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Marriage Fitness with Mort Fertel is used by millions of people to save their marriage.
Marriage Fitness with Mort Fertel is used by millions of people to save their marriage.

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Mari Frank is a well-known divorce attorney who hosts a radio show on 88.9FM in Southern California called “Fighting for Your Marriage.”

Amazing, right? A divorce attorney trying to save marriages. I love it!

Anyway, she had me as a guest on her show and we talked for 30 minutes about how to turn your marriage around. We covered some good stuff that might help you. You can listen to the interview here:

www.MortFertel.com/fighting-for-marriage

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Analysis Paralysis: How to unstick your marriage

Do you think a lot about your marriage? Is that an understatement? Is OBSESS more like it?

If you have marriage problems, you probably spend a lot of time and energy THINKING about your circumstances. You've probably analyzed your spouse, your marriage, and what happened to your relationship from every possible angle.

And the chances are good that others have weighed-in on your situation too. Have you discussed your problems with a friend, a family member, or a counselor?

An astute analysis of your relationship can be helpful. It sometimes leads to problem-solving ideas that work.

Talking about your situation can be helpful too. Most people find it therapeutic.

But sometimes the problem with thinking and talking about your marriage so much is that it becomes a substitute for DOING SOMETHING. Analyzing your marriage can be productive, but if you want change, there's nothing like taking ACTION.

I once did a series of private phone sessions for someone who had been in therapy for over a year. In our first session, I asked what changes she and her husband implemented since beginning therapy. She said, "Well, no real changes. But I understand our problems much better."

I call that "analysis paralysis."

The great philosopher Socrates said, "The unexamined life is not worth living." This is very true. But the unlived life is not worth examining!

THOUGHT and ACTION are like husband and wife. If you're missing one, you can't have a marriage.

Rigorous thinking gives rise to intelligent action. And action gives critical feedback for further thought. Ultimately, it's the combination of the two that leads to clarity and a changed marriage.

Love is articulated in the vocabulary of ACTION. New thoughts and new words are useful when they inspire you to DEMONSTRATE new behavior.

If you're ready to think differently about your marriage and act in a way that will create demonstrative change in your relationship, register for the Marriage Fitness Tele-Boot Camp. It's a 7-week program.

The Marriage Fitness Tele-Boot Camp will provoke a whole new way of THINKING about your marriage, AND, it will inspire you and guide you to new ACTIONS that will transform your relationship. Are you ready for that? If you said "yes," you can get more information and details by visiting:
www.MortFertel.com/Marriage-Tele-Boot-Camp

If you and your spouse are ready to work on your marriage TOGETHER, then register for the Duo Track. Otherwise, you want the Lone Ranger Track, where you'll learn how to inspire your spouse to join you in an effort to renew your marriage. For more info about either the Duo Track or the Lone Ranger Track, go to:
www.MortFertel.com/Marriage-Tele-Boot-Camp

Are you concerned about the cost of flights and transportation? Don't worry about it. This is a TELE experience. You do the entire program from the comfort of your home (or office). All you need is a telephone and a CD player. For details about how this works, go to:
www.MortFertel.com/Marriage-Tele-Boot-Camp

If you can't wait until the next boot camp begins or if you don't have 7 weeks to turn things around, then order...
MARRIAGE FITNESS HOME-FLEX
A 9-Phase interactive multi-sensory relationship-changing self-guided system that gives you everything you need to transform your marriage. And the best news is . . . you get it all tomorrow! For more information or to order, go to:
www.MortFertel.com/Home-Flex

If you need help with your marriage, at the very least get yourself the MARRIAGE FITNESS AUDIO LEARNING PROGRAM. It's a 5 CD starter/budget program that you'll find to be an invaluable guide to renewing your marriage. For more info or to order, go to:
www.MortFertel.com/Audio-Program

Lastly, and I mean this, if you need marriage help but prefer to seek it elsewhere, feel free to ask me and I'd be happy to refer you to other competent sources. This is not about me. It's about YOUR MARRIAGE. And if you're reading this, the chances are very good that you need some external guidance. It's EXTREMELY RARE for a couple to successfully work through their marital problems by themselves. You need help! Take ACTION to get it. If you want me to help you, go here:
www.MortFertel.com/Marriage-Tele-Boot-Camp
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Do you like documentaries?

