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Atul Sikrai
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A BEAUTIFUL PRAYER I asked God to take away my habit. God said, No. It is not for me to take away, but for you to give it up. I asked God to make my handicapped child whole. God said, No. His spirit is whole, his bo...
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MARRIED OR NOT, YOU SHOULD READ THIS ...

“When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.
Suddenly I didn’t... know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?

I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn’t love her anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn’t have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn’t want anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month’s time and she didn’t want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that every day for the month’s duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Jane about my wife’s divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.

My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn’t looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn’t tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.

Suddenly it hit me… she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it’s time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn’t noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office…. jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind…I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won’t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn’t value the details of our lives, not because we didn’t love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed dead. My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push through with the divorce.— At least, in the eyes of our son— I’m a loving husband….

The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves.

So find time to be your spouse’s friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!

If you don’t share this, nothing will happen to you.

If you do, you just might save a marriage. Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.
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On Earning : Never depend on single income.
Make investment to create a second source.

On Spending : If you buy things you do not
need, soon you will have to sell things you need.

On Saving : Do not save what is left after
spending, but spend what is left after saving.

On Taking Risk : Never test the depth of river
with both feet.

On Investment : Do not put all eggs in one basket

On Expectations : Honesty is very expensive gift.
Do not expect it from cheap people.
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    Sr Vice President, 2006 - present
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Sr Vice President & Head Of Equities wiTdom investment advisory.Founder & Chief Mentor for
Brand Diagonal . Motivation Expert for Esteem Melife.
I have 14 years of experience in Brand building,Marketing & Financial Markets.Person with vision.Long term goal to have ever lasting impact on Capital Markets.Person with Attitude for success in Life and love for wealth and happiness.
Portfolio Manager,Wealth manger,Asset Mangement. wiTdom is a global investment management firm committed to providing sophisticated clients with superior asset... management solutions and services. We offer a broad range of investment products, including equity and fixed income strategies across global developed and emerging markets, as well as absolute return strategies. Our client base includes endowments, pension funds, public funds, foundations and cultural institutions. Atul Sikrai’s exceptional ability to translate his expanding acumen into solid results has differentiated him from the mainstream; setting the stage for a highly-active career. Earning the respect of seniors, Atul’s been recruited & re-recruited, borrowed & loaned; sometimes juggling multiple assignments. This diverse, rapid-paced mix of permanent & consulting work has enabled him to develop an exceptional array of competencies. Multi-hat experience, across has significantly enhanced his expertise and utility. 
Atul Sikrai identifies new business opportunities; develops and prepares marketing presentations that address asset allocation, the selection of Investment Managers in equities, fixed income and alternative investments; works in conjunction with investment research and other areas of the firm to respond to client needs; analyzes client equity, fixed income and alternative investment portfolios; works on discrete projects related to strategic planning, product development and other marketing infrastructure issues. Participates in classes, role-play simulations, and other instructional events conducted by wiTdom professionals on a broad range of topics, including portfolio construction and management, selling techniques, trading language, investment analysis and market specific knowledge in conjunction with investment research and other areas of the firm to respond to client needs.
* Ongoing lead generation project to support regional affiliated office.
* Completes projects and presentations on various products, market strategies, key transactions and research analysis for various business units.
Brand Diagonal
Founder · Mumbai, Maharashtra
Responsible for designing, developing, and presenting comprehensive strategic online and social media plan initiatives. Providing leadership, direction, and rel...evant insights that guide the social media efforts and integrated marketing communications planning for clients and their brands. Applying knowledge to develop social media marketing plans that add value to the brand and identify future opportunities within the social media space. Provide thought leadership and drive innovation across the various engagements. Implement strategy across social channels, monitor and optimize campaigns to drive engagement across projects.Lead the development of insight driven digital strategies from opportunity spotting to experience design for our valued clients. Craft and present recommendations to senior client leadership for approval. Perform detailed evaluation of client business environment including customer needs, capabilities and assets, and competitive realities to identify the right camp.
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  • University of Mumbai
    B.E (Terna Engg)
  • D J Doshi Eng Med
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