"That women are joining in the ongoing disassembling of my appearance is salient. Patriarchy is not men. Patriarchy is a system in which both women and men participate. It privileges, inter alia, the interests of boys and men over the bodily integrity, autonomy, and dignity of girls and women. It is subtle, insidious, and never more dangerous than when women passionately deny that they themselves are engaging in it."
From Ashley Judd's awesome article.
From Ashley Judd's awesome article.
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- It's the idea that women "lose" value with age, because they are primarily valued for their looks. Whereas men "gain" value with age, because of their accumulated wealth. Hollywood plays into this trope all the time - as noted by the fact that the leading men get older while their costars stay the same age...around 25.
While I'm sure there are loving couples where a 20 year age gap exists, it certainly isn't as common as Hollywood portrays it. Data shows that for most people, the average age gap between couples is + or - 5 years.
I think, and this is not an original observation here, that Hollywood shows an astonishing lack of imagination, and I suspect it's because it's run by the simplistic frat-boy mentality that never matured or evolved much past their 20's sense of entitlement and narrow mindedness. Tina Fey has commented on the misogyny by saying that Hollywood labels any woman as crazy if "she keeps talking when no one wants to f**k her anymore."
European films and media venerate women like Kristen Scott Thomas, Julliete Binoche, and Ines de la Fressange. Of course these women are more gorgeous than the average woman; that's part of their career. But they are also allowed to age and be seen as simply gorgeous...not "still" gorgeous.
It would help everyone to see women in the media who were shown as active, interesting people, worthy of respect, without it always boiling down to how they look and how offended the public seems to be when a woman shows up in the media and DARES to be anything but attractive.Apr 9, 2012
- My late mother once told me that as a woman gets older she becomes more and more invisible. Isn't that sad? That is the era that she was raised in. Women have made strides since then. I know some women who seem really old when they are in their 20's. It seems to be how vital, interested, curious, creative and original a woman as to how 'youthful' one can be. It's an inside job. It's breaking the rules that women need to do, and it is a viable concern that female actors get pigeon-holed, that there aren't enough featured 'roles' for middle-aged + women in film and television. Let's create more!Apr 9, 2012
- Lisa W+1This seems relevant in explaining the entitlement complex when it comes to "normalizing" misogyny
It's interesting that this showed up in a "humor" magazine, but the author makes good points. As always, avoid the comments if you want to avoid losing your mind.Apr 9, 2012
- I've had women be total bitches to me, based sometimes on my looks (I am no 'spring chicken', btw), but also because I tend to get attention being tall and most of the time, social and fairly gregarious. It sucks. I do not put up with it, but it still can hurt, or throw you for a loop when you least expect it. I have lost women friends because they were hostile to me when I was just being myself, and they saw me as some threat (to what or whom I do not know).Apr 9, 2012
- Amazing. What a brilliant person.Apr 9, 2012
- I REALLY REALLY DISLIKE HUMANS... ASHLEY ... YOUR BEAUTIFUL ... AND I BE A BIG FAN... BONUS FOR ME..Apr 9, 2012