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I don't think it's right to disclose while in heat — that's really a bit of a dick move, 'cause it's taking ~coercive advantage of someone's arousal to get them to do something they might not do if they were sober, and deprives them of better access to information. The last time I had this kind of conversation was while cuddling during a (very nice) second date, which I considered very thoughtful of them.

Herpes is an interesting base case for an STD. It has nearly zero medical impact (with access to modern medicine); about as benign as such things can get. Most people have HSV1 and a pretty large proportion have HSV2. So really, it's all about the purely mental aspects, like stigma and disclosure.

Anyway, interesting article. Go read.

/via Dan Savage
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That was an interesting read. Yeah, maybe it seems like a better time to disclose should be beforehand, guess it depends on when you think things are getting serious enough that they have a chance to go forward.

Lot of different views to take on it too...the idea of having someone say immediately they don't care, especially if they don't understand it, could be taken as wonderful acceptance and open-mindedness, or carelessness. I feel like it's less about her methodology than the fact that she's honest about it.
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