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Marty Tousley, RN MS FT DCC
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A reader writes: My daughter is 16. Her brother was 17 when he was killed three months ago. As we live where there is no other family she had to be the second one to identify his body. She won't talk. It's like he never existed. I have tried getting her to counseling but she isn't interested. The counselor told me to just be here for her when she needs me and that she is taking her cues from me. But I am really worried that if she bottles this up it will compound later on. I'm not so sure I am right. Can you shed some light please? http://bit.ly/2lqSk9v

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Marianne Monson: "Dying is some of the hardest work I know. The body, accustomed to raging against the waning light for so long, doesn’t know it’s time to stop now. Like a clenched muscle that refuses to release, the emergency has long passed by, though the body will not believe it." http://bit.ly/2ldHfv0

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In grief, denial is an important protective mechanism that helps us to manage our feelings and to give us moments away from our pain. http://bit.ly/2kKZFD1

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Whether struggling with an animal companion's chronic illness, facing a decision about euthanasia, or mourning the loss of a cherished pet, you may be shocked and overwhelmed by the intensity of your reactions. http://bit.ly/2jUdwmJ

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Bill Jenkins: "Spend 24 hours in my shoes as a victim of gun violence and I guarantee you will never look at guns the same way again." http://bit.ly/2kFRGFn

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A reader writes: "This is not about grieving electoral results, but my grief is interfering with everything and I am scared to lose dear friends. I cried last night because I acknowledge this attitude is wrong and although I understand where it all comes from -- my loss -- I don't know what to do. I am mad at a world and a life that has failed me because my boyfriend died. I understand his death changed me, but I am scared that I am changed for the worst." http://bit.ly/2jhk8P2

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"Many people ask me, What’s it really like being re-married? My widow(er) friends want to know if I’m as happy as I was in my first marriage, if I compare my two husbands, why I’d risk being a widow again, and most importantly, if my new husband is understanding." http://bit.ly/2jqY1WP

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"Society often shies away from the topic of grief. It’s not until you’ve lost someone that you realize how much we’re collectively in denial about this emotion - an emotion that nurses have to deal with on a regular basis. Marty Tousley generously shares her experience from her time as a grief counselor at a hospice, as well as compiling other web resources. Essential reading for the bereaved, or those who have to offer support to the grieving" http://bit.ly/2iY0YvD

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If this is your first encounter with someone in mourning, you are wise to do some reading about the grief experience, and to let go of some of the harmful myths you may have heard about grief and healing. http://bit.ly/2iUuliM

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If you know someone whose loved one is terminally ill, you may be wondering what you might do to help ease their burden. http://bit.ly/2iAooJM
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