Why are our own men making us feel this way? Because they are brainwashed by white supremacy and rather than analyze or reject the racist lies, slander and garbage dumped on black women daily by the Caucasian dominated culture that is hate-filled garbage propaganda packaged in the form of so-called studies, surveys, research, statistics, tv shows, films, commercials, music etc. which all serve the purpose of spitting on black women to destroy & demean the black woman. Throughout American history blackness has been vehemently hated, black male slaves who tried to escape were lynched but black women slaves who rebelled or escaped were stripped naked, burned alive and had their burned bodies cut or hacked into pieces. My suggestion reject TV, and most forms of media & advertising. The internet is useful because you can be selective with it. Don't raise your kids on the toxic acid which spews forth from the U.S media culture. Avoid brainwashed people (this includes black males) who are infested with the mindset and ideas of white supremacy and therefore hate black women. Everything published about us is a flat out lie. White women are the filthiest, low-down women on this planet. I don't keep company with fools who try to place black women beneath those harlots. Many of us keep to ourselves the world ain't worth embracing. Don't kow-tow and cater to other races and people through diversity. Calling black women ghetto is just a way to keep you silent and under control while everybody does whatever the hell they want and expect you to lick their boots, worship them clean up behind them and stay beneath them socially. I don't play that game black women should stop playing the game and make your own rules. We are the outsiders than we go our own way follow the truth and become the women God created us to be in His own image. We are superior. No woman holds a candle to us we are the ONLY race of women who have forged civilization and fought wars and rebellions beside men. All other women depend on men as inferiors from a place of subordination. Don't let them break your spirit.