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Dread spending time with your family or partner? Ever feel their words and actions don’t match? Does spending time together make you feel unbalanced and maybe even question your sanity?
You could be dealing with emotional abuse.

Check out our free Abuse Dictionary to learn how to look for the hidden messages and how to cope.
https://bitly.com/abuse-dictionary
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Today is International Read an Ebook Day! And we, well, have an ebook that we think you'd like. It's called Bodies in the Basement by Aubrey Cole.

Aubrey says, "This collection comprises over two years of my writing for a support site I started years after I had finally ended my marriage. I promised myself at the time that I would keep the writing raw, so that others having the same experiences could feel that I was able to truly understand them, for so few people do." Click the link below to purchase your copy today.

http://swanwaters.com/shop/#BIB
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Are you having trouble with negative people in your life? People who want to bring you down or keep you from being your happiest, healthiest self? We can help you out with that. Click the link below to join us in our free Facebook group for support. www.facebook.com/groups/SwanWaters
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Our friend Kit Kennedy wrote this amazing and practical piece for anyone asking tough questions about whether or not a group they're in is unhealthy. Click the link below to read.

https://kitkennedy.com/2018/09/06/how-do-i-know-if-im-in-a-cult/
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In this week's Pint-Sized Healing Podcast, Mags and Carrie talk about the way toxic people use guilt to manipulate targets, and why we need learn to see this abusive tactic for what it is. Click the following link to listen: https://anchor.fm/swanwaters
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For your convenience and reading pleasure: here's a round-up of everything we've shared this week. Happy Sunday! http://swanwaters.com/sunday-round-up/

#mentalhealthmatters #toxicrelationships #narcissisticabuse #mentalabuse #redflags #healyourself #selfcareisntselfish #swanlove #selfhelp
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Some days it is hard to quiet the voices in your own head. On those days, your fellow survivors can be an amazing source of support! Join us on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/SwanWaters/

#toxicrelationships #narcissisticabuse #mentalabuse #domesticviolence #swanlove #youarenotalone
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Let’s just call this whole abuse recovery experience exactly what it is: massive suckage. Seems like you no sooner get past one thing and life is looking up, then something else happens to knock you back down.
People are so quick with the trite responses like, “Oh, it’ll get better” or “You were married to him, it can’t be that horrible.” What people who have never experienced abuse recovery don’t understand is that it isn’t just about having a bad day or bad luck. It’s the ongoing experience of a person who once claimed to love you, whether partner or parent, intentionally doing whatever they can to keep you in crisis.

We hear so many things about an “attitude of gratitude” and staying positive.

So let me start by saying that the positive we will consider here is not some perky-pants denial accompanied by a chirpy, “Oh, I’m fine!” Why? You aren’t fine.

You are still being targeted and fending off random attacks, whether actively or in the form of mental tapes replaying in your head. What we are talking about is a matter of focus, not denial, and is not to be used as a comparison to others. Comparing your situation to someone else is the poorest way to try to “stay positive” because your reality is your reality.  Yes, your neighbor may have cancer and you’re healthy, but it doesn’t lessen your experience. A few techniques I’ve found for staying positively focused are: http://swanwaters.com/3-ways-to-stay-positive/

#toxicrelationships #narcissisticabuse #mentalabuse #domesticviolence #sexualabuse #spiritualabuse #psychologicalabuse #verbalabuse #redflags #domestcviolenceawareness #domesticabuse #healyourself #endbullying #bullying #healingjourney #selfawareness #abuse #selfcareisntselfish #swanlove #wholeness #toxicpeople #fakepeople #narcissist #selfhelp #mylifemyway #youarenotalone #howtobehappy #wordsthatinspire #beautifullybroken #emotionalhealth
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"This cycle of abuse can confuse the victims, particularly kids, because they feel that something is wrong, but can’t find a solution."

Read more on the link between narcissistic abuse and anxiety disorders here: http://runwonder.com/news/scientists-found-that-anxiety-disorders-are-linked-to-narcissistic-abuse.html
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Keep this one at the top of the to do list, but don't confuse happiness for euphoria. Happiness is much more quiet and often hides in places you never thought to look! Need help on the search? Join us on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/SwanWaters/
#happiness #happy #swanlove #healyourself
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