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I read Reddit and on the disability forum someone posted the question "That moment where you realise that because of your disability, you'll never..." Their answer was quite heart wrenching. I didn't edit it. "Likely have a decent, well-paying job in any field.Be able to approach people, make meaningful and lasting friendships, and not have people look down on you because everyone thinks you're mentally challenged thanks to being pretty much maimed when...you're not Buy a house Have a significant other, raise a family, have anyone EXCEPT creepers and losers interested in you.These realizations. I'm having them. I wish this would have come at 20 and not at 29 when I could have probably dealt with the disappointment better."

Among the comments among other readers, "It's not impossible.I do it all the time, people who aren't disabled can have these issues as well.I will eventually.I may marry and start a family with my current girlfriend whom by no means is a creeper or a loser; no more than I am anyway.There are many goals that are now unobtainable through a conventional route but I do not plan to ever let that stop me. We're just as capable as everyone else."

I finally realized I wouldn't be able to work fulltime or even part time significantly outside of the home because I'm ill for a month every six months or less. I have a terrible immune system. Employers need people who can be at work and there just aren't enough sick days available. This leaves me feeling stuck at home and poor.

What is your answer to the Redditor's question?
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I don't know that I can answer this... I get trapped in the whole "comparing" thing and then run into the privilege I incur by way of having a disability "closet" available.

At the same time, I didn't want to let this pass uncommented, if only to tell you that I read it, it affected me, and I appreciate the fact that you posted this.
 
It is difficult to answer. It is a very complex issue and one reason being is how a person's feelings change over time.
 
Absolutely. And there's the whole perception / identification thing around the language, itself. "Is what's atypical about me a disability_"? Whilst in my case, what is "atypical" about me may be covered by the ADA (which is about as near as I come to really having a definition for "disability" because, really... we _all have limitations, and things we can't do the way other people can, don't we?), I don't really consider it a disability, at least... not exactly. It's more... a set of behaviours, requirements to facilitate learning and other traits that a lot of other people seem to have issues with and would really prefer were more like them. But, then, I have a lot of emotional baggage and damage around my atypicality (is that a word?) and probably haven't unpacked nearly as much of it as I should.
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