- Freelance WriterParenting Writer, 2009 - present
- Positive Discipline AssociationCertified Parent Educator, 2009 - present
- Attachment Parenting InternationalPositive Discipline Editor & Writer, 2007 - present
Kelly Bartlett is a parent educator and writer with a focus on child development, family relationships, and discipline. She holds a BA in biology and secondary education as well as two additional certifications as a parent educator with The Positive Discipline Association and a leader with Attachment Parenting International.She continues her education in parenting research as a way to encourage herself to be the best parent she can be for her own two children, but she writes about what she learns in order to help all parents understand how to find respectful, effective ways to raise kids. Kelly’s articles have been published in parenting magazines all over the world, and she is a regular contributor for Nurture and The Attached Family magazines on the topic of positive discipline.
- St. Olaf CollegeBiology, Education
When a child’s basic needs are met, he feels satisfied, connected, secure, confident. The behavior looks “good.”
If a child’s needs are not met, he may feel insecure, afraid, angry, or detached. The behavior that shows, then, looks to be what we might call “unacceptable” as the child reaches out to try to satisfy these unmet needs. This occurs subconsciously, of course; a child is not able to articulate: “You know mom and dad, I have not felt included in the family since the new baby arrived, nor have I felt respected when I speak, so I’m going to be whiny and belligerent for a while.” His needs are valid; his feelings are valid. But he is misguided in his attempts to rectify them.
What we must do as parents is, in the face of misbehavior, remember that 90% of what is going on is below the surface. We must look deep to ensure the child is getting everything he needs, for behavior builds from there.