+Barbie Queues: "My wife and I have found it to be a struggle whenever we go to barbecues. We bring our vegan food, but when all the food is placed on the table, the vegan stuff gets eaten quickly and we are left with the animal-based food which we can't eat! What's the correct etiquette, as I can only eat the plant based food I prepared?"
That is a really
good question, +Barbie Queues
! It's a problem that pretty much every
vegan has faced, but I haven't seen much discussion on it.My
advice is to approach the problem like one would a battle-plan. For me, this mean you'll need to determine your objectives, identify your obstacles, and implement a strategy for which all roads lead to your success.
So, in this case, what you
want is to actually eat
at the BBQ, but to not
be perceived as a jerk-wad by ordering peeps to keep their greasy mitts off of your "special" food, all while possibly engaging in some implicit/subtle advocacy without being "that guy" (i.e. the "vegan preacher"). o.O
The problems you're facing are that you either go hungry because people take your food, or
that you're a big-fat-jerk for protecting your need to eat. =o/
Therefore, (IMHO), your plan needs to include both
the idea that people are absolutely going
to take and eat your food (because the vegan stuff always
goes fast at these things), and that by doing so they will be exposed to how awesome vegan nomz are. Just take it as a given that this is going to happen -- heck, go ahead and encourage
At the same time, you need to hold some food in reserve somewhere. My personal strategy is to bring all the food in a cooler, with a large "publicly available" serving in one container, and with smaller "private use" containers that are clearly marked as being "For YOUR-NAME
Only!" (just in case some helpful passer-by tries to move my food for me).
When it comes time to eat, if there is sufficient food left in the public container, then I eat from that and no one is the wiser; if not, then I joyfully go to be plan B, being careful not to be overly obvious or anything, but being politely candid about things if someone notices and asks. If I do
manage to get to the end of the event with my backup nomz intact, then I'll often ask if anyone would like a take-home portion of "that dish which was so darn popular" (which is always
all gone by then regardless), which has the net effect of additional vegan advocacy. =oD
So far, this approach has been a win-win for me every time.
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