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Positive parenting writer and educator
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    Parenting Writer, 2009 - present
  • Positive Discipline Association
    Certified Parent Educator, 2009 - present
  • Attachment Parenting International
    Positive Discipline Editor & Writer, 2007 - present
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Kelly Bartlett is a parent educator and writer with a focus on child development, family relationships, and discipline. She holds a BA in biology and secondary education as well as two additional certifications as a parent educator with The Positive Discipline Association and a leader with Attachment Parenting International.

She continues her education in parenting research as a way to encourage herself to be the best parent she can be for her own two children, but she writes about what she learns in order to help all parents understand how to find respectful, effective ways to raise kids. Kelly’s articles have been published in parenting magazines all over the world, and she is a regular contributor for Nurture and The Attached Family magazines on the topic of positive discipline.

Kelly is a moderator for an international parenting forum on the topic of discipline, and she blogs about her family's endeavors in positive discipline at Parenting From Scratch.
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Author of "Encouraging Words for Kids," available on Amazon, iTunes, and Barnes & Noble
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Like an iceberg, the bulk of behavior’s “mass” is found below the surface; it is what gives rise to the part that is visible.  Behavior is triggered from feelings, which stem from the more deeply rooted needs of a person. These are not needs like, “I need candy/ I need a new toy/ I need to play video games.” Basic human needs consist of things like autonomy, safety, security, trust, empathy, understanding, adequate sleep and nutrition, a sense of belonging and inclusion, competency, respect, and love.

When a child’s basic needs are met, he feels satisfied, connected, secure, confident. The behavior looks “good.”

If a child’s needs are not met, he may feel insecure, afraid, angry, or detached. The behavior that shows, then, looks to be what we might call “unacceptable” as the child reaches out to try to satisfy these unmet needs. This occurs subconsciously, of course; a child is not able to articulate: “You know mom and dad, I have not felt included in the family since the new baby arrived, nor have I felt respected when I speak, so I’m going to be whiny and belligerent for a while.” His needs are valid; his feelings are valid. But he is misguided in his attempts to rectify them.

What we must do as parents is, in the face of misbehavior, remember that 90% of what is going on is below the surface. We must look deep to ensure the child is getting everything he needs, for behavior builds from there.
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Keep your iPhones, keep your TVs, and keep your video games. Keep reading ebooks (especially this one!). The key lies not in banishment, but in balance. This resource is meant to help parents understand the value of interpersonal connection, as well as the enjoyment of our devices, and to help you find a balance that works for your family.
One day I wrote a post about a time in which my children and I were struggling with screen time. I wrote about how we detoxed. Then one day soon after that post came out, Jane Neslen, author of the...
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What empathy sounds like for our kids' difficult feelings...some examples of how to "sit in the dark" with them.
I love this presentation of Brene Brown speaking about empathy that was turned into an animated clip. Take a look... She speaks about a topic that is so important for everyone, of all ages, but I e...
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Lately I’ve been noticing these small things–habits and practices that I feel play a big role in our family’s well-being. These may or may not be the moments our kids will remember years from now (although I probably will), but I know they matter today, right now. Here are some of the little things we do that have a big impact…
It's the little things that will often become our children's most cherished memories. Those small moments of how we spend our time together are what have the biggest impact long-term. Added up over...
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What exactly does "responding with empathy" mean? Here's a more specific look at empathic responses.
I use the word "empathy" a lot when I'm talking about parenting. Sometimes I forget it might not be entirely clear exactly what is meant by using empathy when communicating with children. When you ...
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There is no right answer for all children, but there is a right answer for your child.
My husband is an expert carp angler. This is unusual in the fly fishing community. Targeting carp, as opposed to the traditionally "pretty" fish like trout or salmon, is a relatively new sport, tho...
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Just like our homes, sometimes the parenting advice we've accumulated over the years needs to be "de-cluttered." Here's how you can keep things simple...
With all of the tools, techniques, strategies, and "fixes" out there, parenting tends to get complicated. It is certainly easy to fill your parenting toolbox (not to mention your email inbox and so...
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So excited for the release of my next ebook, co-written with Jane Nelsen! It gives tips and tools for finding a balance of your family's media use. Spend less time connecting to screens and more time connecting to each other. http://www.kellybartlett.net/books.htm
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Encouraging a child to try new things doesn’t mean taking whatever means necessary to lure him out of his comfort zone. It means strengthening a child’s inner senses of autonomy, confidence, security and resilience for him to be able to step out there on his own.
"How can I encourage my child to try new things?" There is collective agreement among many parents that this can be difficult depending to a child's temperament and overall outgoing-ness. Some chil...
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My article for Green Child Magazine, "Natural Discipline for the Early Years," has over 25,000 pins! Wow!
Understanding the earliest stages of child development will help you figure out a “working with” approach rather than a “doing to” approach to natural discipline.
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How to handle the "NO!"s and tantrums of toddlerhood
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