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Joanna Cale
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Hauntingly beautiful. I'm biased, I love the artists, but this is fantastic. It even challenges Portishead for the ethereal nature of the synth.

Give it a listen. Buy the single.
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Just this.

Just... this.
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Very important.
There's no polite version of this, so here it is in black and white.
If you plan to drink anything at all during the holidays, plan not to drive.
Don't do the maths on "how many" you can have and still be ok to drive. Just don't drink ANYTHING if you plan to drive home.
Get a cab, or have a designated driver.
If you see a (driving) guest drinking, offer a bed. Offer for a sober person to drive them. Offer a couch to sleep on. Offer a floor. Offer to call the cops on them. Threaten to end the friendship. Physically restrain them. Trip them over and sit on them. Steal their keys. Hide their shoes. Slash their tyres if you have to. Whatever, I don't care. This is an instance where I will actually condone these actions to stop them getting behind the wheel.

Speak up, and speak up loudly. We are too polite about this. It needs to be less taboo, especially when you see someone having "just a couple". Make a scene in front of the other guests, if you have to. Be rude about it. Alcohol does not belong with driving.

I lost a relative to a guy who thought he was ok to drive. I wonder whether his friends were too polite to stop him.
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This may be one of the more awesome things I have been pointed in the direction of lately!

See what you think.
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What does it mean? I don't know, I am no philosopher.

Also, I am late to the party, it's been almost two years since this was made and published and only now do I find it. I've had the album in the car for some time now, but I did not know there was a film attached.

Would I be a distorted angel? Doomed to fail and to sacrifice for nothing. A reluctant black Icarus, knowing that the end will be, well, the end and nothing to look forward to? Would I be Preacher, forcing compliance and limited understanding for the greater good? Or one of those in the cubes seeking isolation and safety with no real fulfillment possible or desirable? Maybe the TV interviewer? The blind singer in the opening?

The bell will ring tomorrow...
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Hi, sorry about this.

I'm looking for advice and/or help. See, I'm in my mid to late thirties and I've always pootled along assuming that I am a bog-standard cis male heterosexual with a side-line in embarrassing, secretive cross-dressing. I've always been happy with my plumbing and my massive male privilege but I just can't seem to shake the cross-dressing and all that comes with it.

So, I struggled with this part of me, since about as far back as I can remember, and it wasn't until 2011 that I actually examined that part of me properly. Before then I simply tried to lock it up and ignore it, with varying degrees of failure. This was when I looked into Trans* and began the reading that allowed me to rule out having GID (though exhibiting some of the signs) and it just didn't 'fit' with my feelings about who I am. But then I had a lightbulb moment, maybe a fortnight ago, and am looking at 'genderqueer' as a thing.

I'm not being terribly clear. Basically, I've never really understood nor identified with masculinity (though I've always had a few traits) and always looked for and admired femininity (attempting to emulate where possible) but neither with any degree of consistency.

On learning about genderqueerness as an identity I very nearly exploded with excitement that here was something that actually explained and labelled what I've long felt inside and had remained nameless.

My request is two-fold:

1. Could people recommend some reading on genderqueerness? I've found one or two articles but I am long in the tooth enough to be wary of what I find on searches - I suspect there are people who can offer much better and more nuanced articles than I even know how to search for!

2. As someone who looked into Trans* and decided it didn't tick all the boxes of my experience (that is, I didn't fit the descriptors) I am aware of colonisation. Is there any way to be sure that I'm not just trying to jump on a bandwagon to explain otherwise heteronormative life experiences? The last thing I want to do is appear to trivialise the experiences and journeys of others.

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Mainly for anyone, but of particular interest to +Queen's Pawn ?
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