This one might interest you. Filmmakers Toroes Thomas and Blayre Pichon, from Out the Box Productions, made a documentary that chronicles people in marriage crisis.

The film is called Back from the Brink.

Enjoy!

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Do you know what happens after you plant the seed of a Chinese Bamboo Tree?

Nothing. That's right. Absolutely nothing. For 4 years after planting the seed of this tree you get no satisfaction other than a tiny shoot coming out of a bulb. Must be something wrong, right? A still birth or stunted growth. A bad seed maybe.

If you didn't know about the growth patterns for this tree, you'd think that all your efforts to plant and cultivate were useless.

But, in fact, what's happening all the time is that underneath the ground there's a massive root structure that's forming. You can't see it, but it's there and it's HUGE. Then, in the 5th year, the Chinese Bamboo Tree grows and grows and grows, sometimes up to EIGHTY FEET tall!

Marriages sometimes grow like Chinese Bamboo Trees.

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Do you know Aesop's fable about the goose and the golden eggs? Let me share it with you and use it to teach you how to save your marriage.

The fable is about a poor farmer who discovers that his goose is laying golden eggs.

At first the farmer thinks it must be a trick. But when he gets the eggs appraised, he learns that they're pure gold!

The farmer can't believe it. And he gets even more excited when he realizes the goose is laying golden eggs EVERYDAY. Eventually, the farmer becomes fabulously wealthy.

But the farmer tires of caring for the goose and waiting day after day for the golden eggs. So he decides to kill the goose and get all the golden eggs at once. But when he opens the goose, there are no golden eggs. And now the goose is gone too.

What’s does this have to do with learning how to save your marriage?

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Emotional Infidelity: You don't have to sleep with someone to be unfaithul.

When Chrissy Redden set her sights on an Olympic gold medal, she gave up a promising senior management position in the food industry to train full-time. As she trained to qualify for the 2000 Olympics, a fan questioned the Canadian mountain biker's sacrifice. "Why do so many Olympic athletes sacrifice their careers, education, and future livelihoods for a chance at the gold?" he asked. "I just can't imagine giving up all that!"
It's a good question, isn't it? Why do athletes sacrifice, endure pain, push their bodies beyond their limits, and pass up other opportunities? The answer: they want to! And why do they want to? BECAUSE IT'S WORTH IT.

How does this relate to emotional infidelity?

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Are you depressed? Is your spouse depressed? Do one of you THINK the other is depressed?

I recently had a series of phone sessions with a woman named Regina (name changed) who lives in Canada. I asked Regina what her husband thinks is the problem with their marriage. She explained, "Ted says that the problem with our marriage is that I’m depressed. He thinks if I wasn’t depressed, we’d be fine. And so it’s up to me."

It IS common for depression to accompany marital strife. But what causes one spouse to be depressed?

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You have some changes you’d like to see in your spouse and your marriage, right? And if I were a betting man, I'd guess your spouse has some ideas too!

So what are you waiting for? Are you waiting for your spouse to make the first move? Are you waiting to feel love?

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When it comes to your marriage, I would say, "You are what you do." In other words, how you and your spouse spend your time determines the strength of your marriage. Spend it together and you'll feel connected. Do your own thing too often and you might sleep in the same bed, but you'll feel worlds apart.

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Are you a hedgehog or a fox? Bet you never thought about it. But it's an important question to answer if you want to know how to save your marriage. Keep reading, I'll explain why and I'll help you figure out which you are.

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