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Living Outside Reality: A Guest Post by Deanna Doss Shrodes
“I’m not saying any of it is untrue. I’m just uncomfortable with it.” This was
said to me by a family member when I wrote my story (which is now being released by Entourage Publishing as a memoir) on my blog, last year. While the
response to my story was ov...
While the response to my story was overwhelmingly positive to say the least, there were a few family members who were unhappy. No one accused me of stating untruths, at all. In fact, I offered to immediately remove anything that was untrue if it was brought to my attention.
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Adoption History: Georgia Tann
Credit: K. Dahlquist & R. Bangert My thanks to K. Dahlquist & R. Bangert for creating the above graphic and for granting me permission to share it here. I have in fact been doing some research lately, and I  was  surprised by what I learned. Before I began ...
Credit: K. Dahlquist & R. Bangert My thanks to K. Dahlquist & R. Bangert for creating the above graphic and for granting me permission to share it here. I have in fact been doing some research lately, and I was surprised by w...
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Last weekend I attended an absolutely fabulous conference: the St. John's University - Montclair State University Adoption Initiative Conference in Queens, NY. Talk about a meeting of adoption activities! The list of keynote ...
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I have friends who fight human trafficking. Friends who fight domestic violence. Friends who fight racism. Friends who fight world hunger. Photo Credit: Lincoln Blues, Flickr Everyone around them seems to think this ...
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"She meets me where I’m at." <-- I believe this is key ... not just for friendships but for other kinds of relationships as well. 
Laura Dennis Laura Dennis and I first met in the blogging community.  Both of us are writers, with her blog being a popular adoption and parenting blog, the subtitle of which is: The Adaptable (Adopted) Expat Mommy. Laura...
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Lost and Found
I found her relatively
easily, once I worked up the nerve to look. It took me another ten years after
that to find him. Then five years passed before he was ready to find me back. Today, I woke up in
his guest bedroom and walked out into his kitchen. His wa...
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"I don't believe that adoptive parents can completely shield adoptees from the challenges of adoptedness, but we can walk beside them and offer empathy. We can let them know, again and again, that whatever they are feeling is OK and normal."
In the book Beneath the Mask: Understanding Adopted Teens, authors Debbie Riley, M.S., and John Meeks, M.D., discuss three categories of adoptive parents. The following is my paraphrasing of the categories. The Three B's  1...
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I just read this part of this book over the weekend -- glad you've highlighted it here.

(And thanks for the tip about the book :-) )
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Rebecca Hawkes is passionate about supporting families and improving outcomes for fostered, adopted, and other trauma-affected youth. She herself is both an adoptee (by way of baby-scoop-era infant adoption) and an adoptive parent (by way of older-child foster adoption). Together with her adopted daughter's original mother, she cofounded www.AshleysMoms.com and has presented on adoption-related topics at various conferences and other venues. Rebecca's writing has appeared at www.rebeccahawkes.com, www.the-thriving-child.comthelostdaughters.com, Adoption Voices Magazine, BlogHer, the Huffington Post, and Brain,Child magazine, and in the anthologies Lost Daughters: Writing Adoption From a Place of Empowerment and Peace and Adoption Reunion in the Social Media Age. She is certified as a parenting instructor by both the Beyond Consequences Institute and Gordon Training International (Parent Effectiveness Training). She is also a trained MotherWoman facilitator and a former assistant leader for the Parent Peer Leadership Program (leadership training for sharing Nonviolent Communication with parents).

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2014 winner of Women’s Voices Worldwide’s speech competition
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Third Mom: Honor adoptees by honoring their privacy
thirdmom.blogspot.com

There has been a lot of talk this week in my online circles around a post by a popular adoptive parent blogger about her kids and the holida

Why Adoption Contributes to My Fearlessness
www.adopteerestoration.com

More times than I can count, I’ve been asked: Weren't you scared that you'd catch ebola when you went to Africa to preach? (No. It may have

National Adoption Month
reunioneyes.blogspot.com

Adoption is such a personal, private, and now, public thing for me. I find it interesting that it's such a big part of my life, such a big p

Trigger Happy: Adoptees Who Are Successful Even When Living Triggered
www.adopteerestoration.com

Laura Dennis and I are able to do what many other adoptees do every day – succeed in life, despite very regular triggers that come our way.

Please Don't Tell Me How To Feel
adopteeinrecovery.blogspot.com

I have felt the need to share something that’s been on my heart the last 24 hours since I shared my last blog post. I had an adoptive mother

"Why Can't You Just Be Happy?" (Five Truths to Understand)
www.adopteerestoration.com

I have friends who fight human trafficking. Friends who fight domestic violence. Friends who fight racism. Friends who fight world hunger. P

Adoption and Fundraising: When Money to Breaks Down Systemic Barriers fo...
www.declassifiedadoptee.com

Aselefech runs for family preservation. There are a number of factors behind why I was placed for adoption. Economics by far is one of the m

Children are not commodities … unless they are adoptees.
mothermade.blogspot.com

Today, this meme presented its horribly designed self: Anyone who has known me well-enough will know that on first-glance, I was sickened by

How An Agnostic Helps Me Be a Better Minister
www.deannashrodes.net

Laura Dennis Laura Dennis and I first met in the blogging community. Both of us are writers, with her blog being a popular adoption and pare

Mapping the Exits
my--fascinating--life.blogspot.com

So we went to see the social worker. Two of them, actually, and they were really nice. I know what you mean they kept on saying, while makin

Overshare
www.allinthefamilyadoption.com

Yesterday there was a link to a blog written by an adoptive mother being circulated around Facebook and Twitter. In this blog the mother was

What To Do When Your Birth Mother Refuses Contact or Vital Information
noapologiesforbeingme.blogspot.com

This topic has become dear to my heart because as many of you know who read my blog, I have been in a position to be refused information. Ac

Acknowledging My Non-adopted Privilege
adoptionparadigmshift.blogspot.com

Last weekend I attended an absolutely fabulous conference: the St. John's University - Montclair State University Adoption Initiative Confer

Should a mental illness mean you lose your kid?
www.salon.com

Citing "predictive neglect," Missouri and myriad other states are terminating parents' connection to their children

A Little "I'm Sorry" Goes a Long Way
www.adopteerestoration.com

Okey dokey my friends...I can see the handwriting on the wall already about what the response will be to this post. Some of you will probabl