Being extremely light myself with black curly hair and dark eyes, I grew up with my black family since my dad ran off. He didn't run off because he was white or ashamed. He ran off because my parents were in their teens, not really that compatible to begin with, and he was a stupid 16 year old who didn't understand fatherhood. I hated being called 'black' or 'white' growing up not because of racial shaming, but because I didn't understand the need for labels when I had members on both sides of my family that cared for me equally. My white grandparents were always there for me, just the same as the family on my mother's side and I didn't look/feel like I fit in better with either side just due to my skin color. Biracial kids, in my experience, get asked and harassed (practically bullied) by other kids in school about their race and are told to 'pick one'. I feel as if this is because a lot of children lack the understanding that there can be a middle ground. So yes, a lot of biracial kids who grew up with a multiracial family don't like to be called 'black' or 'white', because to them, it may signify having to choose one parent/side of their family over the other.