape from.  sigh

So I try to help them see that authentic does not mean safe.  It doesn't mean nice. It has nothing to do with socially correct or even polite.  It can be these things, but not to the exclusion of...um...let me think...oh yeah, authenticity.  Sometimes the authentic voice needs to be confrontational.  Sometimes it says No and actually means no.  Sometimes it needs to scream and have a tantrum and express all those things inside which are ugly and valid and perfectly appropriate to the moment and the person. As Brene Brown has talked about in her work, how can we get to that place of happiness and balance and compassion if we aren't willing to look at the issues that are holding us back?  Setting boundaries, thinking of ourselves first and doing what is right for us is leading by example.  If we don't do it for ourselves, if we can't listen to our own authentic voice in all of its moods and with all of its messages, then how can we hear anyone else?
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Who Do You Trust? - www.akashicreading.com

We have trust issues.  There.  I've said it.  Or maybe I should say that we mistrust.  We trust backasswards?  However you want to put it, we're putting out trust in things we shouldn't and mistrusting what we should.

We don't trust our feelings.  On the one hand they are inconvenient, interrupting us at exactly the wrong time concerning exactly the wrong thing and get us all in a swivet when what we need most is to get things done.  On the other hand they keep telling us exactly what we don't want to hear.  They keep pointing out what isn't working, what isn't on track, what isn't in our best interest and we know.  WE KNOW ALREADY!!!!  We aren't going to deal with it right now, we're specifically choosing to not deal with it, it's just the way it is so shut up!  We can't trust those pesky feelings so the less said the better.

Meanwhile we have complete trust in our logical, analytical abilities.  Even though our brain is designed to help us through problems and will make problems where there are none, we completely trust it to make decisions for us. Even though it's not a decision-making engine and sees all options as equal if they have equal risk levels or equal result possibilities.  Even though our analytical brain sees things in grey scale, all things measured on a black and white palate which doesn't in any way take into account a full color spectrum world.  In fact, our brain struggles against the full spectrum, working against it so that it can fit it into the grey scale system which works best for it.  But this is who and what we trust for decision-making.  The black/white, sees all opportunities as equal or works to make them so, creates problems to solve where there are none logic brain.  Um...ok.

It's not that we shouldn't trust our brain, we should.  But we shouldn't trust it to the exclusion of all other aspects of ourselves.  We shouldn't trust it so much that we use it in ways it's not good at like hiring a plumber to make cabinetry or an electrician to roof your house or, like in the recent commercials, hiring a DJ to deal with your financial concerns.  The more we trust all aspects of ourselves, our emotional wisdom as well as our ability to analyze situations, the more we can truly trust ourselves. There's love in that.
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Acts of Love - www.akashicreading.com

When we think or talk about loving ourselves or needing to love ourselves more, most people are talking about a feeling.  We are referring to wanting to feel more compassionate about ourselves, who we are, our identity in the world and in ourselves, and to have better self-esteem.  All of which is great and I'm all for it.  However, we then get stymied in how we might achieve these things.  :(

It's interesting to watch someone talk about these things.  Usually the conversation starts with external issues which aren't working in the person's life.  Relationships, career, family, geographical area, you name it, there are external things that just aren't working for very specific reasons.  The conversation will naturally turn to how this relates to the person's self-worth or value (how they feel about themselves as a person) and how their life is "not good" because of them. But here's where the wacky dramatic twist comes in. Instead of looking at the relationship or situation and attempting to find a way to support positive change so that it aligns with the person having a happy life or even supports them creating high-self esteem, the person will often turn inwards. They will seek out something they can judge themselves negatively with, make themselves morally and integrally wrong and the source of the entire issue, beat themselves up concerning having created and sustain it, and then end the conversation by saying that there is nothing that can be done other than to soldier on trying to correct the internal flaw. 8/

Such gymnastics of illogic happen millions of times per day.  For some reason our external, in the world actions have aided in creating the situation and continue to support its ongoing progress.  Yet the solution is to not solve the problem, blame ourselves for fundamental brokenness, and make no changes externally?  And somehow this is going to help our self-esteem and support us in making a positive life?  Hmmm....Instead, I suggest a radically different approach.  Instead of breaking out the barbed wire in preparation for chastising ourselves into wholeness, why don't we choose to act? Loving ourselves is an active verb from which feelings can grow.  We rarely love our tormentors so perhaps we can stop being one. In each day we can choose to do one thing, one small thing that shows we love ourselves whether that's stopping at the park on the way home, meditating in the morning before the commute instead of putting on our stress suit, taking ourselves somewhere fun on lunch, or playing only fun upbeat music as we do the necessary errands of the day.

Small acts of individuality, of joy or fun or play during the day tell us that we are loved and valued and deserving.  Small acts of love and pleasure each day prove that we are valuable and build our self-esteem where our will has failed time and again.  Take a moment each day not just to affirm or say that you are loved, but to act it out. Actions speak louder than words.
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Premier Akashic reader Teri Uktena has for many years been providing readings and instruction to others in order to advance crucial knowledge of each soul’s purpose in the new millennia.  Having grown up in Cherokee culture and studied with her elders to learn the medicines, ceremonies, and traditions of her people, Teri has expanded her experiences by studying with elders of other tribes and other cultures finding beauty in their uniqueness and amazement in their wisdom.

Teri Uktena works to help people change their lives, to help them achieve their dreams, find divine purpose, and achieve happiness through Akashic Readings. She works with clients to help them remember the spiritual goals they have set for themselves in this life, the true and glorious perfected spirit they are even today, and the opportunities and challenges that await them in the now and in the future.

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  • University of Dallas
    English Lit., 1989
  • California Institute of Integral Studies
    Women's Spirituality
  • Portland Community College - Sylvania Campus
    American Sign Language Interpretation
    Program to become an ASL Interpreter.
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