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I have quite given up on ever regularly contributing to my blog.  I'm far too inconsistent of a person, like a bottle rocket.  However, I had a thought this morning that made my food blog seem more practical, not an all or nothing proposition.  It's at leas...
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First of all, this article didn't allow you to comment unless you're a member of Facebook.  Annoying right off the bat.  

I think while "a woman's intuition may be an actual concept as demonstrated by psychological studies, where it crosses the line is when women use it as a trump card to deny black and white evidence.  As a psychotherapist, I can't tell you the hours upon hours that I spend with people while they wend and wind their ways through their irrational beliefs that lead to paranoia, anxiety, and even delusions--men & women, all because they base their lives off of this intuition.  Due to personality differences, women have especially latched onto this notion.

I'm going to take the time to repeat that I am not refuting "women's intuition" as an actual, powerful, and important force.  But for instance, a dog knows when its owner is coming home even if the owner returns sporadically.  This is a real force that we can't explain, certainly powerful, but not full-proof, and neither is ANYONE'S intuition, man or woman.  

I have a relationship with my mother where this causes conflicts all the time.  She recently sent me an e-mail about not flying or being in 9/11 in large urban centers.  My immediate thought was, "Well I wonder how reliable this information is.  Just because it sounds like a conspiracy theory, doesn't mean it's not true.  But it doesn't mean that it is right either".  When my mother called me later in the day she said that my lack of response was indicative that I thought she was "crazy".  She said that she knew that's what I was thinking for a fact.  

I said, "That's not what I thought". Of course, you can read my actual thoughts above.  But she said, "Yes it is". She was of course inferring that she knew that I had had a negative thought about her.  I actually had to repeat back to her about ten times.  I just kept calmly repeating myself, "No that's not what I thought" and she kept repeating back, "Yes, I do know".  I was purposely being calm and repetitive to emphasize the immaturity of her assumptions.  She became annoyed and said, "Have you ever heard of a woman's intuition? We just know." I said, "Maybe, but you can't be certain."

I believe that her intuition was pointing to something real.  It was pointing to the fact that she knows I'm much more evidence-based and empirical in my thinking, something that bothers her.  She thinks that my way of thinking is inferior, and she tells me so.  She also thinks that I devalue intuition when I've clearly told her that I do not.  I just point out it's different pros and cons.  So while her intuition did draw a logical conclusion, it left no possibility that it was wrong this time. And while it may be pointed to larger realities that do exist, it answered a question that wasn't asked and she refused to see that.

A woman's intuition may be powerful and real, but it's not a trump card.  
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Pork Chop!
Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh, the ubiquitous pork chop.  Kicking around in the frozen tundra of the freezer.  Loyally waiting to surrender its duties on Wednesday night.  Fried, sauteed, baked, it's a versatile workhorse in the kitchen.  It's been abused over the deca...
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Don't Labor in Vain
The iconic American hamburger, is there anything that is more quintessential to backyard entertaining? The hot dog? Ribs? Grilled local sustainable vegetables? Certainly not.  I submit to you that it is the burger.  I looked at the date of my last post and ...
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