I find it a bit awkward when people ask me how I quit so easily, because I don't have a "magic answer" and a lot of people want that (gimme the magic thingy to help me quit this instant! oh you don't have such a thing? pfff, then it's crap - lol). As a side note, prior to that I did try a few times and failed to quit. After thinking about it a lot, I consider it comes down to actually wanting to quit vs just saying you want to quit. Two very different things. I actually wanted to quit so I did. Nicotine is not heroine (and yea I know some people like to be delusional and say things like "nicotine is harded to quit then heroin", but that's idiotic and ignorant). If you want to quit, all you have to do is want it. Well, that's just my not so humble opinion (funny, I did meet over time, some people who were like "oh... 'only' 6 years... that's nothing, that's why you quit so easy", but I think that's just silly and shifts responsibility from their own inability to decide whether they want to or don't want to quit).
Also, as edit, drugs being "gateways" to harder drugs is another way of shifting responsibility from yourself to mystical juju. I was smoking for my stupid reasons, but never did that "push" me anywhere. I never had thoughts magically popping in my head like "oh... after that cig I suddenly crave some 'whatever' (insert harder drug). That just doesn't happen. There are other reasons people end up doing that, and it's of course easier to put the blame on outside factors, rather then yourself.
You both seem to be genuinely sweet, kind, smart... just good people. You deserve to be happy :)
Of course this is my take on you guys, and it's through youtube and not knowing you personally, so you might be actually horrible... haha :P But I doubt it :>
The 4 movies you listed:
Prayers for Bobby and Boys Don't Cry were amazing, but so horribly sad that I just can't rewatch them.
Trick and Broken Hearts Club were meh for me. Trick was ok-ish, but the 2nd one I really dind't like.
I've seen a few rants on youtube recently (and other media) from people who seem to get prickly over the fact that some people are being offended by what they say. So basically they throw a tantrum about not being able to talk shit ("jokes" for example) without offending people. And they just completely miss the fucking point. (for example: I don't give a shit about a rich white fuck's hurt feelings over not being able to say offensive jokes anymore without some people calling him out on it - jerry seinfeld in this case - if said r.w.f. is only throwing a tantrum about losing one of his million privileges - so basically if you're being called out on your jokes... you're not funny).
Thing is, like most things, if done intelligently, people can use "offensive" words, without being offensive, even if it's not to quote or debate, but just as a joke. (Louis CK springs to mind... he says a lot of offensive stuff, and yet, he manages not to be offensive - at least the stand ups I've seen... so there's that)
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